What if the thing that’s actually keeping love out is your need for perfection?
Not the lack of healing.
Not the wrong timing.
Not your history.
But the subtle belief that you must show up flawless to be worthy of love.

This came up for me in a recent moment that cracked me open — and I’m sharing it, fully, in this week’s podcast.

After two years of deep healing post-divorce, I met someone new. Someone wonderful. Someone real.

And in his presence, I’ve met both the most surrendered version of myself…
…and the most activated.

One afternoon, we were in the car together. I answered a tense co-parenting call. When I hung up, I asked for his thoughts.

He said — with deep care — “It sounded like you were placating.”

I wanted to crawl out of my skin.

Because placating was an old pattern. One I’ve worked hard to heal. And in that moment, the shame that rose up wasn’t just about him witnessing me.
It was the belief that if I wasn’t perfect, I wouldn’t be lovable.

That I needed to earn love by being above my patterns — not inside them.

And yet…

That vulnerable girl part of me — the one who used to believe love was conditional — was met with tenderness. Not rejection.

He reminded me: “I admire your strength. But what draws me most is your softness.”

This week’s episode is a story about that moment — but more than that, it’s about the old paradigms we still carry. The ones that say love must be performed for.

This moment reminded me of a truth I return to again and again:
Healing happens in layers.
Magnetism is born in our willingness to be fully seen.
Self-love deepens when we soften into our humanness, not away from it.

So if you’ve been holding onto the idea that love requires perfection —
that you need to finish your healing before receiving the love you want —
I offer this story as a mirror.

You get to be both powerful and tender. You get to show up with patterns — and still be deeply worthy of love.

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You know the feeling

That quiet tension when someone asks what you want, and for just a moment... you pause.

Not because you don't know, but because somewhere along the way, you learned to check with everyone else first. To make sure your desires were acceptable. Reasonable. Not too much.

Maybe it started small—waiting for your partner's approval before making a decision. Checking with your mother before changing your hair. Asking your business mentor if your idea was "good enough" before moving forward.

But over time, it became something bigger.

You started waiting for permission to want what you want. To choose what you choose. To trust what you know to be true.

And here's what I've learned after two decades of working with women just like you:

The energy of waiting is the energy of disempowerment.

When we wait—for permission, for validation, for the perfect moment, for someone else to lead—we leak our personal power. We hand over our ability to create the life we truly desire to external forces that were never meant to hold that responsibility.

In this week's podcast episode, I'm sharing the story of how I learned this lesson the hard way during my separation and divorce. How I discovered that so much of my "successful" life was actually built on other people's definitions of success. Other people's expectations. Other people's timelines.

Where to connect:

Website - https://www.shyamalakiru.com/

Instagram - @iam.drshyam

Even the most outwardly successful women quietly wrestle with this.

They’ve achieved degrees. Built the career. Created a beautiful life.
And yet…

Confidence still feels elusive.

It shows up in some moments—and disappears in others. It feels conditional. Fragile. Dependent on things outside of you.

In this week’s podcast, we’re unpacking why this happens—and how to finally shift into embodied confidence that doesn’t need proving or performance.
Here’s what we explore:

• The subtle (but powerful) difference between ego-based and embodied confidence
• Why even high-achievers struggle with deep, stable self-trust
• How your decision-making reveals the truth about your inner power
• A new lens for reclaiming confidence without needing to “do more”

This is about creating a version of confidence that is unshakable—because it’s built from within.

If you’ve ever found yourself second-guessing your worth, overthinking decisions, or seeking external validation just to feel “enough”…this episode is your invitation to begin again.

No performance. No pretense. Just help you get aligned with your own power.

Where to Connect:

WEBSITE: https://shyamalakiru.com

BOOK A 1-MONTH PRIVATE INTENSIVE:
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“Fake it ‘til you make it.”

We’ve all been taught this.
Say the right affirmations.
Walk like you’re confident.
Act like you’ve already changed.

But here’s the truth no one talks about: You can’t fake your way into embodiment. And surface-level change will always crack under pressure.

In today’s episode of the podcast, I’m unpacking why “acting as if” creates more frustration than freedom—and what it actually takes to create change that lasts.

