This week I take a closer look at inner confidence, why self validation matters and how relying on external approval can hold you back. I share practical tips to help you build authentic confidence, like setting boundaries, protecting yourself from negative energy, journaling and creating moments of stillness and reflection. I break down the difference between self worth and self confidence with the help of Jamie Kern Lima (from her book WORTHY), and highlight how facing your fears and resistance is key to building self trust.

Episode Highlights:

1. Why confidence isn't something to fix but something to uncover.

2. The surprising power of stillness, silence and intentional action in rebuilding confidence.

3. How to recognize and break fee from outdated narratives that erode self belief.

Quotables:

[00:04:28]

“What I think that confidence really is, it's about honoring that you know the truth about who you are and what you are capable of."

[00:09:48]

"At the core of what happens when we lose our confidence is that we forget who we are, we are often running on outdated narratives and when we have gone down the spiral of self doubt, and are losing our confidence is that we let what happens to us define who we are"

[00:25:06]

"What we truly believe about ourselves is what enables our inner confidence to shine through, and I believe that the biggest work around this is actually in removing the obstacles to seeing our truth."

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This week I talk about what it looks like to upgrade your personal brand; not just the glossy parts, but the messy, real, and deeply personal journey behind it. I share how I navigated reworking my messaging, investing in a new website and photos, and digging into the truth of who I am today as a speaker and business owner. Whether you're climbing the corporate ladder, deep in your entrepreneurial path, or thinking about your legacy, personal branding is about playing the long game, and it's one you deserve to enjoy and love. I mean - when you love you - the rest becomes magic! I'm sharing my lessons, missteps, and wins so that you can feel validated, inspired, and empowered to take the next step with your own brand.

Episode Highlights:

1. Why personal branding isn’t just for entrepreneurs, it’s essential for anyone who wants to manage their career narrative with intention and authenticity.

2. My recent rebranding journey: from reimagining my website and getting new photos, to finding messaging that feels aligned with the next chapter of my business.

3. Advice about trusting yourself, investing before you feel ready, and why your brand is a living, breathing reflection of your evolution.

Quotables:

[00:04:33]

"Brands aren't static and we're constantly evolving it, and that is definitely the case for me. I'm always making updates, whether it's my bio, my descriptions on my social channels, like you name it. There is always something that I'm updating."

[00:25:26]

"Your personal brand is really about the long game, even if you're listening to this and you're not looking for your next opportunity, or you're not looking for your next client. Personal branding is still something to be active and proactive about because there will come a day where you will need someone to know your name."

[00:26:55]

"I love helping people with their brands because when we see ourselves, it makes us feel really good. It helps boost our confidence to say, right, that's what I do. That's who I am. That's what I believe in. That's the aesthetic that lights me up."

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In this week’s episode, I talk about what happens after the inner critic gets quieter, when the noise dies down and we’re left with space. The question becomes: what do I fill that space with? I share a story from a client who had done the work of naming and setting boundaries with her inner critic, but found herself unsure of how to bring in something new. That moment sparked this episode. I walk through some of the ways we can start bringing in more of the good stuff, things like affirmations, music, small rituals, joy, creativity, and connection. It’s not about pretending everything’s fine. It’s about choosing what you let in when you’ve finally made space for something better.

Episode Highlights:

1. What it looks like to shift from quieting the inner critic to inviting in something new

2. Tools for building yourself back up

3. How creativity, music, and community support the healing process

Quotables:

[00:04:59]

"After you've said, no Negative Nancy, I'm not listening to you today. You are no longer needed here, then what you can do is say, I am manifesting magic in my life every day so that you come back to the truth, you come back to what it is that you want for yourself."

[00:07:22]

"Listening to music can also be a tactic for drowning out your inner critic narrative when it's really loud. Because when you're listening to loud music, you kind of can't think about much else."

[00:15:22]

"It is important to allow others to be our cheerleader for us at the same time where we are building the muscle for ourselves. And so I invite you to ask yourself, what is the goodness that I wanna bring into my life proactively?"

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This week’s episode is for anyone who’s ever felt that tug of war about whether or not to go to a networking thing. I’m talking about why it can feel so hard, even when we know it might actually help us. Whether you’re job hunting, prospecting for clients, or just thinking about saying yes to a social invite, the inner critic loves to chime in with stuff like, “You don’t belong,” “It’s gonna be draining,” or “You’ll feel like an outsider.” I share a few stories from my own life, ones that break down how past experiences shape the way we show up now.

Episode Highlights:

1. The inner critic narratives that shut us down before we even show up.

2. How I relate to connection and how I’ve reframed those experiences.

3. Simple practice to separate truth from inner critic noise, to show up more aligned and less transactional.

Quotables:

[00:06:02]

"We have to really make space for possibility because our inner critic tells us things in such definitive terms, like it will be this. This is what exactly is gonna happen. And our inner critic can't predict the future. So we have to be very mindful when we hear things like absolutes in the messages that we're telling ourselves."

[00:15:30]

"Maybe the word 'Networking' itself is triggering to you. I know it definitely can be triggering to people, so maybe you might wanna consider what, maybe I need to reframe, what's the word I want to use instead of networking so that I'm not bringing the baggage of what that networking word means to me."

[00:18:13]

"Maybe your goal is to just go l, and just going is the success metric. Maybe it's, you know what? I just wanna meet one person that I vibe with while I'm there that may extend to a conversation outside of that event."

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This week's episode is a masterclass in people-centered leadership. I sit down with the insightful and generous Brian Rollo, a leadership coach and consultant whose journey from bank repo man to transformative leader will absolutely leave you inspired. We talk about what it really means to lead, not from power or process, but from a place of deep empathy, curiosity, and commitment. Brian walks us through his Point-To-Point framework for leadership and shares why “kill the monsters when they’re small” might be your new go-to mantra. If you’ve ever struggled with how to lead others (or yourself), this episode is packed with stories, tools, and perspective shifts you won’t want to miss.

