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  • I Used to Like You Until...

  • (How Binary Thinking Divides Us)
  • By: Kat Timpf
  • Narrated by: Kat Timpf
  • Length: 6 hrs and 4 mins
  • 4.6 out of 5 stars (138 ratings)

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I Used to Like You Until...

By: Kat Timpf
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In this whip-smart follow-up to the “ruthlessly honest exploration of comedy and cancellation” (Dr. Drew) You Can’t Joke About That, New York Times bestselling author Kat Timpf examines the dangers of binary thinking, and how it threatens to take over our institutions, relationships, and even our freedoms.

For some reason, when it comes to complex issues, we’ve largely limited ourselves to just two options, resulting in a society of non-thinkers. After all, once you’ve picked a side, all the thinking has already been done for you. As an independent, libertarian voter who has spent the last ten years at Fox News, Kat has faced this issue too many times to count. She’s learned that surprising things can happen when you refuse to choose a team, especially when you work at a place some people call an existential threat to America.

Binary thinking is much more than just the enemy of critical thinking, it’s also an immediate danger to our political discourse, our institutions, our way of consuming news, our relationships, our creativity, and even to our freedoms. All too often, we will let a single difference in viewpoint, an assumption, or an association be enough to write off another person entirely, even if we know nothing else about them. We miss out on opportunities to connect or even collaborate, all while the people in power over us benefit from our division.

Through humorous examples from her own life and insight only someone in her bizarre position can possess, Kat reminds us that the world doesn’t have to be so black and white. In her signature witty voice, Kat inspires us to lean into thoughtful consideration, genuine conversation, vulnerability, and only hating people when they really deserve it.

©2024 Kat Timpf (P)2024 Simon & Schuster Audio
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To the high and mighty

This book is simply a masterclass for respect and common decency. It powerfully disassembles binary thinking in an entertaining and thoughtful manner.

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Refreshing perspective and advice

Thank you Kat for being open, vulnerable and transparent. You gave me a lot to ponder. I always enjoy hearing your perspective on the Gutfield show. Getting to hear a whole book of your views was refreshing and informative. Thank you for encouraging us to get out of our narrow, binary boxes!

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Kat’s Honesty

What an incredibly honest, raw, truthful life exposure of Kat Timpf! Kat is an amazing respectable human being whose book is captivating and entertaining. She presents a refreshing way of capturing our attention with her thoughtful well researched points of view. You are a gift that blesses us with an ‘open book’ to learn, listen and contemplate to improve our relationships and make an our world kinder. Thanks Kat for being YOU!

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Kat delivers again

I loved the journey Kat takes in this book. She talks a lot about her personal experience with religion, love, family, friends, and of course politics. It's funny, takes both sides to task over rhetoric and devisiveness (as a any libratarian should), and reminds the reader/listener that really we all need to remember were all individuals apart from our ideals.

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Kat is my soulmate..

Her approach to most everything mirrors my own and it love that she is so willing to say what needs to be said, that there are other options and opinions than just what mainstream media wants you to hear. Humor can help with so much and it makes things easier to "swallow" but for me,in the middle and libertarian, with a little l, an independent thinkers who dosen't want or need others to think for me, but does not have a national platform to say what I want to say, this book sums many thoughts up very nicely.

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She Shares from Her Heart

Great book. I really liked 99 %. you can't agree on everything. Big R.

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Goes too far. . . ‘

I I USED TO LIKE YOU UNTIL… (HOW BINARY THINKING DIVIDES US) Kat Timpf 2024


A well written book, beautifully read by the author & quite encouraging; but I disagree with the premise that all division is, in itself, wrong or not to be desired, while agreeing that many divisions are unnecessary & can be avoided.

Binary thinking is major, important, necessary part of our thought processes & our instincts; we make binary decisions constantly; I agree that in many cases, when binary thinking is not appropriate, it causes unnecessary problems; but she goes too far…

I empathize with her unique appreciation of drag queens , but she is a genuinely beautiful woman without all the fake stuff that FNC seems to add. (One of the things that bothers me about FNC is the degree of phoniness in visual appearance that they find necessary; serious { & comedic } reporters & commentators do not need to look like models; I’d rather hear the real news from real people; ¿how can I trust what they say if the presentation is so phony?)
Transvestism is dishonest, perverse & a mockery of real beauty.

“There are 10 kinds of people, those who understand binary & those who don’t.”
(an old joke)

“Binary thinking divides us.” is true; ¿but are all divisions wrong/evil/to be avoided?
Some issues ARE binary (truth/lies, male/female, good/evil, yes/no, right/wrong, living/dead, on/off;
Sometimes a truth teller is obliged to correct a lie; God made people in His image, male & female; Christ has given us His law, in writing & in our hearts (some actions are clearly good & some are clearly evil.)

I would agree that people are often unnecessarily divided by inappropriate “binary thinking.” But I would insist that a lack of division is not a valid goal. Rather that some divisions are good, or more importantly, real.

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Enlightening

Kat is a great writer. I enjoyed her candidness and message of unity we should be striving for. Great book!!!

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Be careful with you ask for, experience

I hope Kat keeps a diary of her first year as a mother. That would make a great follow up

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very smart & made me really think about my own biases

The fact that this was read by the author made this even more compelling, I think this book should be required reading/listening for all College Freshman and maybe the world will be a better place in just a decade!

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