Child behaviourist Tina chats to her husband and adult child Jarlath Regan about three very revealing questions from listeners this week. If you have a question about any behaviour you are currently trying to cope with, drop the show an email. It's totally confidential. honeyyouareruiningourkid@gmail.com You are never alone. This week we have three very different questions from three very worn out parents.

Question 1-

What do you do when your child has uncontrollable diarrhea? - it runs down your leg like a squishy bit of egg- diarrhea! Diarrhea! But it is no joke when you're trying to manage all the accidents? How can you get the school to sympathise and help you cope? If the doctors are telling you that there is no reason for all the soiling accidents is there any way of improving things for you and your child?

Question 2-

This week a Dad got in touch pleading for help with his 6 year old son. He is an angel at school and a handful at home. They are not coping well with his constant outbursts and demands. He is disrespectful and argumentative with both his parents and they are losing any patience they previously had. Is there any hope? Can they interrupt his pattern of home behaviour. Tina knows where the light at the end of the tunnel can be found. This answer will help all parents.

Question 3

If your child hates their teacher what do you do it they are stuck having the same teacher again the following year? Is there any way of mending the relationship? Surely a teacher should never let it get this far but what do you do or what can you do if they have!! Jarlath and Tina play out the scene and how best to handle it.

Come see Jarlath's standup live www.jigser.com/gigs for all his tour dates including Australia!

We are so excited to be back. Thank you to everyone who has been keeping in touch and who have been so supportive of our parenting podcast.

The last few weeks have been a whirlwind so it’s lovely to be able to sit down together again and try and help dome parents feel less alone.

Question 1-

Tantrums and meltdowns are exhausting for the child and the grown up.

How can we navigate our kids through them? How can we help them regulate their emotions and learn to manage them?

It takes practice. It takes time. Even the worst behaviour can improve. There is always hope. Find the cause of the behaviour and you’ll find the answer to it.

Shout out- To the main man Steve Daly who is officially our favourite person in the world. Listen in to find out why!

Question 2-

With the holiday season approaching how do you tackle the travel with children who have no patience for travelling. Is there a recipe for a successful trip with toddlers? Is it even possible to go a whole flight without a meltdown?

What is required from the parent to ensure that the whole family survives the train, plane or automobile.

Question 3-

Teenagers. We are all afraid of them. Teenage dread is a real panic most parents experience. Will we lose our gorgeous kid to hormones? How much does the responsibility of navigating these teenage years actually fall on our shoulders as parents. The more informed we are of what they are actually experiencing the more we can try to lean into understanding this tumultuous phase of their lives.

Thank you for listening in. We are so happy to be back.

Send in any questions you have to honeyyouareruiningourkid@gmail.com. We will be back in two weeks. www.jigser.com/gigs for tickets to the live Jarlath Regan tour shows.

Just like you guys, our heads are melted after a very busy midterm. As always we are here to help you guys survive and enjoy your kids. We have three great questions to get to today and then we have a very important announcement in this week's episode of Honey You’re Ruining Our Kid.

Question 1-

How do you navigate the terrible twos? When the parents will is challenged by the toddlers will things can get out of control so fast. If your child is refusing to do anything they are asked how do you get them to play ball and live by the family rules?

There are three simple steps which if followed can impact your life immediately, listen in to today’s episode where Tina explains and breaks down the mechanics of each step.

Question 2-

Fussy eaters can drive you round the twist. Worrying about your child getting enough fuel into their body is a never ending stress. What can you do about food refusal? How can you get your kids to explore new tastes? Tina explains her full proof Tina’s Tapas technique. Trust us, this method works every single time.

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Question 3-

Teenagers are they our friends or our foes? We think they shouldn’t be either. Surely our role as their parents is to be their constant. Their rock of stability in this crazy world. How do you navigate the teenage years without losing them completely? Is it even possible to maintain a relationship with your child during these tumultuous years.

Just as discussed in today’s podcast - Honey You’re Ruining Our kid is hitting the pause button. Emails will remain open, we will always be here for you guys but the podcast won’t be recorded for a few weeks. Life is a bit bananas at the moment and we are playing catch up.

Thank you for all your understanding and support. See you soon.

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Is your Mother telling you you're too tough on your kids? Does she think kids shouldn't have chores when back in the day she made you clean the gutters! Welcome back to another episode of our zero judgement parenting podcast. So many questions to get through this week ranging from potty panic to the over bearing grandparent.

Question 1-

The throwing box! What exactly is it? We’ve talked about it loads on the show but this week we realised we have never fully explained the ingredients needed to make one. Listen in to find out what we think should be in your throwing box and how best to make it a success within the walls of your home.

Question 2-

What do you do when the crèche won’t support your toileting efforts. If you’ve laid the ground work but they are unwilling to keep placing the bricks in place.

Is it possible to be successful without their support? If you’re wondering what are the important steps and which is the optimum age to start listen in to this week’s episode to find out our thoughts on all things toilet training.

For our third question about lies and the Irish Mammy Effect on parents please head on over to Patreon www.patreon.com/irishmanabroad

We tend to keep the extra juicy stuff over there and this week is a little ripper!

Email us anytime at honeyyouareruiningourkid@gmail.com. We get back to everyone even if sometimes it can take a little while. No parent left alone.

