In Part 2 of my conversation with Dr. Laurie Mintz (Becoming Cliterate), we unpack some of the biggest myths around women's intimacy, including the idea that satisfaction should come from one kind of experience alone.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Missed Part 1? Go Back!

0:45 – Why Vibrators Are Game-Changers

2:30 – Debunking the Biggest Myths About Toys

4:30 – How Vibration Supports Pleasure and Healing

6:15 – Do Vibrators Replace Partners? Let’s Be Real.

8:00 – Rethinking ‘Foreplay’: The Four Plays That Work

10:16 - Announcing My New Masterclass - Hotter, Wiser, Wilder!

10:30 – Sexual Guilt & The Orgasm Gap

12:10 – Attachment, Casual Sex & Cultural Myths

14:00 – BDSM, Boudoir & Owning Your Curiosity

16:00 – What Is Sex? Dr. Laurie’s Definition

17:40 – Advice for Women Struggling With Orgasm

19:20 – Final Thoughts + Join Dr. Laurie’s Live Coaching

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

‪@drlauriemintz‬ is an Emeritus Professor at the University of Florida teaching Human Sexuality to hundreds of undergraduates yearly. She has published over 60 scholarly works and authored two popular press books: Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex. Mintz is a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist in private practice. She is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association, indicating her work has had a positive national influence on the field of psychology. In 2023, she was named one of Forbes “50 over 50” women innovators.

Connect with Dr. Laurie Mintz:

Links: https://linktr.ee/DrLaurieMintz

Book: ‘Becoming Clitorate’ https://www.drlauriemintz.com/becomin...

Instagram: / drlauriemintz

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

To celebrate the 100th episode of the Taboo to Truth podcast, I’m launching something BIG:

🎉 Hotter, Wiser, Wilder — a s/x-ed masterclass for adults

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📹 Bite-sized videos & guided exercises

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In this eye-opening episode, I sit down with the brilliant Dr. Laurie Mintz—author of Becoming Cliterate and A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex—to debunk the most harmful lies women are told about pleasure. From the myth of orgasm through penetration to the overlooked power of the clitoris, this conversation covers the real truth behind the so-called "pleasure gap." Get ready for a candid, empowering anatomy lesson, personal revelations, and a fresh take on vibrators, vulvas, and voice. This is Part 1 of a must-hear two-part series.

Timestamps:

00:00 - Welcome & Guest Intro: Dr. Laurie Mintz

01:26 - The #1 Lie Women Are Told About Pleasure

03:44 - Why Penetration Alone Doesn’t Cut It

06:10 - Busting the Wetness Myth: Lube is Your Friend

09:18 - The Orgasm Gap Explained

13:12 - Hookups vs. Relationships: The Numbers Don’t Lie

16:33 - What Lesbian & Solo Sex Teach Us About Female Pleasure

18:57 - Vulva vs. Vagina: Why Language Matters

22:19 - Anatomy of the Clitoris (and Why You’ve Never Been Taught This)

26:07 - Where Female Pleasure Really Lives

29:32 - The G-Spot Debate: Magic Spot or Misdirection?

33:11 - Why Guys Need to Ask, Not Assume

35:49 - Karen’s First Vibrator: A Game-Changing Moment

38:41 - Vibrators Are Not Replacements, They’re Tools

42:14 - Wrap Up & What’s Coming in Part 2

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Dr. Laurie Mintz is an Emeritus Professor at the University of Florida teaching Human Sexuality to hundreds of undergraduates yearly. She has published over 60 scholarly works and authored two popular press books: Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex. Mintz is a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist in private practice. She is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association, indicating her work has had a positive national influence on the field of psychology. In 2023, she was named one of Forbes “50 over 50” women innovators.

Connect with Dr. Laurie Mintz:

Links: https://linktr.ee/DrLaurieMintz

Book: ‘Becoming Clitorate’...

In this episode I welcome Tanya Griffin, founder of “oOYes,” an ecstatic intimacy and cannabis lifestyle brand. Together, we dive deep into how cannabis can elevate female pleasure, the science behind multi-orgasmic experiences, and how to use both systemic and topical products to enhance your sensual life—especially in midlife and beyond. From THC-infused lube to breaking down barriers around oral, nothing is off the table. You’ll laugh, learn, and leave feeling liberated.

Timestamps:

00:00 - Welcome + Meet Tanya from Oh Yes

01:15 - From Cannabis to Climax: Tanya’s Entrepreneurial Journey

04:28 - Cannabis & Female Pleasure: How They Work Together

08:40 - Karen’s Wild Weed Story (And Accidental O!)

12:10 - Why Women Think Too Fast for Good 🍑

15:02 - Dosing THC for Newbies: Start Low, Go Slow

18:50 - Practicing Pleasure: Why Self-Love is Essential

21:34 - Topical vs. Systemic Cannabis: What to Know

26:55 - What is Edible Sex Play?

