The Change Cycle: How to Bounce Back Better Than Ever

Setbacks are an inevitable part of life. While they can feel overwhelming, they also present unique opportunities for growth and transformation. Embracing the emotions that accompany these challenges is crucial for moving forward effectively.

Host Tonya Leigh shares insights from her recent quarterly retreat with her leadership team. She emphasizes the importance of regular check-ins to maintain momentum and accountability in both personal and professional growth. Tonya discusses the inevitable setbacks we face in life and how they are essential for appreciating the highs and teaching us valuable lessons. Whether you're currently thriving or facing challenges, this episode serves as a reminder that lows can help us shed what no longer serves us and pave the way for renewal and growth.

Tune in for an uplifting conversation that encourages self-reflection and resilience.

Talking Points:

Mid-Year Reset: Strategies to Transform Your Life in Six Months

To create your best six months ever, it is essential to start by defining what "best" means for you personally. This involves taking the time to reflect on your desires, aspirations, and what success looks like in your life. Tonya Leigh emphasizes that many people fail to define success clearly, which can lead to feelings of dissatisfaction and confusion. By asking yourself, "If I woke up six months from now and said this was my best season yet, what would have made it so?" you can gain clarity on the specific outcomes and experiences you want to achieve.

Tonya reflects on the halfway point of 2025 and encourages listeners to evaluate their feelings about the year so far. She shares her personal experience of needing a reset after feeling off track and discusses the importance of shifting one’s perspective to create the best next six months.

Tune in for insights on becoming more of your authentic self and setting the stage for an empowered second half of the year.

Talking Points:

00:34 - Mid-Year Reflection: How Are You Feeling?
03:21 - The Importance of Becoming an Energetic Match
06:10 - General Tips for the Next Six Months
08:07 - Tonya's Social Media Breakthrough
13:05 - Stepping into a New Role
17:27 - Stop Giving CPR to Your Past
20:31 - Rehearsing Your Future
24:47 - Deciding to Have Your Best Six Months Ever

Quotes:

"The real secret is you being an energetic match for what it is you want, to be aligned with what you want."

"It is going to be a complete energetic expansion. It's going to be you deciding to step into a whole new role."

"Stop giving CPR to your past."

"When you expand your self-image, you immediately expand what's possible for you."

"Rehearse your future until she feels so familiar."

"Let's all decide right now that we are about to create our best six months ever."

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Little Details, Big Impact: How Small Changes Can Transform Your Life

Emotional Regulation: The New Discipline for a Chaotic World

Emotional regulation has become an essential skill for personal growth and success, especially in today's fast-paced and often chaotic world. The ability to manage one's emotional responses, rather than attempting to control external circumstances, is crucial for effectively navigating life's challenges.

Tonya Leigh explores the crucial concept of emotional regulation in today's fast-paced and divisive world. Tonya emphasizes that instead of trying to control external circumstances, our true power lies in managing our emotional responses. She begins with a personal check-in, encouraging listeners to assess their feelings on a scale from zero to ten.

Despite facing significant challenges, including her father's illness and business setbacks, Tonya shares how her commitment to self-work has helped her maintain a positive outlook, rating her emotional state as a nine. The episode highlights the importance of nurturing our nervous systems and offers insights into overcoming fear of the future.

Tune in for valuable strategies on how to cultivate emotional resilience and thrive in turbulent times.

Talking Points:

00:44 - Self-Check: How Are You Feeling?
02:09 - Fear of the Future and Self-Image
04:45 - Understanding Self-Image and State of Being
08:42 - Subconscious Blocks and Self-Image
11:51 - External Control vs. Internal Regulation
15:01 - Self-Soothing and Mothering Yourself
18:44 - Regulation in Entrepreneurship
22:42 - New You, New Nervous System
23:14 - Join the School of Self-Image

Quotes:

"Regulation is the new discipline because we are living in some wild times."

