First sexual experiences can be messy, magical, confusing, or completely unexpected — and for queer people, they often come with extra layers of identity, uncertainty, and unspoken questions.

In this episode, we’re joined by Dr. Mallory — a sexologist and educator — to unpack how cultural narratives, internalized pressures, and a lack of clear communication can shape queer first times. Together, we explore the myths, the realities, and why consent and self-trust are so essential.

And in a moving listener story, you’ll hear how one man’s first time wasn’t a single moment, but a personal journey that unfolded over years.

Whether you’re still figuring things out or reflecting on your own past, this episode is for anyone who’s ever felt unsure, unseen, or just... human.

Join host Mary Jane on this episode of "Sexual Encounters: The Very First Time" as we delve deep into the intricate ways culture, religion, and societal expectations shape our first sexual experiences. Through captivating narratives and expert insights from UK-based sexologist Silva Neves, the podcast explores how virginity is perceived across the globe, breaking down long-standing myths surrounding it.

This episode also addresses the emotional complexity of first times, whether growing up in silence in a conservative household or navigating the assumed ease of a sex-positive environment. We discuss how to move away from shame and towards a journey of continuous sexual development.

Whether your first experience was shaped by cultural expectations, religious teachings, or personal beliefs, this conversation seeks to empower you with understanding and acceptance. Tune in to hear these important conversations that aim to transform how we view first sexual encounters.

Welcome to Sexual Encounters, the very first time, where Mary Jane hosts an open conversation about the often unspoken emotional aspects of first sexual experiences. This episode delves into how these firsts shape our self-perception and relationships, featuring insights from renowned sexologist, Dr. Markie, who recently received the 2025 Sexuality Educator Award. Dr. Markie helps to debunk common myths about how we are 'supposed' to feel after our first time, exploring concepts of intimacy, passion, and commitment as part of healthy relationships.

Listeners get to explore common narratives like the expectation for the first time to feel magical if it is with the right person, or the idea that one's partner will naturally take the lead. Through humorous and profound insights, the episode encourages openness and communication in sexual relationships, emphasizing the importance of consent and self-awareness.

As Mary Jane and Dr. Markie challenge these preconceived notions, they offer a fresh perspective on embracing each unique emotional experience. The episode invites listeners to share their stories, fostering a deeper understanding and appreciation for the diverse realities of first sexual encounters.