
Monsters in Love
Why Your Partner Sometimes Drives You Crazy–and What You Can Do About It
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A gritty, down-to-earth guide for real-life couples
Conflict is a natural part of any intimate relationship. Yet most couples either avoid it or try to smooth over their differences. This often results in at least one partner compromising their integrity—and stunting their own growth.
Monsters in Love challenges the idea that conflict between partners is unhealthy or something to avoid. Instead, it encourages both people to stand by what they need and who they are—but to do so with compassion rather than competitiveness or vengefulness.
This book is about the reality of committed, intimate relationships, which are designed to inspire both people to grow up. It challenges some common misperceptions about what makes for a successful partnership. It also rocks the boat of psychotherapy, calling out therapists who don't bring their best to their clients.
Instead of comforting fantasies or false promises, Monsters in Love offers you and your partner a chance to make your relationship-and your lives—much bigger and more emergent.
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- Faheem Lea
- 02-24-25
Embrace the heat!
“The things that create conflict for you and your lover are the very things the two of you need to lean into, because they’re tied to your integrity. Your conflict needs to cook—and you can’t cook without heat.”
This quote here sums up this very informative book of how to deal with your partner; most times we overlook and avoid the difficult parts. Dr. Resmaa Menakem gives practical solutions-along with actual cases-of how to enjoy the “monster” that you are in love with, part of which is identifying your own monster! A great read!
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- Fayette Latrice
- 09-07-23
Absolutely loved this book!
So good I’m gonna listen for a second time! I highly wish Resmaa had narrated the book but it was still phenomenal and taught me so much.
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- --dee
- 04-26-23
Great approach. Original content. Real.
This is a really good read. The overall style of this book gives to alot of real self reflection and inner-honesty. There is alot of methodological science behind the explanations of all discussed content. Just reading this will make you “grow up”. If you want relationship therapy in a book, this is it!
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- Lance
- 07-19-23
Words to Feeling
Thank you for helping me find the words, within me, to best describe my feelings. I now have a better way to express myself.
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- ya-awa p.
- 01-18-24
So informative
I loved this book. It was real and relatable and so many helpful tips to help be a better partner and better understand your partner.
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- Justin Terrell
- 10-01-24
This book changed this monster.
This is hands down the most helpful relationship advice I have ever gotten. It is powerful to discover agency when relationships get toxic. Agency is far more important in the healing process than all the other stuff we try.
this is a great read.
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- carli
- 04-27-23
Not what I was expecting.
narration was not that good would have been better off read by the author. sound like a robot was reading the entire thing which made it hard to listen to.
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