Hey folks, Ned here! This episode is a continuation of our eye-opening conversation with Dr. Stuart Slavin, a pediatrician, medical educator, and mental health advocate who's making waves in education reform. We dive deep into the hidden stressors in elite academic environments and explore what happens when you challenge the status quo.

In Part Two of our discussion, Stuart unpacks his groundbreaking research on high-performing high schools and reveals the sobering mental health statistics that too often go unnoticed. We also talk about real, practical solutions—from pass/fail grading to autonomy-supportive school cultures—that can drastically improve students' well-being without sacrificing academic outcomes. It's a powerful reminder that doing well and being well don't have to be at odds.

Episode Highlights:

[1:54] - Welcoming back Dr. Stuart Slavin and setting the stage for Part Two of our conversation.

[3:38] - Why it's "and," not "or": unpacking social media's role in student stress alongside deeper cultural forces.

[6:31] - Eye-opening survey data from 18 high schools revealing staggering rates of anxiety and depression.

[9:25] - Students define themselves by grades; extracurriculars are no longer fun—they're just more stress.

[11:19] - The "free day" pilot at SLU: one day off every other week led to better mental health and test scores.

[13:32] - How principles from positive psychology boosted connection, meaning, and performance.

[16:33] - Letting go of false incentives: moving from extrinsic to intrinsic motivation through pass/fail reforms.

[17:53] - Challenges schools face in shifting culture and making bold changes.

[20:06] - Stuart's upcoming parenting book: offering families a saner, science-based path to raising healthy kids.

[22:56] - It's not just the kids: how we're all part of the system that's failing them.

[25:49] - Schools must redefine what makes them "good": test scores or student wellness?

[29:22] - Practical mental health tools: meditation, breathing, and cognitive restructuring.

[33:41] - Real-life stories from students who found unexpected joy outside the Ivy League.

[35:26] - The dangers of rigid, narrow goals and the power of reframing.

[37:21] - Autonomy, connection, competence: how self-determination theory explains what students need.

[41:09] - Schools can change—if they have the courage. The research is clear, the model is ready.

[42:33] - A challenge to school leaders: want to try this? We’re in. Let’s make it happen.

Links & Resources:

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In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Stuart Slavin—pediatrician, medical educator, and a true superhero in the world of educational reform. Stuart’s groundbreaking work has shown that yes, we can dramatically improve student mental health without compromising academic performance—and he has the results to prove it.

We get into why today's high schoolers are more stressed than med students, how maladaptive perfectionism is quietly damaging our youth, and what it really means to build resilience that lasts. Whether you're a parent, educator, or just someone who cares deeply about kids and learning, you don’t want to miss this conversation. Stuart's work is inspiring, actionable, and—best of all—hopeful.

Episode Highlights:

[0:00] - Introducing our new workbook, "The 7 Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child".
[1:08] - Dr. Stuart Slavin on the surprising pressures teens face—more intense than med school.
[3:22] - Stuart’s origin story and how a curriculum role led to mental health reform.
[5:32] - How adolescent anxiety and perfectionism carry into adulthood.
[7:42] - The dangerous cost of maladaptive perfectionism and chronic stress.
[8:36] - What Stuart’s research revealed about depression, suicide risk, and medical students.
[11:41] - The 3-part intervention that changed everything at Saint Louis University.
[14:10] - Can cutting 10% of class time improve both health and test scores? (Spoiler: Yes.).
[17:54] - How a 90-minute resilience curriculum taught students to challenge toxic thoughts.
[22:01] - Why we must teach kids to recognize and reframe distorted thinking early.
[24:20] - Replacing perfectionism with a healthy pursuit of excellence.
[26:53] - Ned shares his own experience with depression and the power of having tools.
[28:26] - From frustrated parent to systemic change: Stuart’s fight for student well-being.
[30:21] - Final thoughts: to help kids thrive, we have to start upstream.

Links & Resources:

• Learn more about Dr. Stuart Slavin's work at ACGME: https://www.acgme.org/
• Episode 49 of The Self-Driven Child: How To Redesign Schools to Unleash Extraordinary Learning For All
• Research cited in the episode:
  • Medical student mental health 3.0: improving student wellness through curricular changes
  • Finding the Why, Changing the How: Improving the Mental Health of Medical Students, Residents, and Physicians
  • Reflections on a Decade Leading a Medical Student Well-Being Initiative

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Hey folks, Ned here. In this episode, I’m diving into something that feels more essential now than ever—how to be a non-anxious presence for the people who count on you. Whether it’s your kids, students, partner, or even yourself, being that calm, steadying force can make all the difference. I know from personal experience and years of working with families that this isn’t easy, especially when the world feels like it’s spinning off its axis.

So, I break down six practical, research-backed steps you can take to help yourself stay grounded, build emotional resilience, and show up as the helper people need—even when things get messy. I’ll walk you through stories from my own life, including the toughest parenting experience I’ve faced, and offer concrete strategies for managing your own stress so you can be that safe harbor in the storm.

Episode Highlights:

[1:47] - Opening reflection on “helpers” and what it means to be a non-anxious presence.
[4:22] - Step 1: Assessing your own baseline level of stress and why many of us don’t realize how stressed we really are.
[7:56] - Step 2: Identifying your personal stress triggers using the N.U.T.S. framework. (Novelty, Unpredictability, Threat, Low Sense of Control).
[11:34] - Step 3: Spotting your “tells” and emotional signals when you're not at your best.
[14:10] - Step 4: Claiming your space—how to communicate your emotional needs without blowing up.
[19:32] - Step 5: Facing challenges by confronting your fears and reframing anxious thinking.
[22:18] - Step 6: Emergency and preventative stress relief techniques—laughter, breathing, exercise, and more.
[24:40] - Personal story: How my son and I reframed our thinking during his brain tumor diagnosis and what we both learned about resilience and peace.
[26:50] - Final thoughts on raising kids to thrive through hardship and modeling courage and calm.

Links & Resources:

• How Exercise Can Calm Anxiety: https://archive.nytimes.com/well.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/07/03/how-exercise-can-calm-anxiety/
• The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child: A Workbook - Out now!

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