
How to Be Dateable
The Essential Guide to Finding Your Person and Falling in Love
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Narrated by:
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Julie Krafchick
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Yue Xu
About this listen
As creators and hosts of the hit dating podcast Dateable, Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu have made breaking down the nuances of the ever-evolving dating world and empowering the people within it their purpose and passion. Drawing on a decade’s worth of research from speaking to thousands of daters and world-renowned experts, Julie and Yue have learned what it takes to find love in today’s dating world. In How to Be Dateable, they’ll show you how to take control of your love life and focus on the levers that actually get you results.
Starting with a personalized dating archetypes quiz, this book will give you a richer understanding of your core dating strengths and how to turn around the obstacles that are keeping you from meeting the right people. You will discover how to:
-Feel more optimistic about finding love
-Choose partners who are aligned with your values
-Prioritize what’s in your control and release what’s not
-Date your way to find the right relationship for you
Written with the knowledge of experts and the warmth of a wise best friend, How to Be Dateable will give you a dating life that can ultimately help you find the I-can’t-believe-this-was-possible type of relationship you deserve.©2024 Julie Krafchick (P)2025 Simon & Schuster Audio
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- Julia
- 02-04-25
The real deal for dating today!
It was like listening to all the best parts of the Dateable podcast over the last 5 years in one place. People, this is dating advice GOLD!! These ladies helped to change my entire experience of not only dating over the last few years, but also how I approach friendships, co workers, my clients, family, myself. The advice in this book is truly what we all need these days to get past all the dating games, and start to show up as who we really are, unafraid to attract what we really want in a partner. So, so good.
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- Dalia Arent
- 02-10-25
best dating book ever
I've been dating for years and if this book had been around when I started it would have saved me so much wasted time and effort.
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