This episode might make you ruffle your feathers. If it does, it means I'm hitting a nerve that needs to be hit.

Here's what I'm NOT going to do:

• Pretend that your sticker charts are helping
• Act like time-outs are teaching life lessons
• Tell you that you just need the "right" punishment system

Here's what I AM going to do:

Call out the fact that we've been duped. Manipulated. Sold a lie by two dudes in lab coats who literally thought your child's brain works the same as a pigeon's.

I'm not even kidding. BF Skinner actually said: "Give me a child and I'll shape him into anything."

Your child. A blank slate. Just waiting to be programmed with the right combination of rewards and punishments.

Feeling sick yet? You should be.

I used to be you. Consequence Queen. Time-out Tyrant. The mom who had read all the books and had all the systems.

And then one day, it hits me:

I'm using the EXACT SAME METHODS on my kids that I use on my poodle.

Sit = treat.
Come = treat.
Stop barking = treat.

Clean room = sticker.
Do homework = screen time.
Stop fighting = avoid punishment.

The kicker? My dog was better trained than my kids.

At least she came when I called.

💣 Here's what they don't want you to know:

Those parenting "experts" quoting studies? They're quoting studies done on RATS. On PIGEONS.

They took animals with tiny prefrontal cortexes, trapped them in boxes, and said "Look! Behavior modification works!"

Then they turned to human children, with their complex emotions, their need for connection, their sophisticated reasoning abilities and said "Same thing!"

You know that moment, when you KNOW you shouldn't lose it, but you do anyway? It's because your nervous system is screaming "THIS ISN'T WORKING" so you keep trying to apply pigeon training to a human child.

You're not failing. The behavior mod system is failing you.

Every time you say, "If you don't clean your room, you can't go to your friend's house," you're literally saying:

"I don't believe you have any internal motivation to be a good human, so I have to manipulate you with external controls."

Every. Single. Time.

Still think consequences are teaching responsibility?

Stop asking: "How do I get my kid to _____?" Start asking: "What is my kid trying to tell me?"

Stop thinking: "They know better" Start thinking: "If they could do better, they would"

Stop fixing behavior. Start understanding humans.

⚡ Listen if:

• You've ever thought, "there has to be a better way"
• You're tired of feeling like a prison warden in your own home
• You've noticed consequences work... until they don't
• You want to raise kids who do the right thing even when no one's watching
• You're ready to stop parenting like it's 1952

🚫 Don't listen if:

• You think your kids are manipulating you
• You believe children are inherently selfish and need to be "trained"
• You're looking for a quick fix
• You're not ready to look at your own triggers
• You think connection is "soft" parenting

Ready to stop training and start connecting? Hit play.

But fair warning: You can't unknow what you're about to learn.

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Welcome back to Andee Reads Between the Lines—the series where I read my book Connect Method Parenting out loud and pause to riff, reflect, and spill the real-time truths you won’t find on the printed page.

In this episode, we're kicking off Part One of the book—and we’re not easing in. We're diving headfirst into the deep end of tradition, behavioralism, and the parenting frameworks we think are helping us... but actually aren't.

Here's what's inside:

• 🎯 Why traditional parenting is more about control than connection—and why it’s time to question it
• 🧠 What behavioralism is (spoiler: it's everywhere), and why it’s keeping us stuck
• 🌊 The small boat/ocean metaphor you didn’t know your nervous system needed
• ✨ Four reflection questions that’ll change how you see your child—and yourself
• ❤️ Why your kids need unconditional love most when they mess up the worst

This episode is part pep talk, part paradigm shift, and full-on permission slip to let go of the parenting “rules” that never actually worked for your family in the first place.

This isn’t just a read-aloud. It’s a rebellion in real time. 💥

📌 Links & Resources:

• 💻 Watch this episode on YouTube: Connect Method Parenting Channel
• 🚀 Join the Pivot Parenting Bootcamp (the 8-week journey to becoming unsinkable): More Info
• 📚 Missed Part 1? Go back to Ep #166 to catch the kickoff
• 🧭 Want to go deeper? Check out my next workshop here

Come for the read-aloud. Stay for the "holy crap moments." 💛

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Okay friends, confession time: I'm sitting here in my black hoodie, glasses on, looking like I just rolled out of bed (because let's be real, I kinda did), and I'm about to do something that might be brilliant or might be totally chaotic.

Plot twist: I'm rereading my entire book on the podcast and calling it the I Andee Reads Between The Lines Series.

Like, live. With all my current thoughts. And possibly some tangents about how I'm thinking about CMP right now.

Here's What Went Down:

Started with that gorgeous John Roedel poem that makes me cry every. single. time.

Then I dove into reading my book's intro and had to pause because my 17-year-old daughter gave me a card last night that said "I know I can talk to you about anything and you'll always listen" and NOW I'M CRYING AGAIN.

(Sorry, I'll pull myself together. Maybe. Probably not.)

The Big Takeaways:

Corrective parenting = Playing slots in Vegas (you might win occasionally but you're definitely losing overall)

Connect Method Parenting = Smart pension fund investment (boring metaphor but CONSISTENT GROWTH, baby!)

You already have everything you need inside you (I'm not being woo-woo, I promise, I just know you're AMAZING!!!!)

What's Coming Next:

• Part 1: Get Ready to Go Against Tradition (aka why everything you learned about parenting might be backwards)
• Part 2: Understanding Your Own Behavior (spoiler: it's not actually about the kids 🤯)
• Part 3: How to Connect Consistently (even when you want to hide in the pantry with emergency chocolate)

Random Thoughts That Happened:

• Should I do this live with Q&A? (terrifying but maybe?)
• My hoodie is really cozy
• John Roedel is basically a genius and we should all buy his pink book

Your Mission (Should You Choose to Accept It):

Come along for this wild ride where I re-read my own book and probably say things like "wait, I wrote that?" and "ooh, I was onto something!"

Subscribe, share with that friend who texts you at midnight about their toddler's latest shenanigans, and remember: we're all just trying to raise humans without completely losing our minds.


Find the episode wherever you get your podcasts, and apparently now on YouTube where I'll be fumbling with technology like it's 1999.

🔗 Links Mentioned:

• Grab a copy of John Roedel’s poem collection: Remedy (available on Amazon)
• Subscribe on YouTube: @ConnectMethodParenting
• Learn more about CMP workshops & programs: https://connectmethodparenting.com

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