In this episode, Karla Lee explores the emotional and behavioural challenges children often face following separation or divorce.

Karla discusses how children naturally go through difficult phases, but when a family breaks apart, those struggles can intensify.

Karla shares the importance of recognising these changes and staying emotionally available. Karla teaches you the importance of walking alongside your child through the ups and downs—being present, open, and a steady guide as they learn to navigate their feelings in a time of great change.

In this heartfelt episode, Karla Lee dives into the importance of showing your child that it’s okay to feel—and to talk about those feelings. As parents, we often try to stay strong and hold it all together, but when we shut down emotionally, our children can feel isolated and unsure of where to turn. Karla explains why being honest and open about your own emotions not only builds trust but also gives your child permission to express what’s going on inside them too. Don’t miss this powerful conversation that encourages emotional connection, vulnerability, and healing—one conversation at a time.

In this heartfelt and eye-opening episode, we dive deep into the emotional and practical challenges that children face at school during and after parental separation. From the shifting dynamics of school events to the quiet emotional battles kids carry in their backpacks, we unpack the often overlooked struggles they face both in primary and high school.

Karla Lee, shares her powerful personal story of navigating her school years through the lens of family separation. She opens up about the confusion, the silent heartaches, and the feeling of being caught in the middle—a reality too many kids quietly endure.

Now on the other side as a parent and advocate, Karla sheds light on the importance of co-parent collaboration, and how adults can intentionally ease the emotional toll on their children. With practical insights, compassionate guidance, and hard-earned wisdom, Karla discusses how the extended family is so important and how families can shift from conflict to cooperation—especially when it comes to schooling and being present for their child.

Whether you're a parent, educator, or someone who grew up in a separated household, this episode offers a deeply human look at how family and school intersect during difficult seasons—and what we can do to make the journey gentler for the next generation.

In this insightful and deeply personal piece, Karla Lee takes readers into the inner world of a child navigating the emotional landscape of parental separation.

Drawing from her own experience at the age of nine, she reveals the silent fears, unanswered questions, and emotional confusion that often go unnoticed by adults.

Through her story, Karla gives voice to what so many children are feeling but unable to express.

But Karla doesn’t stop at sharing her own story—she goes a step further by guiding co-parents through the complex process of supporting their children during and after a separation.

With empathy and clarity, she offers practical tools, communication strategies, and mindset shifts designed to ease the emotional burden for both parents and children.

Her guidance includes ways to foster open dialogue, maintain stability, and nurture a child’s emotional well-being.

Karla empowers co-parents to see the situation through their child’s eyes, helping them make decisions that prioritise the child’s emotional health.

By blending personal experience with actionable advice, she provides a roadmap for navigating separation with greater compassion, awareness, and unity—even when living apart.

"How to talk to your kids after Separation"
Karla Lee discusses the significance of communicating with the children when they are separated and why you should refrain from jumping right in without planning what you are going to say.

Where and how you convey the information are all

important considerations.

Karla explains why you would not speak to a five-year-old the same way you would a fourteen-year-old. Karla Lee went through this herself when she was nine years old, and she still vividly recalls it now. They will remember this conversation for the rest of their lives, so it is crucial that you deliver it wisely.

“What do we tell the kids?”

Pre-Separation

Karla Lee shares about pre-separation: What parents should tell the kids

In this heartfelt episode, Karla Lee opens up about the delicate and often confusing time before a separation takes place. She reflects on the emotional weight of trying to figure out what to tell the children—especially when nothing feels certain yet. Karla explains how difficult it can be to find the right words when you’re still working things out yourself, but also why it’s so important not to just “wing it.”

Instead of having an off-the-cuff conversation, Karla urges parents to be intentional—take time to talk things through together first. Kids sense more than we realise, and having a calm, unified approach can help ease their confusion and anxiety. In her honest and raw style, Karla reminds us that even in uncertain times, our children deserve clarity, security, and love.

"My Mess Became My Message takes you on an emotional journey of healing after divorce, exploring the impact on children, family breakdown, and the strength it takes to rebuild.

Karla Lee opens the door to the raw, unfiltered reality of being a child caught in the chaos of divorce. At just 9 years old, her world shattered as her family split apart, forcing her to navigate the painful journey of living in two homes. The emotional toll of rejection, the confusion of separation, and the constant struggle for belonging marked the next 17 years of her life.

From feeling abandoned by her father to rebellious outbursts, Karla’s story is one of survival—facing the unspoken challenges that come with family breakdown, fractured relationships, and the bitterness of having a stepparent who became an unbearable catalyst in her life.

But it’s not just a tale of hardship. It’s a story of strength, resilience, and the burning desire to give children like her a VOICE.

Today, Karla speaks out for those who can't yet articulate their pain—the children who are lost in the crossfire of a broken family.

This podcast isn’t just a recounting of a personal journey; it’s a battle cry for every child torn between mother and father, every family facing separation, and every soul navigating the harsh reality of two homes. Karla Lee is here to make sure their voices are heard and parents can the true reality of what children face.

Join Karla Lee as she shares her personal story of survival, resilience, and the power of transformation after a painful family separation. This podcast is a must-listen for anyone navigating divorce recovery or seeking hope in the aftermath of family struggles."