People pleasing, or authenticity suppression as we like to call it, is a natural adaptive mechanism humans have used for centuries to attain approval, acceptance, and ultimately, safety. While in conscious, small doses this social mirroring can help us feel connected and related to others, it can also begin to erase our sense of self and our confidence if used too much.

People pleasing is not just constantly saying 'yes' or overextending yourself...it also exists in more subtle, hidden ways that are often internalized. Perhaps it's the way you lie about your favorite music to seem more agreeable or refuse to pick a place to eat in the feared event that someone else disagrees with you. It's not always in your behaviors but often found in your unclaimed truths.

In this episode, we talk about the ways you might still be people pleasing without even realizing it. By listening to this conversation, you will become aware of the sneaky ways your unconscious might still be placing others' approval before your own self respect and values.

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We can't believe it's been 3 years now since we decided to go ALL IN on the podcast. There’s been SO much healing, re-learning and letting go in these past 3 years and somehow it’s possible to sum up the hardest, most valuable lessons we have gained on our journeys together.

So in this episode, we reviewed the top FIVE LESSONS WE WISH WE KNEW SOONER.

Of course, we don’t actually wish we knew them sooner because every experience is what truly allowed us to integrate the medicine and the wisdom of the lessons…but dang it would have been nice!!!

These were the lessons that once had us spiraling lower, fighting against life and ourselves. But ALL OF IT…was for us. To be honest, this was one of our favourite conversations to date because it chronicles the journey, which is the very best part.

So let us know if you resonate with these five lessons and where you are on your journey in the free community!

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We are throwing it back to the incredible in-person conversation we had with Danielle LaPorte, where we explored a question so many of us face on our healing journey: When is enough, enough?

It’s easy to get caught in the cycle of endless self-improvement, feeling like there’s always more to fix, heal, or grow upon. But what if the things that are meant to help us are actually keeping us stuck? Danielle shares her experience of filling her schedule with astrology readings, therapy sessions, and shamanic healings, only to realize that more work wasn’t the answer. The answer was love.

She realized that we often chase healing like it’s a finish line, believing that if we just do enough inner work, we’ll finally feel whole. But what if true healing isn’t about more effort, but about surrender? In this episode, Danielle invites us to shift from self-improvement to self-acceptance, offering a perspective that is both radical and freeing.

A member of Oprah’s SuperSoul 100 and the author of How to Be Loving, Danielle’s wisdom is both grounded and transformative. If you’ve ever felt exhausted from “doing the work,” this conversation will be a breath of fresh air.

Episode Highlights:

-The real purpose of the ego and why we shouldn’t try to kill it

-Why Danielle stopped going to therapy

-How to tell if you're acting from your wounded self vs. healed self

-The shift from reacting to the mind to living from the heart

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We're throwing it back to this transformational episode with coach Xavier Dagba about the "dark night of the soul." Xavier shares his raw journey—disappointing his parents, dropping out of school (on a full scholarship!), and even facing homelessness—before finally stepping into his true gifts.

We unpack the messy, necessary process of embracing your purpose, becoming the “villain” in someone else’s story, and trusting your path even when it feels like sh!t. If you're breaking old patterns and stepping into your next evolution, this episode is for you.

🔥 We dive into:

-The "Dark Night of the Ego" & shadow careers

-Coming out of the "spiritual closet"

-Owning your light without apology

-Ego vs. Spirit: Who’s really talking?

-Embracing the Fool archetype

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Have you ever wondered, "How do I actually love myself?" or "Why don’t I love myself?"

We get this question ALL the time, and we knew it deserved its own episode because hidden within this seemingly innocent inquiry is one of the biggest blocks to true self-love. The very way we ask the question can make self-love feel like a destination—or something we either have or don’t—when in reality, self-love is not a static state of being but a lifelong practice.