29:10 - How Hormones Affect Cannabis & Climax

33:48 - Cannabis for Oral Anxiety & Better Blood Flow

38:22 - Daily O’s, Mastery & Why Practice is 🔑

42:14 - What to Do If You Get Too High

45:18 - Creating Ritual: Turning Pleasure Into a Lifestyle

49:30 - Introducing the “Oh Yes Sex Quiz” for You + Your Partner

52:40 - Tanya’s Definition of Sex

54:35 - Final Thoughts + Upcoming Collaborations

About The Guest

From colostrum to cannabis to cum, Tanya Griffin has spent over three decades building businesses focused on women’s health, plant medicine, and sexual wellness. A lactation consultant turned cannabis pioneer, she founded and scaled multiple health and cannabis ventures, including the first national cannabis franchise and a REGTech/FINTech platform for cannabis payments. Now the founder of oOYes and Uh Huh Honey, Tanya combines her passion for ecstatic sex, education, and harm reduction into luscious, cannabinoid-infused products and experiences. She’s on a mission to help people have more and better sex—consciously, joyfully, and fully present.

Yes to Sex newsletter: https://www.linkedin.com/newsletters/7166601342721982464

20% off OoYes products use code TABOO20: https://www.ooyes.love

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator,...

In this episode, I dive deep into the often-overlooked world of delayed ejaculation—a condition that affects up to 10% of men and becomes more common with age. I break down the physical and psychological causes, including hormone shifts, nerve damage, porn habits, and emotional trauma. With candid reflections from my own experience with orgasmia, I offer a compassionate and practical guide for men (and their partners) to reclaim pleasure, confidence, and connection.

Timestamps:

• 00:00 – Introduction: Why This Topic Matters
• 01:20 – My Personal Journey with Orgasmia
• 03:00 – What Is Delayed Ejaculation?
• 04:15 – Defining “Normal” Timing vs. Clinical Diagnosis
• 05:30 – How Common Is It? (Stats + Aging Impact)
• 06:30 – Physical Causes: Surgery, Alcohol, Nerve Damage, Testosterone
• 09:15 – Psychological Causes: Shame, Anxiety, Trauma, Porn Habits
• 12:45 – The Impact on Relationships + Emotional Disconnect
• 14:10 – Key Questions to Ask Yourself About the Pattern
• 16:00 – How to Start Treating Delayed Ejaculation
• 18:30 – Adjusting M@sterbati*n, Increasing Sensitivity, Using Lube
• 20:00 – When to Seek Therapy or Medical Help
• 21:30 – Final Words: You’re Not Broken—You Can Heal

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at

In this candid episode, I sit down with Dr. Elliot Justin—emergency physician turned sex tech innovator—to talk erectile fitness, aging erections, and why the humble c*ck ring might just be the unsung hero of midlife pleasure. From horse accidents and centaur metaphors to revolutionary wearable tech, this episode explores the real (and often overlooked) science behind erections and the emotional toll of performance anxiety. If you're ready to shift shame, embrace better tools, and reignite connection with your partner—this one's for you.

Timestamps:

• 00:00 – Introduction
• 01:40 – Meet Dr. Elliot Justin & his journey from ER to sex tech
• 04:00 – The horseback accident that changed everything
• 06:15 – What erectile dysfunction really means (and doesn’t)
• 08:20 – Why most cck rings don’t work — and how FirmTech changed that
• 11:00 – The confidence-erection connection no one talks about
• 13:30 – Why your partner’s erection is a health signal
• 15:50 – Can data actually improve erections? (Yep.)
• 18:00 – RingMate: The pleasure product designed for her
• 20:10 – Redefining what counts as sx
• 22:00 – Final thoughts on pleasure, performance & partnership

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Elliot Justin, MD, FACEP, is the CEO and Founder of FirmTech, the first sex tech company dedicated to improving men’s erectile fitness. He has a background in Emergency Medicine and healthcare technology consulting. Dr. Justin is also a serial healthcare entrepreneur, having founded and sold Pegasus Emergency Group and Swift MD. He has provided guidance to various services, telemedicine, and tech startups. Dr. Justin pursued Slavic Studies at Harvard University and studied medicine at Boston University. Happily married for 35 years, and father of three children, Elliot and Ann live in Montana with three energetic mares and a flock of chickens.

Connect with Elliot Justin, MD:

Instagram: @doctorelliotjustin @myfirmtech

Website: https://myfirmtech.com

Enjoy 15% off with code TABOO15 using this link: https://myfirmtech.com/karenbigman

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative...

We’ve all heard them—the whispered “rules” about how sex should be. Be spontaneous. Always want it. Orgasms are everything. Sound familiar? But what if I told you these so-called truths are actually myths… and they’re killing our sex lives behind closed doors? These myths sneak into the sheets with us.

