Are you constantly second-guessing yourself, walking on eggshells, or feeling like you're going crazy in a relationship?

You may be experiencing narcissistic victim syndrome—a deeply damaging psychological response to ongoing emotional and psychological manipulation by a narcissist.

In this eye-opening episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I break down exactly what narcissistic Victim syndrome is, how it develops, and the red flags you should never ignore. As a trauma-informed counsellor who specialises in narcissistic abuse recovery, I’ll guide you through the real signs of narcissistic abuse and narcissisti Victim Syndrome, and help you understand the emotional rollercoaster that victims often experience—confusion, anxiety, hypervigilance, low self-worth, and trauma bonding.

Whether it's a narcissistic partner, parent, friend, or boss, this episode will help you identify the manipulative tactics narcissists use—like gaslighting, love bombing, intermittent reinforcement, and devaluation—that leave you emotionally drained and psychologically trapped.

In this episode, we’ll cover:

What narcissistic Victim syndrome really is

Common signs you're being emotionally abused by a narcissist

How narcissistic abuse affects your mental health and identity

Why victims stay and how trauma bonding forms

Steps to begin healing and reclaiming your sense of self

Narcissistic abuse isn’t always obvious—but its effects are long-lasting and real. If you've ever been made to feel like you're the problem, this episode will validate your experience and give you the clarity and language to understand what’s really happening.

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By the time you realise what’s happening, you’re no longer you.

In this eye-opening episode I dive deep into how covert narcissists slowly chip away at, and dismantle your personality, piece by piece.

We’re talking about the subtle manipulation tactics that don’t leave bruises but completely rewrite who you are:

Why covert narcissists target your self-esteem and independence

How they use gaslighting, guilt, and fake concern to erode your confidence

What it feels like when your values, beliefs, and even your sense of humour no longer feel like your own

How survivors often don’t recognise themselves anymore

“You’re not ‘too sensitive’—you’re being conditioned to question your reality.”

Whether the narcissist is a partner, parent, colleague, or friend, the long-term psychological effects of narcissistic abuse are real—and they’re devastating. This episode explores how your core identity is gradually overwritten by a covert narcissist’s control.

“Their goal isn’t to love you—it’s to control who you become.”

If you’ve ever felt like a shell of your former self, or like your personality has been “trained out” of you, this episode will help you make sense of the confusion, reclaim your identity, and start the healing process.

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What if everything you thought you knew about narcissists was just the tip of the iceberg?

In this eye-opening episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I’m revealing 10 of the darkest, most tightly kept secrets narcissists don’t want you to uncover—because once you know, their power starts to crumble.

"A narcissist’s greatest fear is exposure. The moment you see through their mask, the game changes."

These are the secrets they use to:

Manipulate your perception of reality

Keep you hooked through cycles of idealisation and devaluation

Pretend to be the victim while destroying your reputation

And maintain control long after you’ve walked away

Whether you're dealing with a narcissistic partner, parent, co-worker, or friend, this episode will equip you with the insights you need to see their behaviour for what it really is.

"They don’t want you to heal. They want you to doubt yourself forever."

Expect to hear the truth behind:

Why they seem so confident (but are actually deeply insecure)

How they mirror you to win your trust

The real reason they never take responsibility

Why their charm is a calculated act

And how their ‘love’ is just another form of control

"The moment you stop playing their game, they panic."

It’s time to take your power back. The more you understand these dark narcissist secrets, the less influence they’ll have over your mind, emotions, and future.

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Why can’t anyone seem to understand narcissistic abuse — no matter how hard you try to explain it? In this validating episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I break down why victims struggle to put their experience into words and why outsiders often dismiss, minimise, or misunderstand what’s really happening.

I unpack powerful tactics like gaslighting, love bombing, and covert emotional abuse — all designed by the narcissist to stay hidden from others while destroying you behind closed doors. You’ll learn why survivors are left feeling isolated, disbelieved, and even blamed, and how this adds to the trauma.

If you’ve ever felt crazy, exhausted, or alone trying to explain your abuse — this episode will give you clarity, validation, and support. Your pain is real, and it matters.

