
Give & Take
The Secret to Marital Compatibility
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Wayne Shepherd
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Describes the difficulties of marital negotiation, how to overcome selfish responses, how to resolve ordinary conflicts, and how to cultivate mutual respect.
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- Luxor
- 11-26-23
Sexiest and outdated
The book/ premise need a desperate update. Sexist ideas and references. Very Cis hetero male centered.
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- Amazon Customer
- 08-28-21
Self improvement vs matrimonial improvement
Good information overall but most of the book is more self improvement and self communication as a part of a union. Some chapters, especially near the end, provided very effective relationship improvement suggestions.
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