"If you don't decide on purpose, if you don't take ownership of that, you are going to have a very dysregulated nervous system."

"A lot of us are just walking around as children in adult bodies."

"When you start becoming this person for yourself, you will be amazed at what you're capable of."

"I'm going to be the one that changes. That's when miracles happen."

"When you can regulate your nervous system and you don't freak out, when you have that ability to just take a pause, go in, take some breaths, calm yourself down, remind yourself, I'm safe in this moment."

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The Power of Believing: How to Cultivate Unshakable Faith in Yourself

To have unshakable faith in your future, you need three types of faith:

1. Faith in Your Future: Believe in your vision and choose thoughts that make your future feel exciting and aligned.

2. Faith in Yourself: Trust yourself and keep promises to yourself. This builds self-confidence and reduces fear of the future.

3. Faith in the Process: Trust that every experience, good or bad, is part of your evolution. Life's challenges are stepping stones to something meaningful.

Host Tonya Leigh explores the transformative power of unshakable faith in shaping our actions, mindset, and resilience during uncertain times. Tonya shares her excitement about an upcoming workshop focused on cultivating inner calm and confidence, emphasizing the importance of believing in our ability to rise and thrive. She reflects on her personal journey of shedding subconscious patterns over the past six months, revealing how this growth has prepared her to bring a renewed perspective to the workshop.

Tune in to discover how to strengthen your faith in the future and embrace the changes necessary for personal development.

Talking Points:

01:15 - Shedding Layers
03:35 - Excitement About the Future
06:16 - Believing Before Seeing
08:47 - Unshakable Faith in Your Direction
11:49 - Three Types of Faith Needed
17:09 - Keeping Promises to Yourself
20:00 - Criticism and Staying True to Yourself
24:17 - Falling in Love with the Process
25:11 - Connection Between Faith and a Calm Body
26:04 - Visualization Exercise

Quotes:

"None of us are here to live a small life."

"More than ever, we need to have faith in our futures because faith acts as an anchor during uncertainty."

"Why not take back imaginative control as to what you want to think and believe about your future?"

"The beauty of having unshakable faith in yourself is that you stop being afraid of the future."

"It's when we doubt our future, when we doubt ourselves and we doubt the process. That's when we don't show up."

"Your future is shaped by the faith that you practice today."

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Unshakeable: Redefining Success on Your Own Terms

In the pursuit of success, many individuals find themselves chasing external markers—such as wealth, recognition, or status—believing that these achievements will bring them happiness and fulfillment. However, as discussed in the podcast episode, true success, or "elegant success," is fundamentally about creating a life that aligns with your personal values and brings genuine satisfaction.

Host Tonya Leigh explores the concept of elegant success—success that is rooted in personal values, alignment, and ease, rather than societal pressures to do more and be more. Tonya shares her reflections on the importance of creating a fulfilling life that feels good on the inside, as well as the challenges many are facing in today's uncertain world. Drawing from her personal experiences, including navigating her own emotional landscape during difficult times, she emphasizes the significance of managing one's nervous system and internal world to cultivate resilience and peace.

Tune in for insights that challenge traditional definitions of success and encourage listeners to redefine what it means to thrive.

Talking Points:

00:33 - Rethinking Success

01:15 - Uncertainty and the Nervous System

03:02 - Leading Through Uncertainty

05:44 - Elegant Success: What No One Tells You

07:08 - The Messiness of Success

10:07 - Life and Business Changes

13:10 - Trusting Your Gut

16:21 - Releasing with Grace

18:05 - Feeling Lost Before Clarity

20:15 - Shedding Old Identities

23:04 - The Emptiness of Misaligned Success

25:01 - Reconnecting with Your Essence

26:05 - Navigating Back to Your North Star

Quotes:
"What if the real flex is creating a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside?"

"Elegant success is creating the life you desire without abandoning yourself in the process."

"I've encountered so much peace by just accepting that it's going to feel elegant and then it's going to feel messy again."

