If you've ever found yourself trying to stay calm in a heated meeting—or keeping your cool with a tantruming child—you know: try harder is not the answer.

In this week’s episode of The Mental Offload, I continue my powerful conversation with nervous system expert Jane Pilger. We dive deep into how you can regulate your nervous system—and help others regulate, too—even in the midst of difficult conversations.

We explore the real reason emotional spirals happen, even when we think we’re "fine." More importantly, you'll learn how to work with your body’s built-in systems to stay grounded, even when the world around you is anything but.

This is about leadership from the inside out—whether you're managing a colleague gone rogue, an adult toddler, or an actual toddler.

What You'll Learn:

• The critical difference between feeling safe and actually being safe (and why it matters for every conversation you have)

• Why "tough love" doesn’t work (and what does)

• How to use co-regulation intentionally—at work, with your kids, and with your partner

• What to do when the person you're talking to isn't capable of rational discussion in the moment

If you want to lead with more presence, power, and peace…this episode is a must-listen.

For more information, visit The Mental Offload.