Episode Overview:

In this thought-provoking episode of "Say What You Need to Say," hosts Thea and Tandy dive deep into the complex topic of patriarchy, its far-reaching impacts, and how we can work towards dismantling it. Key Points DiscussedUnderstanding Patriarchy

• Definition: A social system where men hold the primary amount of power and privilege
• Impact: Leads to gendered and intersectional inequalities, disparities in education and employment, and normalization of gender-based violence

• Women can inadvertently perpetuate patriarchal norms
• Importance of questioning and challenging these norms

• Affects everyone, regardless of gender
• Dismantling it requires active exploration, curiosity, and a shift in mindset

• Practical self-care practices to resist patriarchy
• Importance of rest, movement, and pleasure in prioritizing well-being

• "Patriarchy is not only pushed forward by men or male-prescribing bodies, humans. So if you identify as male, that doesn't mean that you're patriarchal."
• "Go get you an orgasm, because that will also do the trick too."
• "Dismantling internalized patriarchy is everyone's work. It is not just about being mad at men and dismantling it frees men as well."
• The Role of Women Internalized Patriarchy Resistance and Self-Care

Notable Quotes Episode Breakdown

00:00 - Introduction and Defining Patriarchy06:22 - Recognizing the System and the Need for Change

11:18 - The Slow Process of Shifting the System

16:21 - Practical Self-Care Practices for Resisting Patriarchy

19:24 - The Sneaky Ways Women Perpetuate Patriarchy

30:40 - Dismantling Internalized Patriarchy: Everyone's Work

40:54 - Conclusion, Next Steps, and Takeaway Understanding and dismantling patriarchy is a collective responsibility that requires ongoing effort, self-reflection, and action from all members of society.

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In this episode of "Say What You Need to Say," Thea and Tandy explore marital expectations, cultural differences, and personal growth. Thea reflects on her marriage, navigating patriarchal dynamics, and the evolution of roles in relationships.

Key Topics Discussed:

• Confusing Street Names: Thea shares amusing GPS mispronunciations in Houston and Austin and the quirky significance of street names.

• Tarot Insights - The 6 of Voices: Tandy interprets the tarot card's symbolism of transition and trusting the universe without a clear plan.

• Marital Reflections and Cultural Differences: The challenges and cultural dynamics in marriage and the impact of entrepreneurial pursuits.

• Patriarchal Culture and Expectations: The influence of patriarchal norms on relationships, including internalized pressures among clients and herself.

• Identity and Self-Discovery: Thea's journey post-separation, changing her name, and evolving understanding of her identity.

• Raising Children and Relationship Dynamics: Challenges in co-parenting and maintaining mutual support and understanding.

• Breaking the "Good Wife" Mold: Thea's rejection of traditional wife roles and the continuous evolution required in partnerships.

• Personal Growth and Future Relationships: Thea's shift towards self-care, authenticity, and thoughts on future relationships.

• Family Influences and Trauma: Impactful advice from family members on marriage and Thea's adoption journey.

• Final Thoughts on Partnership and Balance: Navigating relationship expectations and achieving mutual balance in partnerships.

Memorable Quotes:

• "Just because it was like this when we got married, doesn't mean that it's working now. Sometimes partnerships have to be reworked."

• "I used to like the idea of the 'good wife,' but now I don't subscribe to it."

Actionable Takeaways:

• Set Clear Expectations: Communicate openly about roles and expectations.

• Prioritize Self-Care: Ensure personal well-being to support the relationship.

• Embrace Change: Adapt and grow together.

• Challenge Patriarchal Norms: Address internalized behaviors for equitable relationships.

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• Follow Thea: ⁠goddesshood.co⁠

• Follow Tandy: ⁠tandy_gutierrez⁠

Resources:

• ⁠Unicorn Wellness Studio - Magical Mentoring with Tandy⁠

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Episode Summary

Thea and Tandy dive into a lively discussion about the hit TV series Bridgerton, exploring why two feminists enjoy the show and addressing some common questions they've received about it. They offer their perspectives on character development, feminist themes, and the show's portrayal of relationships and pleasure.

• Why Thea and Tandy, as feminists, enjoy watching Bridgerton

• Character analysis, including Eloise's development and privilege

• The show's focus on female pleasure and relationships

• Comparisons to other period dramas like The Great

• Music choices and their impact on the viewing experience

• Thoughts on the adaptation from book to screen

• The hosts discuss the feminist roots of gossip as a way for women to share information and keep each other safe

• They explore the character development of Eloise and her journey of self-discovery

• Thea and Tandy share their team preferences: Team Penelope vs. Team Eloise

• They touch on the dopamine response triggered by listening to music from one's teens and early twenties

This episode contains spoilers for the Bridgerton series. Listeners who haven't watched the show may want to be aware of potential plot revelations.

Find Thea and Tandy on Instagram and other social media platforms to continue the conversation about Bridgerton and other topics discussed on the show.

Resources:

• Queen’s Podcast - 4 Part Series on Catherine the Great

• • Part 1

  • Part 2

  • Part 3

  • Part 4

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