
"Mom, I'm Gay": Revised and Expanded Edition
Loving Your LGBTQ Child and Strengthening Your Faith
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Susan Cottrell
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This critically acclaimed, go-to book for parents is now available in audio format!
When your child reveals that he or she is attracted to the same sex, how you respond may have a lot to do with your faith. Doesn't the Bible say that's wrong? Will we have to leave our church? Worst of all, you may wonder, "Do I have to choose between my Christian faith and my child?"
Susan Cottrell is a mom who has been there and wants you to know that loving and accepting your gay child does not mean abandoning or even compromising your faith. This is not a book about the politics or morality of homosexuality. This is a book about how to respond with love and support during this vulnerable time for your child. With practical advice and heartfelt encouragement, Cottrell guides listeners through the fear and uncertainty Christian parents of LGBTQ children often feel.
©2014, 2016 Westminster John Knox Press; Susan Cottrell (P)2020 Susan CottrellListeners also enjoyed...
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What listeners say about "Mom, I'm Gay": Revised and Expanded Edition
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- Davepl
- 04-22-22
I want to understand my mom's viewpoint.
as an older gay man that did not consider my mom's feelings, I want to seek to understand how she was feeling when I came out at an early age.
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- Jen SluMac
- 10-13-20
This Book Will Save Lives
My entire life I have longed for spaces that embrace both my faith and my sexuality. Easier said than done.
Susan has written a book that will help so many parents and families make this uncharted journey through loving their LGBTQ child, and growing in faith while doing it.
Reading this book was healing for me. Thank you, Susan!
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- 02-27-23
Not helpful
Do not recommend for parents of gay children. May work for parents of trans but not sure.
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- Geneva N.
- 08-10-22
Would not recommend this book
This book is written from the view point that God does not condemn homosexuality and that listening for what he tells us as individuals trumps what is said in God's word. The leading of the Holy Spirit never ever contradicts scripture. Very disappointed with the biblical content or lack thereof. I would not recommend this book.
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- Ty
- 06-13-21
Tainted
Be bless will not offer this book anyone. U love to child not to accept the sin.
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