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We live in a world that constantly shows us what we could be doing—careers we didn’t pursue, trips we didn’t take, opportunities we didn’t chase. It's easy to feel like whatever path you're on, it’s somehow not quite enough. That subtle, restless hum? That’s FOMO—the fear of missing out.

In this week’s Bite Size Fridays episode of It’s an Inside Job, I explore how the contrarian mindset helps shift from comparison to clarity. Through Elena’s story—a successful architect who looked accomplished on the outside but wrestled with second-guessing and regret on the inside—you’ll see how grounding in the present transforms distraction into direction.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• How to recognize and interrupt the subtle impact of FOMO
• Tools to anchor your decisions in values rather than validation
• Why your past choices don’t need to be perfect to be powerful
• How to reclaim energy and focus from rumination loops
• What it looks like to build self-worth from the inside out

If you often feel pulled in a dozen directions by other people’s wins, this episode helps you shift from chasing everything to appreciating something—your current path.

Contrarian Strategies from This Episode

• Focus on what you can control
  FOMO thrives in the realm of comparison. Shift your energy inward by asking: What’s one action I can take today that aligns with what truly matters to me?
• Disrupt the rumination loop
  When you catch yourself spinning in what-ifs, say: That path isn’t mine. Then ask: What part of this thought is useful—and what’s just noise?
• Reframe past choices as learning
  Instead of judging yourself for a decision, write down three things it taught you. See your past as groundwork—not as missteps.
• Aim for progress, not perfection
  Others’ lives aren’t perfect—they’re curated. Reflect weekly on:
  1. What moved me forward?
  2. What did I learn?
  3. Where did I show up fully?
• Strengthen self-worth from within
  List five things you respect about how you’ve navigated challenges—not what you’ve achieved. This roots your worth in character, not comparison.

Perfect for You If You’re Asking:

• Why do I always feel like I’m falling behind—even when I’m doing well?
• How do I stop comparing my choices to others’?
• What can I do to feel more confident in the path I’ve chosen?
• How do I shift from fear-based decision-making to self-directed action?

Additional Resources

This is Part 8 of a 15-part Contrarian Mindset series—each episode helping you rethink reactive habits and grow a mindset that’s grounded, clear, and resilient.

Catch up on earlier episodes:

1. Facing the Fear of Vulnerability
2. Breaking Free from Perfectionism
3. Moving Through Imposter Syndrome
4. Overcoming the Fear of Not Being Good Enough
5. Replacing Reactivity with Response
6. Embracing Change Instead of Resisting It
7. The Fear of Deviating from the Known Path

Scroll back to Season 7 for deep dives into the 12 core contrarian skills that build lasting resilience and psychological strength.

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