Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Beth Sparksfire — the Queen of Hacienda, New York’s legendary sex-positive community and party scene.

Together, we dive deep into how to be a thoughtful, respectful, and unforgettable sex party guest. Whether you’re a first-timer or looking to level up, Beth shares the real dos and don'ts from her years curating erotic experiences.

We cover:

• What to know before attending your first sex party

• How to navigate consent, conversation, and energy

• Why curiosity is sexy, but entitlement isn't

• What not to do when you're naked in public

• The importance of aftercare — even at play parties

• Creating safer, queerer, more intentional spaces

• How Hacienda became the gold standard for sex-positive events

• ✨ As always, the unedited version of this episode — plus more about my personal dating life, spicy stories, and access to my Close Friends on IG — is on Patreon!

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Birna Gustafsson, sex educator with a master's in public health and host of Explicit Studies, to talk about the sea of sexual misinformation we’re constantly swimming in—and how to get better at spotting it.

Together, they bust myths that still circulate widely online (even in sex-positive spaces) and explore how shame, purity culture, and bad science shape our sexual health beliefs.

Expect to learn:

• The actual failure rate of pulling out and why it’s riskier than you think

• Why douching is unnecessary—and can be harmful

• Whether you can get pregnant on your period (hint: you can)

• The truth about HPV, oral sex, and throat cancer

• Why orgasms aren’t the only marker of “good sex”

• The dangers of black-and-white sex advice on social media

• How kids are absorbing harmful beliefs from TikTok, porn & uninformed adults

• Why pegging can turn men into better lovers 👀

• Why we must improve sex ed for healthcare professionals

• How to know if your sex advice source is trustworthy

• Birna also shares how she's helping train nurses and midwives to better support patients with inclusive, evidence-based sex education. Plus: her favorite sex ed resources, books, and where to go if you're ready to learn the truth.

  ✨ Want more? Unedited episodes, Alexa's personal dating stories, and her IG Close Friends are all on Patreon: patreon.com/sexwithalexa

  Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up:

  https://beducate.me/alexa-july

In this very juicy and educational episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Jamie Joy, a queer, trans certified sex educator and full-blown fisting aficionado. We dive deep (literally and figuratively) into the world of fisting, from how to prep and practice it safely to the surprising aftercare and emotional intensity it can carry.

We also discuss:

• How to prep for fisting (from hygiene to headspace)

• Differences between vaginal and anal fisting

• Safety tips, including glove use, nails, and douching

• Why fisting is more emotional and intimate than you’d think

• What to do if you're curious about trying it

• Debunking myths about poop, pain, and gay panic

• The role of breath, communication, and pleasure in anal play

• The stigma around anal play—especially for straight men

• Jamie's favorite techniques and their own mold of their fist (yes, really!)

  
  

• You can check out more of Jamie's work here!

  🌈 New to the pod? Subscribe, rate & leave us a review. And if you want unedited episodes + a peek into my personal dating and sex life, join us on Patreon. You’ll also get added to my IG Close Friends list 💌

  Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up:

  https://beducate.me/alexa-june