Here’s why you’ll want to press play:

• The hidden cost of “fake it ‘til you make it” (and why it backfires)
• How behavioral change without embodiment erodes your confidence
• The critical difference between releasing a pattern and replacing it
• What actually rewires your reality on a subconscious level

This is for the woman who’s ready to stop performing, and start creating from her deepest truth.

Where to Connect:

WEBSITE: https://shyamalakiru.com

BOOK A 1-MONTH PRIVATE INTENSIVE:
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We often think of intimacy as something we create with others.

But what if the real portal to richer connection, more fulfilling relationships, and even deeper self-trust… was your emotional depth?

In this week’s episode, I’m unpacking a powerful truth:

You can only meet someone as deeply as you’ve met yourself.

Whether you’re navigating intimate partnerships, parenting, leadership, or friendship—your ability to hold space for others is directly shaped by your capacity to hold space for your own emotions.

Inside this episode, you’ll hear:

• The true definition of emotional depth—and why nuance matters
• How your capacity to be with emotion shapes every relationship you have
• Why you can’t hold others if you haven’t learned to hold yourself
• A powerful mindset shift around emotional regulation and decision-making

This is one of the most important conversations I’ve shared—because the skill of emotional depth is a foundational key to creating the relationships you truly desire.

If you’ve ever wondered why surface-level connection no longer satisfies you—or why intimacy feels hard to sustain—this episode is your next step.

Where to Connect:

WEBSITE: https://shyamalakiru.com

BOOK A 1-MONTH PRIVATE INTENSIVE:
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This week, I’m sharing something personal.

Not a framework. But a reflection on what it’s been like to re-enter the dating world in my late 40s and rediscovering myself in the process.

At 48, dating feels completely different than it did in my 30s.

And it should. Because I am completely different.

What I’ve realized is this:

• Dating isn’t about evaluating the other—it’s about witnessing yourself
• Most of us are still carrying outdated, fear-based paradigms around love and relationship
• You can desire intimacy without abandoning your own energy in the process

And when you become the governing energy in your life—everything changes
This episode is tender, honest, and filled with the exact kinds of questions I ask myself (and my clients) as we unhook from ego-based patterns and return to soul-aligned power. This goes beyond just dating, because this conversation is really about YOU.

If you’re curious, click play and dive into this conversation with me.

Where to Connect:

WEBSITE: https://shyamalakiru.com

BOOK A 1-MONTH PRIVATE INTENSIVE:
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In a world that glorifies the hustle, the most powerful thing a woman can do is hold stillness.

Not check out.

Not shut down.

But root deeper into herself.

Because when you learn to become the governing energy of your life—
rather than reacting to everyone else’s—you become magnetic. Grounded. Unshakeable.
That’s exactly what I’m diving into on this week’s podcast episode.

We’ll explore:

• Why most women unknowingly abandon their power (and how to stop)
• The real reason your energy feels scattered—and how to reclaim it
• What it actually means to lead yourself
• How to cultivate unwavering clarity—even in the midst of chaos
• Why stillness isn’t something you “fit in,” it’s something you lead from

Where to Connect:

WEBSITE: https://shyamalakiru.com

BOOK A 1-MONTH PRIVATE INTENSIVE:
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What if you could move through life knowing, without a doubt, that you are capable of creating exactly what you desire?

So many high-impact women look confident on the outside—but behind the scenes, they’re battling self-doubt, seeking validation, and second-guessing their every move.

That’s because most of us were taught ego-based confidence—confidence that is fleeting, dependent on external validation, and easily shaken by stress.

But true, embodied confidence—the kind that is magnetic, unwavering, and self-sourced—is something entirely different.

And inside this week’s podcast episode, I’m breaking down exactly what it takes to shift from confidence that crumbles under pressure to confidence that holds steady—no matter what.

We’ll cover:

• How societal conditioning keeps you trapped in external validation.
• The biggest reason is that your confidence still wavers (even if you’ve “done the work”).
• How to shift into a deep, embodied confidence that stays with you in every decision, relationship, and opportunity.

And if you’re ready to truly integrate this level of confidence into every area of your life—your relationships, your career, your energy—this is exactly what we do inside The Creatrix Method mentorship.

This is your space to step into full self-leadership, self-trust, and the highest version of yourself—so you can create exactly what you want with certainty.

Where to Connect:

WEBSITE: https://shyamalakiru.com

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