In this episode, I’m breaking down five myths that could be ruining your sex life—and offering a fresh, honest look at how to bring the pleasure back. One of them might even surprise you (myth #4 is a game changer).

Let's dive in!

Timestamps:

(00:00:00) - Introduction

(00:01:11) - Myth #1: "Sex drive should be constant"

(00:02:05) - Myth #2: "No desire means a bad relationship"

(00:03:27) - Myth #3: "Real sex requires penetration"

(00:04:05) - Myth #4: "Orgasms are the goal" (this one will shock you)

(00:04:30) - Myth #5: "Relationship sex is always better"

(00:05:50) - Upcoming adult sex education masterclass

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance...

Some people say kink is just about pain. Others think it’s only for people with trauma. Some have never given it a second thought—and then there are those who know exactly what their kink is… or at least think they do. But what if kink is about more than any of that?

In this episode, I sit down with Sir Leezus, a sensual sadist and erotic power exchange expert, to talk about what really draws people into kink. Is it healing? Is it about control? Is it even sex at all? For some, kink happens without a single touch below the belt—but the emotional intimacy? That can run deeper than any bedroom encounter.

We explore why so many people—especially in midlife—start to unlock new layers of desire after years of silence or shame. And how things like spanking, submission, and even humiliation can become powerful tools for rediscovering connection, pleasure, and self-trust.

If you’ve ever felt like something’s missing, or like your desires don’t fit the standard mold… this conversation might make more sense than you expect. Let’s get into it.

In This Episode:

(00:00) - Introduction

(00:40) - Sir Leezus: His roles as sex educator, kink advisor, and "sensual sadist dominant."

(01:13) - What is a sensual sadist dominant?

(02:20) - BDSM vocab 101: Bondage, Dominance, Submission & Sadomasochism

(04:00) - Can kink be healing from past trauma?

(07:20) - Does BDSM always involve sex?

(09:06) - Pain and pleasure: Understanding masochism

(11:42) - How midlife women discover kink (and what opens them up)

(15:25) - Safety, vetting, and how to trust a partner in kink

(19:16) - Definitions: Dom vs. Top, Sub vs. Bottom, Switches

(21:46) - What’s a Stag and Vixen dynamic?

(22:54) - Hotwifing vs. Cuckolding

(24:50) - Penis humiliation? Understanding the mental side of masochism

(25:58) Relationship between certain kinks and past trauma

(26:06) - Reclaiming trauma through consensual non-consent

(27:35) - Sir Leezus defines sex in his own words

(28:18) - Where to find and work with Sir Leezus



Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Sir Leezus is a performance artist, sensual sadist, and BDSM educator with years of experience in erotic power exchange and kink dynamics. He offers private sessions, coaching, and education to individuals and couples who want to explore new layers of intimacy, pleasure, and consent. Known for his approachable yet deeply knowledgeable style, he’s on a mission to break down shame and open up new

Some people say kink is just about pain. Others think it’s only for people with trauma. Some have never given it a second thought—and then there are those who know exactly what their kink is… or at least think they do. But what if kink is about more than any of that?

In this episode, I sit down with Sir Leezus, a sensual sadist and erotic power exchange expert, to talk about what really draws people into kink. Is it healing? Is it about control? Is it even sex at all? For some, kink happens without a single touch below the belt—but the emotional intimacy? That can run deeper than any bedroom encounter.

We explore why so many people—especially in midlife—start to unlock new layers of desire after years of silence or shame. And how things like spanking, submission, and even humiliation can become powerful tools for rediscovering connection, pleasure, and self-trust.

If you’ve ever felt like something’s missing, or like your desires don’t fit the standard mold… this conversation might make more sense than you expect. Let’s get into it.

Timestamps:

(00:00) - Introduction

(00:47) - Sir Leezus: His roles as sex educator, kink advisor, and "sensual sadist dominant."

(01:18) - What is a sensual sadist dominant?

(02:23) - BDSM vocab 101: Bondage, Dominance, Submission & Sadomasochism

(03:53) - Can kink be healing from past trauma?

(07:18) - Does kink always involve sex?

(08:37) - Pain and pleasure: Understanding masochism

(10:42) - How midlife women discover kink (and what opens them up)

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Sir Leezus is a performance artist, sensual sadist, and BDSM educator with years of experience in erotic power exchange and kink dynamics. He offers private sessions, coaching, and education to individuals and couples who want to explore new layers of intimacy, pleasure, and consent. Known for his approachable yet deeply knowledgeable style, he’s on a mission to break down shame and open up new paths to pleasure.

Connect with Sir Leezus:

Website: https://sirleezus.com/

Instagram: https://instagram.com/sirr.leezus

Available for sessions, performances, and kink consultations.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative...