
Finding My Father
His Century-Long Journey from World War I Warsaw and My Quest to Follow
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Deborah Tannen
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Deborah Tannen
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A number one New York Times best-selling author traces her father’s life from turn-of-the-century Warsaw to New York City in an intimate memoir about family, memory, and the stories we tell.
"An accomplished, clear-eyed, and affecting memoir about a man who is at once ordinary and extraordinary." (Forward)
Long before she was the acclaimed author of a groundbreaking book about women and men, praised by Oliver Sacks for having "a novelist’s ear for the way people speak," Deborah Tannen was a girl who adored her father. Though he was often absent during her childhood, she was profoundly influenced by his gift for writing and storytelling. As she grew up and he grew older, she spent countless hours recording conversations with her father for the account of his life she had promised him she’d write. But when he hands Tannen journals he kept in his youth, and she discovers letters he saved from a woman he might have married instead of her mother, she is forced to rethink her assumptions about her father’s life and her parents’ marriage.
In this memoir, Tannen embarks on the poignant, yet perilous, quest to piece together the puzzle of her father’s life. Beginning with his astonishingly vivid memories of the Hasidic community in Warsaw, where he was born in 1908, she traces his journey: from arriving in New York City in 1920 to quitting high school at 14 to support his mother and sister, through a vast array of jobs, including prison guard and gun-toting alcohol tax inspector, to eventually establishing the largest workers’ compensation law practice in New York and running for Congress. As Tannen comes to better understand her father’s - and her own - relationship to Judaism, she uncovers aspects of his life she would never have imagined.
Finding My Father is a memoir of Eli Tannen’s life and the ways in which it reflects the near century that he lived. Even more than that, it’s an unflinching account of a daughter’s struggle to see her father clearly, to know him more deeply, and to find a more truthful story about her family and herself.
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Critic reviews
“The ultimate recognition of her father’s painful need for connection is searing, the depiction of the Jewish community in World War I-era Warsaw riveting. Not only does Ms. Tannen’s heartfelt portrait keep her father - and his memories - alive, but her story also hints at the undiscovered currents that may await us, too, if we but delve beneath the surface of our own family myths.” (The Wall Street Journal)
“[A] tender-hearted paean.” (Publishers Weekly)
“Drawing on abundant sources, sociolinguist [Deborah] Tannen creates a loving biography of her father, who indelibly shaped her life.... A generous and empathetic portrait.” (Kirkus Reviews)
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- R.S.
- 07-13-23
Homage to family and memory
This memoir of a father and mother and their distinct personalities using the journals, conversations and letters the author’s father conferred , to her. Is a marvel of biographical writing. There is much to learn about family dynamics and the imperfections of love and ambition here.
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- Simmy
- 06-15-21
Love Tanen’s other books but not this
Very disappointing and boring. Fans of her other works will probably not like this one .
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