Direct Communication

We spend so much of our lives talking to each other, but how much are we simply running on automatic - relying on old habits and hoping for the best? Are we able to truly hear others and speak our mind in a clear and kind way, without needing to get defensive or go on the attack? In this groundbreaking synthesis of mindfulness, somatics, and nonviolent communication, Oren Jay Sofer offers simple yet powerful practices to develop healthy, effective, and satisfying ways of communicating.

This book shows you what manipulation means, which manipulation techniques there are, and which ones you must watch out for. Also, you will learn what influences body language, posture, and voice have and how you can work on them yourself to build up self-confidence, self-esteem, and inner strength. Many factors in interaction are important for self-expression. You can learn and develop these skills. Step out of the shadowy existence and finally realize your wishes, ideas, and goals again with positive manipulation.

The traditional approach to career is failing us. Determine what you want to do with your life, it says, and methodically make your way toward that destination. We’re taught that once we get there, no matter how fraught and fatiguing the path is, we’ll find fulfillment. This is the 5-year plan, it’s setting the “right” goals, it’s one of the first questions we ask kids: what do you want to be when you grow up? The problem is this advice simply doesn’t work.

Put life in perspective, free yourself from limiting beliefs and become more balanced and positive now. Limiting decisions or beliefs are negative thoughts which usually arise as a result of difficult or traumatic situations we have experienced. If you were to put them in sentence form some examples may be "I'm not good enough" or "I'm not in control" or "I don't trust anyone", or they could be more specific to a particular problem, like "I can't stop eating" or "I'm not motivated to exercise".