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In this powerful episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I’m joined by none other than Dr. Sam Vaknin, the world-renowned expert on narcissistic personality disorder and author of the groundbreaking book Malignant Self-Love: Narcissism Revisited. With over 300,000 YouTube subscribers and millions of views, Dr. Vaknin has become one of the most recognised voices globally on narcissism, drawing from decades of research, clinical observation, and personal experience.

Together, we take a deep dive into the narcissist’s destructive cycle of idealisation, devaluation, and discard — the pattern that leaves victims confused, traumatised, and trapped. Dr. Vaknin explains why narcissists go from love bombing you with intense idealisation, to cruelly tearing you down during the devaluation phase, before abruptly discarding you when they’ve extracted everything they need. You’ll learn the psychology behind this cycle, why it repeats, and most importantly, how to recognise it early and protect yourself from further harm.

Dr. Vaknin brings his signature no-nonsense insight, blending clinical knowledge with raw truth that resonates with survivors around the world. Whether you’re dealing with a narcissistic partner, parent, boss, or friend, this conversation will validate your experience and empower you with practical understanding.

Please follow Dr Sam Vaknin on his YouTube channel at https://youtube.com/@samvaknin?si=9L6UYK8vr63gfIEg

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Ever wondered how a narcissist loves — or if they’re even capable of real love at all? In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys I break down the hard truths about what narcissistic love really looks like in romantic relationships, families, and friendships.

You’ll learn why narcissists appear so loving and affectionate at first with intense love bombing, only to later devalue and discard you. I explain the difference between real love and narcissistic love, and why narcissists make you feel like you're walking on eggshells, doubting yourself, and constantly trying to win back their affection.

We explore how narcissistic parents show conditional love through the golden child and scapegoat dynamic, and why narcissistic partners shift from idealising you to tearing you down with silent treatments, manufactured conflict, and emotional manipulation. I also cover the key signs that you’re dealing with narcissistic love — and how to protect your self-worth and reclaim your peace.

If you’ve ever been stuck in the cycle of confusion, asking yourself, Did they ever really love me? this episode will give you the validation and clarity you need to start healing

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Have you ever wondered why certain people seem to become prime targets for covert narcissists? In this revealing episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys I break down exactly what kind of personality traits covert narcissists are drawn to — and why.

From the outside, it might seem like bad luck, but I explain the deeper psychological reasons why these manipulators select partners, friends, and even colleagues who display certain appealing traits. Are you overly empathetic? A chronic people-pleaser? High-achieving but secretly struggling with low self-worth?

Expect to learn:

The top 5 personality traits covert narcissists actively seek out

How your strengths — like kindness and loyalty — can be twisted and weaponised against you

Why boundary issues are often at the core of the narcissist-target dynamic

Red flags that signal when your good nature is being exploited

This episode is packed with insight, validation, and practical strategies to help you recognise the patterns — and break free from them. Whether you're currently stuck in a toxic relationship or reflecting on past encounters, this conversation will empower you to reclaim your self-worth and stop being an easy target.

"Your empathy is your strength — but without boundaries, it becomes your weakness in the hands of a narcissist."

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Ever felt like you were suddenly competing for someone’s love, attention, or approval—without knowing why? You might have been caught in the toxic game of covert narcissistic triangulation.

In this eye-opening episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I dive deep into one of the most painful and manipulative tactics narcissists use: triangulation. Whether it’s with an ex, a friend, a sibling, or even your own child, covert narcissists thrive on creating emotional chaos by pulling in third parties to control, confuse, and hurt you.

I’ll break down what triangulation really looks like, why narcissists do it, how it affects your mental health and self-esteem, and—most importantly—how to recognise it and shut it down. From silent treatment and comparisons to backhanded praise and fake alliances, this episode exposes how narcissists use others to punish you, keep you off balance, and maintain power.

You’ll hear real-life examples from my counselling practice and learn practical tools to detach from the drama, protect your peace, and heal from the emotional damage this cruel tactic leaves behind.

This episode is for you if:

You’ve been compared to others constantly

You feel like someone’s always being used against you

The narcissist in your life brings up their ex way too often

You’ve been turned against someone you once trusted

You're stuck in a toxic triangle that leaves you drained and confused


"The narcissist doesn’t want peace, they want power—and triangulation gives them both."

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