Relationship Loss

Grief isn't always the result of something finite, marking a death or complete end. Soul-shattering grief can also be activated by a dramatic shift in an important relationship, such as a divorce or significant breakup, a life-changing medical diagnosis, or a broken connection with an addicted child. How do we grieve people who are still alive, but no longer who they once were to us? Most people will experience this type of traumatic event over the course of their lifetime, yet the complications of these situations often leave grievers feeling alienated or ashamed.

Separating or divorcing a narcissist or someone who has narcissistic traits can be a difficult, draining experience. This book is written for the spouse of such a personality to support them step by step through the legal process, as well as through the difficult emotional journey that they'll be undertaking. It will help you recognize narcissistic behavior, prime you on what challenges lie ahead, and provide practical insights on how to survive the process. It will also help you work with your lawyer so you can both understand the potential pitfalls.

Letting go of someone you love from a death, divorce, or a breakup can be one of the hardest things you will ever do. To avoid more pain, you may be holding onto things that no longer serve you or avoiding it altogether. When you let go of things, it doesn't mean your loss is now "okay". Instead, it means you are going to be okay.

The Wound Makes the Medicine is Lighthorse’s deepest and most personal work yet. A series of healing remedies in thought and prose, the book centers on the internal challenges of suffering and offers affirmations for being with pain rather than avoiding it. The Wound Makes the Medicine helps create conditions for change within, without forcing or expecting transformation.

Want to learn more about caring for someone at end of life? Discover the End of Life Guideline Series by Barbara Karnes. It is a compilation of five of our most popular hospice and palliative care books that prepares its listeners for the natural, normal process of dying and grief. The series includes, A Time to Live: Living with a Life Threatening Illness, for the newly diagnosed facing a life limiting illness. It addresses issues of comfort, nutrition, and sleep as they relate to the palliative care patient.

Loss can be overwhelming, and recovery often seems terribly daunting, if not impossible. But with great compassion, Life After Loss offers a way through it. Drawing on numerous first-hand stories and almost 40 years of pastoral counseling to inform his advice, Bob Deits provides helpful exercises for navigating the uncertain terrain of loss and grief.

When a loved one dies, the pain of loss can feel unbearable—especially in the case of a traumatizing death that leaves us shouting, “NO!” with every fiber of our body. The process of grieving can feel wild and nonlinear—and often lasts for much longer than other people, the nonbereaved, tell us it should. Organized into fifty-two short chapters, Bearing the Unbearable is a companion for life’s most difficult times, revealing how grief can open our hearts to connection, compassion, and the very essence of our shared humanity.

A caring, up-close look at suicide with prevention and grief in one best-selling book. Why? They relate more than you realize. Considering how loved ones would grieve might be what keeps someone here. Likewise, grief can become so intense that prevention tools are needed to keep safe those left behind. With a detailed table of contents and bulleted lists, you will use this resource again and again.

While we can speak to the psychological and emotional ramifications of loss and sorrow, we often overlook its impact on our physical bodies. Dr. Mary-Frances O’Connor specializes in the study of grief, and in The Grieving Body she shares vital scientific research, revealing imperative new insights on its profound physiological impact. As she did in The Grieving Brain, O’Connor combines illuminating studies and personal stories to explore the toll loss takes on our cardiovascular, endocrine, and immune systems and the larger implications for our long-term well-being.

After her brother was killed by a suicide bomber in Afghanistan, Annie Sklaver Orenstein was heartbroken and unmoored. Standing in the grief section of her local bookstore, she searched for guides on how to work through her grief as a mourning sibling—and found nothing. More than 4 million American adults each year will lose a sibling, yet there isn't a modern resource guide available that speaks directly to this type of grief. In Always a Sibling, Annie uses her own story and those of others to create the empathic, thoughtful, practical resource that she sought.

After spending nearly five decades studying near-death experiences, Dr. Raymond Moody finally has the answer to humanity’s most pressing question: What happens when we die? In Proof of Life After Life, Moody and coauthor Paul Perry reveal that consciousness survives after the death of the body. Featuring in-depth case studies, the latest research, and eye-opening interviews with experts, Proof explores everything from common paranormal signs to shared-death experiences, and much more.

This revolutionary book about our future is based on the simple idea that, according to the Bible, heaven is not our eternal home - the New Earth is. As Jesus says in the Gospel of Matthew, the next chapter of our story begins with "the renewal of all things", by which he means the Earth we love in all its beauty, our own selves, and the things that make for a rich life: music, art, food, laughter, and all that we hold dear. Everything shall be renewed "when the world is made new".

No matter how rich, well-connected, famous, intelligent, talented and compassionate a person may be, no one can avoid death. Yet how many of us believe death will happen to us? Or wonder what dying will be like? Or imagine what comes after death? Death is certain and inescapable, so wouldn’t it be sensible to at least inform ourselves about an event that we have no choice but to experience? In Living Is Dying, Dzongsar Jamyang Khyentse presents us with everything we need to face death calmly and confidently.

Modern medical technology is allowing us to live longer and fuller lives than ever before. But with changes in the way we understand medicine come changes in the way we understand death. Once a familiar and gentle process, death has come to be something from which we shy away, preferring to fight it desperately than to accept its inevitability. Palliative care has a long tradition in Britain, where Dr. Kathryn Mannix has practiced it for 30 years. In this book, she shares beautifully crafted stories from a lifetime of caring for the dying.

Amy Lin never expected to find a love like the one she shares with her husband, Kurtis, a gifted young architect who pulls her toward joy, adventure, and greater self-acceptance. On a sweltering August morning, only a few months shy of the newlyweds’ move to Vancouver, thirty-two-year-old Kurtis heads out to run a half-marathon with Amy’s family. It’s the last time she sees her husband alive.

Every second, four human beings are born and every one-point-eight seconds, one dies. As natural as death is, dying is the most common fear that we all share. With every loss comes the most painful emotion called grief, which can cause break ups of relationships, depression, and even suicide. Over 100 million suffer from grief daily, although it is a subject not often spoken of, until now. The fear of dying led Sandra Champlain on a 15-year journey to find evidence of the afterlife. Courageously, she now shares her personal story from skeptic to believer, along with proof that our deceased loved ones can still see, hear and communicate with us. Sandra also shares new information on the how our brains function during the grieving process and provides tools that ease pain and saves lives. It is now your time to find out who you really are and discover for yourself that We Don't Die.

Dating a widower comes with unique challenges that you won’t encounter when dating a single or divorced man. For the relationship to work, the widower will have to put his feelings for his late wife to the side and focus on you. But how do you know if he’s ready to take this step?

From shoot-outs at funerals to dead men screaming and runaway corpses, undertakers have plenty of unusual stories to tell - and a special way of telling them. In this macabre and moving compilation, funeral directors across the country share their most embarrassing, jaw-dropping, irreverent, and deeply poignant stories about life at death's door.

Die Wise does not offer seven steps for coping with death. It does not suggest ways to make dying easier. It pours no honey to make the medicine go down. Instead, with lyrical prose, deep wisdom, and stories from his two decades of working with dying people and their families, Stephen Jenkinson places death at the center of the discussion and asks us to behold it in all its painful beauty. Die Wise teaches the skills of dying, skills that have to be learned in the course of living deeply and well.

Number-one New York Times bestdselling author John C. Maxwell believes that any setback, whether professional or personal, can be turned into a step forward when you possess the right tools to turn a loss into a gain. Drawing on nearly fifty years of leadership experience, Dr. Maxwell provides a roadmap for winning by examining the eleven elements that constitute the DNA of learners who succeed in the face of problems, failure, and losses.