Exploring THE Spiritual Art (For Your Closure)

Why did I begin the Free to be Show?

What makes you feel that are not free to exist?

For the final episode of my podcast, I am speaking freely about the most normalized form of narcissistic abuse and how you alchemize it.

When you experience narcissistic abuse your personality splits into your authentic self and your representative, your mask. It is clinically called Dissociative identity disorder (DID), previously known as multiple personality disorder, is a complex psychological condition caused by many things. These include severe trauma during early childhood (usually extreme, repetitive physical, sexual, or emotional abuse). It's also known as split personality disorder. Reference

Interestingly there exists a normalized version of this that may lead to a mental health issue over time for BIPOC in general but especially Black women. The first capture of this phenomenon was in the 1903 book, “The Souls of Black Folk,” written by the late civil rights leader W.E.B. DuBois spoke about Black people surviving by highlighting the need for Black Americans to recognize their double-consciousness, or the two parts of their identity: their Blackness and their “Americanness” — or how they were viewed by white Americans. DuBois talked about double-consciousness, and that’s what code-switching is now,” Dr. Barlow adds. “You had to, for your survival, exhibit that double-consciousness.” Reference Jodi Ann Burrey talks about showing up as your “authentic self” at work as a Black woman is the same as not wearing a custom to a Halloween party in her TED talk The Myth of bringing your full authentic self to work.

This is the beginning of generational trauma or taught imposter syndrome. Because you are always proving to the world that you are someone you are not. And I say all of this to say that the greatest form of narcissistic abuse that occurs is institutionalized racism. Although the “official” dots have not been connected in the American Psychological Association publication created on September 1, 2021 and last updated January 24, 2023 Psychologists are working to develop more effective ways of promoting Black men’s mental health

“Being a black man in America means being my brother’s keeper. Being a black man in America means being my brother’s keeper while keeping a distance from my brother because I don’t trust him further than I can see him. It’s believing the cops don’t care about you. It’s learning how not to doubt yourself because when you’re born everyone else already does.”

—Poet Prentice Powell, written following the fatal police shooting of Michael Brown in Ferguson, Missouri, in 2014

“We should place less emphasis on whether Black men are resistant to therapy,” said Stevenson, “and more on understanding the contexts in which they already feel comfortable talking about their feelings and traumas. If a Black man is able to find a treatment that is culturally responsive, that he understands, and that embraces the uniqueness of his difference, he is more likely to use that service.”

And my work is to heal the souls of Black women because they are the pillars of society, the Black crumbling family. As you can see it is a cellular recalibration that has to...

This is an excerpt from my series published now as a course, 13 Days to Multi-Orgasmic Aging. This is day three about your choices and understanding the power of that.

Listen as I share how I chose to create my first birth story. In my ignorance I chose body -mind wisdom over fear. Reflect on your birth story if you have had a child. Mostly listen for the power and gifts of honoring choices that elevate your each and every heartbeat and breath.

#bodywisdom #replnishme #detachedlove #multiorgasmicaging #multiorgasmic #cordeliagaffar #intimacy #selfnurturing #selflove

Cordelia Gaffar, the Ultimate Joy Goddess and CEO of Cordelia Gaffar Enterprises, is a bestselling author, speaker, and host of The Free to be Show podcast.

Cordelia's journey led her to rediscover many ancient body wisdom mindfulness practices, intertwining from aboriginal cultures across the globe. The result? The Four Mind Alignment (TM), unveiled in November 2022 after two years of client studies and five years of research.

This transformative methodology empowers women to be fully expressed and completely embodied in her natural leadership merging ancient wisdom for total well-being. Cordelia's approach builds on her Replenish Me (™) process, featured in "Detached Love" (2020), promoting self-nurturing through food, movement, and sleep.

Now, she offers Embodiment Experiences in intimate group coaching and retreats, inviting women to a journey of self-discovery and replenishment. Cordelia is a former CFO and veteran home educator to her six children, three of whom have graduated going on to serve in the US Navy and become entrepreneurs in their own right. Subscribe to the Free to Be Show as we explore joy, enlightenment, and the transformative power of Cordelia Gaffar's wisdom.

This is the audio version of my recent LinkedIn article Soul Love vs Carnal Ravaging.

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At the end, I make an invitation to join the 29 day challenge to leap into your intimacy. On my website https://cordeliagaffar.com/, I share all the details of this 29 day DIY experience.

I am here for YOU! Reclaim your Ultimate-Joy! You may not realize it but your body wants you back. Be present in your body like never before.

It’s leap year, which means that we get 29 days in February!

Vibration matters and the vibrational meaning of 29 is

(2) Harmony

(9) Transformation awakening

and in calendar format you get to experience your intimacy transformation with harmony and balance.

There are also journal pages included to capture your experience and voice memos are also highly recommended. Also you may chose to join my private LinkedIn Group (https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12966627/) to enhance your experience.

Mindlessness is the Real Issue: Let’s Make Distinctions

There is sex. And then there is great sex.

There is being orgasmic. And then there is being multi-orgasmic.

Everyone who has sex is not having great sex.

Everyone who has an orgasm may not have more than one.

Most women do not have orgasms. Not even one.

Most men don’t know that they can have more than one orgasm.

Most people don’t know that sex is sacred.

Most people don’t know that when you reach orgasm that is a form of enlightenment.

My call is back to soul love.

#intimacy #soullove #enlightenment #leapyear #healing #medicine