Why do grown-ups still throw tantrums? And why does doing the right thing sometimes feel awful?

In this episode, Charles and Dan dive into Chapters 7 and 8 of The Let Them Theory—where emotional maturity meets real-life discomfort. We unpack how adults act like kids (just with more email silence and fewer juice boxes), how to hold your ground when someone else is spiraling, and why making the right move often feels like the wrong one—especially when it shakes the whole “family web.”

Also in this episode:

• How to spot emotional regression in the wild
• Letting others ride their emotional waves (without jumping in)
• The myth of the “perfect” breakup or resignation
• Why 90 seconds of discomfort beats years of quiet resentment
• And the timeless wisdom of not having hard conversations after tequila

This one’s for anyone who’s tired of managing reactions and ready to start honoring their own values.

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In this episode, we break down Chapters 5 and 6 of The Let Them Theory—and the exhausting pressure to manage what other people think. From family dynamics to workplace image, we dig into codependence, covert contracts, people-pleasing, and the false belief that being lovable means being perfect.

We talk resentment, approval addiction, emotional manipulation disguised as virtue, and why trying to control others’ perceptions will wreck your relationships—and your sanity.

Also in this episode: monkey brains, emotional math, romantic breakups, and what happens when you stop performing and start showing up as yourself.

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In this episode of Mindfully Masculine, Charles and Dan dive into Chapters 3 and 4 of The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins—where things get uncomfortably real about stress, overreaction, and the fantasy of control. From checkout-line rage to masculine stoicism, this conversation blends psychology, philosophy, and a fair bit of sarcasm.

We cover:

• Why your brain reacts to traffic like it’s a war zone
• The myth of “taking control” vs. the power of staying calm
• Stoicism: misunderstood, misused, and still incredibly useful
• What masculinity looks like under pressure (hint: it’s not loud)
• The ABC Loop: how meaning hijacks your response
• Why reacting with less intensity is still a heroic choice

Charles admits he's (occasionally) open to being wrong. Dan shares his personal stress hacks. And both wrestle with what it really means to pause, respond, and lead with clarity—especially when your nervous system has other plans.

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