190 I made you a special short quiz to determine the level of dysregulation in your unique nervous system. (This episode goes hand in hand with episode 189, so I highly recommend listening to it first, or after you take the quiz.)

Why should you take it? Because as highly sensitive people (and really, as just regular human beings on this planet in these modern times), our nervous systems are often chronically dysregulated.

And this has a major impact in a not-so-great way on our lives in general and especially on our relationships. So you need to understand if you have a nervous system that is dysregulated chronically or that tends to get easily dysregulated.

Unfortunately this can happen even more easily for us than non-HSPs.

When we are dysregulated, we react more strongly than we normally would, in one way or another, and that leads to much more drama, much more struggle in our relationships, and a lot less clear, effective communication, a lot less getting through to our spouses, and being able to really hear each other, a lot less open-heartedness and connection, and a lot less feeling the mutual supportiveness and sense of being on the same team.

So there really are many different ways that nervous system dysregulation can show up to the detriment of your relationship and to the detriment of your life in general.

And you do want to know if it is happening for you so that you can make the necessary changes. Because that's the really good news: you have so much sway over your nervous system regulation or dysregulation. It just can take a little bit of learning and attention to it.

Dive in now with pen and paper in hand.

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Take the Dysregualtion quiz here in written format.

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189 (This episode goes hand in hand with episode 190) Being a highly sensitive person obviously means we are more sensitive than others. This has real ramifications in our love lives— both wonderful and challenging.

Listen in to this VERY revised (almost totally new) version of an older topic, where you will learn that, luckily, you can support your sensitive self in ways that amplify the best parts of your sensitivity, and make the challenges of it so much easier.

. . .and how this will involve caretaking your sensitive Mind Body Heart System, (starting with your nervous system) MORE deeply and consistently than non-HSPs (like it or not!).

In other words, even if you resist the idea, the truth is, in order to have an intimate relationship (and life) that feels deeply satisfying, nourishing, and fulfilling as an HSP, you need to attend more to your emotional well-being and nervous system regulation than non-HSPs.

In this episode you will hear my own story around this, and how, as I’ve accepted this, and learned how to caretake my sensitive nervous system (and sensitive mind, body, heart, and emotions), I’ve fallen in love with doing it. AND how doing so changed EVERYTHING for the better forever in my love life.

This can be true for you, too.

You’ll also learn:

• why love and marriage can be so hard as HSP without truly caretaking your sensitive system in the right ways
• why accepting your higher need for emotional caretaking can be difficult, and why it's more than worth it to do so
• the 4 simple but essential foundational steps to get started with right away to be able to truly caretake your sensitive system
• And the best way to truly regulate the most foundational aspect of your emotional well-being (your nervous system) so you can always be able to guide yourself back to that calm, steady, connected-to-your-heart-and-wisdom place from which you’ll best relate to your significant other in ways that lead to the deepest connection, love, and collaboration, and the most fulfilling intimacy.

Without this emotional tending, the kind of relationship you most want – full of love, lightheartedness, attraction, effective and connecting communication, and mutual supportiveness – is likely to remain elusive.

But with it? You set the stage for what can feel like magic to happen in your relationship. Dive in to begin.

SHOW NOTES:

Take the Dysregulation quiz in the next episode (190) via podcast (it's live!), or here in written format.

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188 Developing healthy boundaries is an absolutely essential part of having a great intimate relationship, especially as highly sensitive people.They are a way to take care of yourself, each other, and the relationship.

I teach 3 types of boundaries, and today we are diving into the 2 psychological, or energetic types of boundaries: Protection boundaries, and containment boundaries. (Please listen to episode 51 for Relationship Boundary Basics.)

When you use these kinds of boundaries skillfully, you will be able to create more closeness in your relationship, and leave beyond patterns and behaviors that create extra division, conflict, and animosity.

The thing is, many HSPs are a bit weak in these particular boundaries. So let’s change that starting now!

Dive in to hear what these two types of boundaries are, whether or not you need to strengthen them for yourself, and how and when to implement them.

For each type, you will hear 2 or 3 tips to grow stronger boundaries (including two visualizations you can use over and over again), so you can feel less pain, resentment, and regret, and be more skillful at communicating and connecting with your partner.

Listen in.

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CHECK OUT THE COURSES MENTIONED:

• Stop Taking It So Personally
• Coaching Privately with Hannah

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