
It's Up to You
The Practice of Self-Reflection on the Buddhist Path
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Pema Chödrön
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Dzigar Kongtrul
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On the spiritual path we speak of enlightenment. But how do we reconcile the idea of enlightenment with what we see when we look in the mirror - when insecurities, doubts, and self-centered tendencies arise in our minds? Dzigar Kongtrül suggests that we need not feel "doomed" when these experiences surface. In fact, such experiences are not a problem if we are able to simply let them arise without judging them or investing them with so much meaning. This approach to experience is what Kongtrül calls self-reflection.
Self-reflection is a practice, a path, and an attitude. It is the spirit of taking an interest in that which we usually try to push away. When we practice self-reflection we take liberation into our own hands and accept the challenge and personal empowerment in Kongtrül's title: it's up to you.
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- Debra Saturday
- 12-08-22
Thank you !
This was exactly what I needed to hear and learn. And may all beings be free from suffering and the causes of suffering
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- lynda
- 05-27-24
Really enjoyed this book.
Really explained our human conditions simply and without shame, sharing examples and solutions on a very intimate level. I have read it several times and will continue to read it along my journey. Very encouraging.
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- Mal B
- 11-09-21
Every sentence is the path!
Loved every remarkable moment. Pema brings her whole heart into his teaching.
It would be impossible not to continually transform upon completion of each chapter!
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- Tom Gallagher
- 06-25-23
An excellent read by an inspired reader
This a fantastic piece of the. dharma. So clear and beautiful. I recommend it to all
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- Vajra Lokeshavarya
- 02-15-21
Great Dharma Book!
I have listened to this book over and over for months and assume I will continue to learn from it years into the future.
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- Anonymous User
- 02-13-20
Profound teaching
Profound teaching that I will need to listen to many times to continue absorbing the lessons.
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- George R.
- 08-06-18
full of useful advice
Dzigar Kongtrul does a nice job of laying out common sense steps to spiritual liberation. Pema Chodron reading the book was as added bonus.
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- Joe Leiman
- 04-14-19
perfectly inspiring, the heart of Buddhism
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- Kindle Customer
- 07-05-18
One of the best books I've read so far.
Pema Chodron and I think her teachers, what a great book! She said it! You must do your work said the Buddha. The Tathagatas only teach the way. "It is up to you". Immortality or $ ???
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- Louise Johnson
- 11-06-23
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What a benefit to have Pema Chodron speaking to the wisdom of Dzigar Kongtrul. It is an inspiration to focus on self-reflection.
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