"You cannot evolve and expect everyone to come with you."

"The doubt that you may be feeling, well, it's not failure, it's just feedback."

"I started to trade my truth for someone else's checklist, and I was shaping my life around approval instead of alignment."

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Three Moments That Almost Broke Me—and Made Me Stronger

Life is a journey filled with ups and downs, and it is often during our most challenging moments that we discover our true strength. In the latest episode of the School of Self-Image, Tonya Leigh shares her personal experiences of facing adversity and how these moments ultimately shaped her into a stronger, more resilient version of herself.

Tonya opens up about her own transformative life moments that felt overwhelmingly challenging. She shares her vulnerability in recording this episode, revealing the resistance she faced and the importance of showing the raw, real version of ourselves. Tonya discusses the concept of wabi-sabi, an ancient Japanese philosophy that appreciates beauty in imperfection and incompleteness, contrasting it with our perfection-obsessed culture.

Join her as she explores how the toughest experiences can ultimately shape and strengthen our character. Tune in for an inspiring conversation on embracing our flaws and the growth that comes from life's challenges.

Talking Points:

00:33 - The Challenge of Vulnerability
01:38 - Embracing Imperfection: The Wabi-Sabi Philosophy
02:31 - Life's Breaking Points
04:06 - Moment 1: Divorce and Single Motherhood
07:04 - Moment 2: Battling an Eating Disorder
13:17 - Moment 3: Daughter's Illness and Personal Sacrifice
22:42 - Reflections and Lessons Learned
25:19 - Encouragement for Those Struggling
26:03 - Embracing the Journey

Quotes:

"It wasn't breaking me. It was making me unbreakable."

"It's okay to ask for help. It's okay to be supported. It's okay to not know how to do this on your own."

"No matter how down you think you are, don't give up on yourself because remember, those moments, they're what's making you stronger."

"I think the biggest gift that came out of this was... she appreciates and takes care of herself in such a way that I don't think she would have had this not happened."

"You don't give up on the dream, but you may have to adjust your goals."

"You are not falling apart. You're actually falling into yourself."

"It doesn't mean that you're weak. It means that you're human."

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The Lightning Strike: A Wake-Up Call to Live Fully

In our fast-paced lives, it's easy to let moments slip by unnoticed, overshadowed by distractions and the constant hum of to-do lists. However, as Tonya Leigh emphasizes in this episode, life doesn't need to be grand to feel fulfilling; it simply needs to be fully lived. The key to unlocking joy, clarity, and confidence lies in maximizing our moments.

Tonya shares a deeply personal story inspired by a frightening experience during a flight from Charlotte to Boston. While 15,000 to 20,000 feet in the air, an unexpected flash of light shook the plane, sending passengers into a panic. Tonya recounts her reaction of stillness amidst chaos, highlighting the importance of maximizing moments in life. She emphasizes that life doesn't need to be bigger to feel better; rather, it requires a fuller experience.

Join Tonya as she explores how to unlock more joy, clarity, and confidence in your everyday moments. Grab your tea or coffee and prepare for an enlightening discussion on living fully.

Talking Points:

00:43 - Tonya's Scary Flight Experience
03:23 - Realization of Life's Value
05:09 - What Really Matters
07:16 - How We Minimize Moments
09:53 - Deep Presence and Awareness
13:23 - Focusing on Lack vs. Appreciation
18:10 - Wealth and Maximizing Resources
22:28 - Investing in Inspiration
24:46 - Living in Gratitude

Quotes:

"It woke me up to what really, really matters."

"As long as I have my life, I have possibility."

"When you are present, you'll realize you're okay in this moment without all of the mental drama."

"The practice of appreciation will change your life."

"Focusing on what you already have and maximizing it will lead to discoveries and results that will expand your life."

"The best way to do that is to make here so full that you outgrow it."

"You don't need more time. You just need more aliveness in the time you already have."

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