In Part 3 of my Reclaiming Safety & Power After Sexual Abuse series, I open up about one of the hardest truths: forgiveness is not always owed to our abusers.

In this raw, unfiltered episode, I share why I choose not to forgive those who violated me — and why real healing means forgiving myself instead. I talk about the deep betrayal that comes when the people we trust the most become the ones who hurt us, and the painful layers of shame, anger, and self-blame that can linger for years.

We’ll explore how unresolved trauma shapes our patterns — how what’s “familiar” can keep us stuck in cycles of unhealthy love — and how to reclaim our bodies, our boundaries, and our power.

If you’re ready to finally stop carrying the shame that was never yours, stand up for your worth, and start trusting your own voice again, this episode is for you. You’re not alone — and you do have the power to rewrite your story.

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What happens when the people who were supposed to protect you... didn’t? When silence and denial caused as much damage as the abuse itself?

In this deeply moving episode, Darla sits down with The Emotional Chain Breaker herself, Ada Lloyd, for an unflinching conversation about the long-term effects of sexual abuse—and what it really takes to heal. Ada shares her own story of surviving childhood sexual abuse, the devastating moment her mother refused to believe her, and the journey that led her to create a life of emotional freedom.

Together, they discuss:

• Why denial and shame from others can deepen trauma
• How hidden barriers like imposter syndrome and trust issues often trace back to childhood abuse
• The emotional toll of maintaining a “strong” facade—and the liberation that comes from dropping it
• What it means to truly own your story and choose who you want to become
• How Ada’s “Yellow Pad Strategy” helps clients rewire their inner dialogue and quiet the critical voices that were never theirs to begin with

This episode is raw, empowering, and deeply validating. If you’ve ever felt alone in your story or wondered why healing feels so hard, this conversation will help you see that not only is healing possible—it’s your birthright.

Trigger warning: This episode contains discussions of sexual abuse and trauma. Please take care while listening.

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This is the episode I was never supposed to record.

In Part 1 of Reclaiming Safety & Power After Sexual Abuse, Darla Ridilla shares her raw, unfiltered story—from childhood abuse to adult violation, from being silenced by the people who should’ve protected her to reclaiming her voice on her own terms.

This episode isn’t just a personal account—it’s a wake-up call for every high-achieving woman who was told to keep quiet, stay small, or protect their abuser’s reputation at the cost of their own healing.

You’ll hear what it really means to live with the lifelong echoes of sexual abuse—and how Darla turned pain into power by refusing to keep secrets that weren’t hers to hold.

This is not about playing the victim. It’s about breaking the cycle. It’s about remembering your worth. And it’s about reclaiming what was always yours: your body, your voice, your power.

If you’ve ever been silenced, gaslit, or dismissed, this episode will meet you where you are—and remind you that you’re not broken. Your truth matters. And you’re not alone.

Find Darla Ridilla at:

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