Welcome to The Re-Mind Podcast with Dr Ashleigh Moreland and David Masterton. This week, we’re re-examining a word that gets thrown around everywhere: resilience.

Is resilience always a virtue, or have we misunderstood what it means to “push through”?
Ashleigh and David unpack:

• Why the old definition of resilience (“just push through!”) might actually harm us

• The link between chronic override, burnout, and early mortality

• How resilience is less about “toughening up” and more about adaptability, flexibility, and nervous system health

• The hidden costs of self-abandonment and people-pleasing

• How to check in with your real capacity before you override yourself

• Why it’s okay (and wise) to change your mind and honour your evolving needs

Together, they explore how to shift from dysfunctional “push through” to a more authentic, self-honouring approach to challenges. If you’ve ever felt praised for overriding your needs—or struggled to tell the difference between true resilience and self-neglect—this episode invites you into honest reflection and gentle self-compassion.

• True resilience is about flexibility, not rigidity

• Chronic self-override leads to burnout, illness, and emotional numbness

• Capacity is about more than time—it’s energy, nervous system, and context

• You’re allowed to change your mind as your needs evolve

• The healthiest resilience adapts and honours both inner and outer reality

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