
35 Dumb Things Well-Intended People Say
Surprising Things We Say That Widen the Diversity Gap
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Maura Cullen
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Even well-intended people can cause harm!
Have you ever heard yourself or someone else say: "Some of my best friends are...(Black, White, Asian, etc.)"? or "I don't think of you as...(Gay, Disabled, Jewish, etc.)"? or "I don't see color, I'm colorblind"? These statements and dozens like them can build a divide between us and the people we interact with. Though well-intended, they often widen the diversity gap sometimes causing irreparable harm personally and professionally.
If you've ever wanted to be more effective in your communication with others, or have been afraid of saying the wrong thing, then this concise guide is essential to becoming more inclusive and diversity-smart.
A powerful diversity training tool from one of the most respected diversity trainers.
©2008 Dr. Maura Cullen (P)2014 Brilliance Audio, all rights reserved.Listeners also enjoyed...
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Imagine you are talking to someone, and suddenly, you jump into another topic or do not hear carefully; the opposite person will assume you are arrogant or bored talking to them. This creates a very negative impact on their mind.
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- Christina Arellano
- 01-30-19
INCREDIBLE
I think this should be required reading for every human, especially those in leadership positions.
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- Dan
- 12-14-20
Excellent entry-level on diversity & inclusion
I thought the author did an excellent job of highlighting potential common pitfalls people encounter in dealing with diversity and inclusion issues. Her examples are excellent and very relatable. The material is, in my opinion, largely non-controversial; most of what she covers is common sense. I don't mean that to suggest it is not insightful or is useless, I mean it in the sense that, unlike with many other books on the D&I topic, I did not find myself arguing with the author over controversial points. I had a hard time imagining anyone but the most determined anti-D&I listener disagreeing with most of the book. As a bonus, the book is relatively short; many books that are 3-4x longer start to get repetitive, that wasn't a problem here.
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- Margie N.
- 06-04-23
Great listen.
It was educational and taught me some errors I have been making. A little older book; but still very valid in todays times.
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