Self-love isn’t about reaching a permanent state of happiness, confidence, or unshakable worthiness. It is not about feeling good all the time or never struggling with doubt again. Instead, it’s about cultivating an ongoing, compassionate relationship with yourself—one where you meet yourself with kindness even when you feel unworthy, show up for yourself even when you’re struggling, and commit to loving yourself not just on your best days, but especially on the hardest ones too.

So in this episode, we break down the illusory myths about self-love to explore what it ACTUALLY looks like in everyday life, and share the mindset shifts that make love for yourself feel not just possible, but natural and maybe even already present within you.

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We're all about healing and becoming self-aware of your limiting patterns here on the Spiraling Higher podcast...but not ALL self-awareness needs to be so serious or in service to fixing parts of yourself that you deem problematic. Self-awareness also includes knowing and appreciating all of the AMAZING, fun, delightful parts of yourself too!

It's easy to forget how many incredibly awesome things there are to know and love about ourselves when we are constantly being bombarded with ways to "fix" or improve ourselves. We wanted this episode to be a reflection of the fact that healing can also be light by taking the opportunity to share the beautiful things we love about each other.

Our loved ones can sometimes see us more clearly than we can see our own selves because they see us through the eyes of love, as opposed to our own judgmental eyes. Sometimes all we can see in ourselves is darkness when the truth is that we are far more than our patterns.

This fun conversation seeks to remind you that you are bigger than the patterns you've become aware of and that your self-awareness is incomplete if it does not include wonderfully positive things about yourself.

We hope you will try the fun exercise we did on yourself or with a loved one! You might be surprised to see what they see in you :)

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It’s time to rethink quitting.

In this episode, we challenge the negative connotations of quitting and aim to help you discern when it’s time to keep going vs when it’s time for something new to be birthed.

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People often see quitting as a failure or a hard stop—but what if instead, we could see it as an adjustment, a fine-tuning of your path that opens doors to new possibilities.

If you’ve ever struggled with the fear of quitting, worried about what others might think, or felt trapped in the pressure to monetize every passion, this conversation will meet you exactly where you are. We unpack the emotions behind quitting and how to trust yourself when facing uncertainty.

This episode is a reminder that life is about conscious choices, embracing the unknown, and being okay with evolving beyond old beliefs. We also share personal insights and stories about how we've discerned between closing a chapter or continuing forward.

Highlights:

- Why manifestation is about the journey, not just the destination

- The joy of anticipation and its impact on fulfillment

- Challenging societal views on quitting

- Trusting yourself when embracing the unknown

- Quitting as a sign of growth and evolution

- The importance of making decisions without justification

- Separating your passions from the pressure to monetize

ALSO!!! In this episode, we chatted about finally making MERCH one day...and we actually did just that over the break!!! Check out the link below to purchase the first ever Spiraling Higher sweatshirts and mug and support us with your high vibe goodies:

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Our most highly anticipated guest from last year finally accepted our DM request to come on the pod and de-mystify the most common (and stressful) relational dynamic: ANXIOUS + AVOIDANT.

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If you have ever been in a relationship, or supported someone in one, then you KNOW how distressing it is to deal with feeling like your partner doesn't care about your feelings OR as if their feelings are TOO MUCH. Unfortunately, these two types of people often attract each other...and without proper awareness or the development of regulation skills, these two people will harm each other over and over until there is no longer a sense of closeness or intimacy anymore.

What's sad about this dynamic is that both people DO care, and ultimately desire closeness, but what actions make each of them feel emotionally safe in the relationship are different. Learning the difference between these needs, their origins, and how to appreciate them without self-abandoning is the key to creating a healthier dynamic that can repair fully after typical ruptures, which even secure attached couples experience!

Whether you're familiar with attachment theory already or not, this conversation reveals the secret ingredient for creating secure attachment and is going to help you identify which attachment style you may have AND how to heal it instead of projecting your needs and insecurities onto your partner. No matter if you identify as anxious, avoidant, disorganized...there are tools for you to become a safer, secure person for yourself AND as a partner in a relationship.

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