We open this week’s episode with a little parents guide to parent teacher meetings.School reports are arriving, realities are being brought to your attention and the dreaded parent teacher conferences are just around the corner. How will you navigate them? Listen in to find out.

Question 1-

School refusal is one of the most common problems facing parents worldwide. What do you do when they reach 18 though and the pattern is cemented? How do you emotionally cope with the toll of having to force them out of bed and out of the house every day. When the professionals have let you down what are your options? Is your child doomed to not embrace his/her life? How can you smash this habit?

Question 2-

The mom gaze haunts us all. Other moms making us feel bad about its mumming can stop us asking for help when we really need it. Honey You’re Ruining our Kid exists for this very reason. Zero judgement here. This week a mom gets in touch who is struggling to get her 3 year old to stop asking for the bottle. She’s ashamed that she can’t switch her kid to a zippy cup. Should she Feel this pang of shame or should she just do what suits her and makes her child feel happy and content?

Question 3 will feature over on Patreon. So if you are thirsty for more why not head on over to Patreon for the extra juicy stuff.

Thank you to everyone who is listening in, sharing our pod and who are getting in touch. We really appreciate it.

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www.jigser.com/gigs to come and see Jarlath live!

Happy new year everyone. We hope 2025 is kind to all of you. Just like you we can’t believe we survived another Christmas with our families. With the children finally back at school it’s time to stick that kettle on, pop those feet up and get this podcast into your ears. Today's show is all about those kids that won't open their ears. Whether it results in throwing or tantrums or Mexican stand offs, the impact of a kid that won't listen to their parents can be life altering. In terms of the stress in your day, this one thing can change everything. Tina has some great strategies that will help you and our three questioners.

Question 1

We all know the terrible threes are the new terrible twos. How do you get your three year old to calm down when they are mid stand off, when it has become a battle of the wills, you versus them. Is it even possible. This week we try and arm a very distressed mum with techniques to walk back a few of her kids newly acquired behaviours.

Question 2-

When behaviour moves from acting out to becoming an actual danger to themselves you need to get act fast and get help. It’s okay to ask for help. Some times there is nothing you can do. Sometimes there are bigger reasons for the behaviours. Seek out the supports available in your area in the knowledge that that is the best thing you can do for your kid right now.

Question 3- The Patreon exclusive question looks at a case where the child will only listen to their father. This is causing Mom to question her appraoch to parenting. Tina takes a look at the major trigger points that are proving most difficult with this kid.

Pop over to www.patreon.com/irishmababroad to hear it or go to www.jigser.com/gigs to come and see Jarlath's all new standup show in 2025.

If you're feeling the Christmas frazzle or worried about what's coming from your kids this month, you're in the right place. Tina and I have some great questions and a little bit of a look back at our own childhoods in this one.

Question 1-

The expectation that our children need to be best friends is sometimes too much a burden of responsibility for them to bare. Most siblings argue from time to time. Most siblings long for time to themselves and fairness within the home. What do you do if one sibling has contempt for the other. If it has gotten out of hand and all you can see is now full-on sibling bullying. Is there any way back?

Question 2-

Moving country is such a huge task. Moving your family is even bigger. How do you ensure a smooth transition. It won’t be plain sailing but there are definitely techniques that will help it be less heartbreaking for the little ones you are having to uproot and resow.

Question 3-

Skid marks are always a sign of something else. Ranging from lazy wiping to chronic constipation. How do you puzzle out what is causing the soiling if your little one seems unaware as to why it’s happening?

We would love to wish you all a very merry Christmas. Thank you for supporting our podcast. Emails will remain open over the Christmas holidays. If you need help, Tina be here. honeyyouareruiningourkid@gmail.com

Episode 8 will drop in January. Visit www.jigser.com/gigs to come see Jarlath live on tour. There are worse gifts to be found than comedy tickets.

We are back, Honey! You’re Ruining Our Kid drops every two weeks, which means there is only one more episode before Christmas. So if you need help getting your child ready for the Christmas madness that is approaching fast get in touch. Email honeyyoureruiningourkid@gmail.com.

Question 1-

What do you do about head lice. Once the infestation starts how do you get it under control? Head lice is the secret we all feel we cannot share. A school will send your kid home if they notice you they have lice so why don’t we take it more seriously. I have some really easy ways of staying on top of the nasty buggers. It does mean you need to fall into a routine but trust me it will work.

Question 2-

Every parent fears bedtime. The idea of uninterrupted sleep becomes something you reminisce about. The feeling that it might someday return is something you cling onto when you find yourself in the misery of sleepless nights.

How can you stop your kid coming into your room every night? Is it even possible to break this habit. When you genuinely worry that they are afraid is it easier to just let them sleep in with you rather than battling against the will of your kid.

Question 3-

How do we help our child navigate a death in the family when we ourselves are also consumed with grief. How do you teach them to cope and to remember. Leading with comfortable honesty is definitely something I have observed through the years. When they ask you difficult questions answer them as honestly as you can while respecting your own honestly comfort levels.

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If you are hungry for more why not pop over to Patreon and listen to the extra juicy stuff. Email us anytime at honeyyouareruiningourkid@gmail.com.