Brian Rollo is the founder of Brian Rollo Consulting Group and a leadership expert known for helping teams create real, lasting impact. After years managing hundreds of employees in corporate, he became obsessed with one question: how do you lead so people love to follow? Now, through keynotes, coaching, and workshops, Brian partners with forward-thinking companies across the country to build leaders who lead with authenticity, purpose, and real influence. He’s also the author of The 10 Habits of Influential Leaders, a go-to resource for anyone ready to ditch the title and lead through connection.

Episode Highlights:

1. Why Brian’s toughest leadership lesson started with a resignation letter

2. The POINT TO POINT leadership model: how to go from procedural to transformational

3. How to stop managing and start leading on purpose

Quotables:

[00:14:43] - Brian

"In my experience, it all boils down to one thing. Leadership is about taking somebody else or seeing somebody else that is in one state, a less than optimal state, and guiding them to a better state. That is it. That is leadership and if you wanna say you have led somebody, you have to do it. It's part of the process."

[0052:00] - Tosca

"Being aware of the choices that you're making and are you just, playing to the beat of the drum that's been going on forever and ever? Or are you making choices that honor what you're trying to achieve?"

[01:06:51] - Brian

"Be authentic to your values. Like if you value connection with people, if you value honesty, if you value integrity, if you value humor, whatever it is you value, be true to that. But realize sometimes you might need to vary up your approach to stay true to that value."

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This episode is for anyone who’s ever gone after something big and didn’t get the outcome they wanted. I’m walking you through what happened when I didn’t move on in a storytelling competition, how I prepared for it, what I learned, and how I dealt with the disappointment. I talk about everything from hiring a keynote coach and getting my makeup done, to sitting with my feelings and honoring the effort I put in. I also share what I remind myself (and my clients) when things don’t go our way: there’s always something to take from the experience...and it might be better than what you thought you wanted.

Episode Highlights:

1. How I prepped for a high-stakes moment, mentally, emotionally, and logistically.

2. I share what I did to stay grounded and present on stage, and how I handled feedback after.

3. The small (and big) wins I clocked, even though I didn’t get the “prize.”

Quotables:

[00:09:18]

"My intent was, you know what? I'm happy just to have made it this far. And so I just wanna have fun with the experience and have fun with the other contestants and the folks that were gonna be there to witness it."

[00:17:11]

"I didn't get to move on to the next round and so what I do in those situations and what I am kind of inviting you to do is to take those things that didn't work out and use it as an opportunity for deep reflection about what that experience offered you, what you learned, and how you grew."

[00:25:00]

"Sometimes we just jump right into the next thing because it gives us comfort, it gives us the sense of control of, well, fine, I'm gonna go make it happen, then I'm gonna try again. And that's great and I want you to do that but sometimes what your heart and soul needs is, give me a minute, give me a minute to reset."

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Letting go isn’t just about releasing what holds us back, it’s about making space for what we truly want. In this episode, I share what it really takes to let go, because spoiler alert: it’s not as easy as motivational memes makes it seem. We’re not in a Disney movie, and there’s no magical three step process. But there are real, tangible tools including somatic body work, journaling, movement, and even shifting our actions, that can help us release old patterns and step into a new version of ourselves. From relationship dynamics to breaking free from limiting beliefs, I share my personal experiences and the messy, real life process of letting go. This one’s for anyone who’s ready to stop white knuckling life so you can move forward with more ease.

Episode Highlights:

🦉The truth about letting go, it’s not a one and done deal, but an ongoing process that evolves with you.

🦉How your body holds onto emotions and why physical movement, energy work, and somatic healing can be game changers.

🦉A simple but powerful shift, instead of just trying with all your might to release something.

Quotables:

[00:04:58]

"Your process and needs for letting go will likely evolve over time. What you may have needed the last time you were in a certain situation is different than maybe what you need now because you're constantly evolving and you may need different tools to access for letting go of different situations."

[00:14:24]

"The intention of letting things go is really powerful. And then the action that you take to support that intention. You can play with it, have fun with it and experiment with it."

[00:23:46]

"What's in our control is doing the best we can to take the actions to change our own life. because it is our choice, nobody else's choice. We are not going to get rescued by a knight in shining armor. We have got to do it for ourselves."

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We spend so much time fixing what’s wrong, but what if we put just as much energy into understanding what’s actually working? In this week's episode, I talk about the power of reviewing our wins, not just to celebrate them, but to uncover the patterns that can help us create even more success. Inspired by a client session, I break down how external wins often start with internal shifts, the role that persistence plays, and why honoring our own process makes all the difference. Whether you're in a season of success or searching for your next big breakthrough, this conversation is all about tapping into the truth that you have what it takes already!

Episode highlights:

1. How reviewing your wins helps you repeat success (instead of leaving it to chance).

2. The unexpected connection between personal well-being and professional achievements.

3. Why your energy and intent shapes how others respond to you and how to use that to your advantage.

Quotables:

[00:02:23]

"We have got to take the time to look at what is part of the success of our life. What are the tools in our toolbox that have allowed us to experience the good times, that have allowed us to gain the wins. And by looking at these patterns, we have a better chance at repeating them because we're conscious and aware of what we're doing that's leading to the big wins."

[00:10:29]

"Reviewing your success is about giving time and space to the good in your life."

[00:12:10]

"We all have these aha's in our life that we can unlock when we pay attention to them. But if we're just moving through life and we're not stopping and saying what's working when it is working, then we're missing a huge opportunity."

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