In this episode of the Mind Body Link Podcast, hosts Clancy Barton and Caroline Ashley—international mind coach therapists—explore the profound difference between living externally and living internally, and why this distinction is central to your wellbeing.

Key topics discussed:

• What is External Living?
  • Relying on achievements, validation, and control of outside circumstances for self-worth and security.
  • The “when this, then I’ll be happy” trap and how it leads to anxiety, exhaustion, and a constant sense of unease.
  • How cultural and societal norms reinforce external living, keeping us on a relentless treadmill of doing and achieving.
• The Cost of External Living
  • The toll on your nervous system: living in a constant state of fight, flight, or freeze.
  • Emotional turbulence, mood swings, and the struggle for lasting peace.
  • Real-life client stories illustrating how external living can manifest as chronic anxiety and people-pleasing, and how these patterns often originate in childhood.
• What is Internal Living?
  • Shifting focus from external achievements to inner connection and self-acceptance.
  • Learning to source peace, worth, and emotional balance from within.
  • The role of self-inquiry: asking what situations really mean to you and what beliefs are driving your reactions.
• Why the Shift is Challenging
  • Deeply ingrained subconscious patterns and survival strategies.
  • How hypnosis and emotional clarity tools can help access and rewire these patterns, enabling breakthroughs and lasting change.
• Practical Tools and Guided Exercise
  • A simple, guided breathing and reflection practice to help you notice where you’re seeking external validation and reconnect with your inner needs.
  • Encouragement to slow down, reflect, and begin living from the inside out.
• Takeaway Message
  • You don’t have to keep chasing external fixes. True change and peace are possible when you come home to yourself.
  • Reach out to Clancy and Caroline for support, and share this episode with anyone who might benefit from its message.

Resources

Access the "Take A Moment" exercise mentioned in this episode here.

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Clancy Barton: autoimmunenaturaltreatment.com

Carolanne Ashley: carolanneashley.com
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