In this episode of Confident Calm Clutch Car Ride Conversations, host Valerie Alston chats with recruiting expert and former college coach Quincy Lewis-Buggs about the college recruiting process. They cover key topics including when to start the recruiting process, the importance of letting athletes lead their journey, avoiding burnout, and understanding coachability. They also discuss how to practice the process, the importance of receiving feedback, and making informed decisions about college plans. Perfect for sports parents and young athletes looking to navigate the recruiting landscape effectively and confidently.

00:00 Introduction to College Recruiting

01:18 Meet Quincy Lewis-Buggs: Recruiting Expert

01:40 Key Considerations for Starting the Recruiting Process

02:37 Letting Athletes Lead the Process

03:23 The Role of Parents in the Recruiting Journey

04:39 Practicing the Process: Early Steps for Young Athletes

05:40 Understanding Different College Levels and Experiences

09:41 Taking Feedback and Showing Coachability

12:10 Evaluating Advice and Building a Support System

16:49 Final Thoughts and Words of Wisdom

18:43 Discussion Questions and Wrap-Up

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Discussion questions:

• “Do you really want to play in college — or does it feel like someone else wants it more than you do?” -Opens up honest dialogue about motivation and ownership of the journey.
• “If a college coach gave you feedback today — would you be able to take it and grow, or would it shut you down?”- Helps athletes evaluate their coachability and mindset around constructive criticism.
• “Who’s in your support system vs. your inner circle when it comes to making big decisions?” - Encourages thoughtful separation of emotional support from expert guidance.
• “What does your ideal college experience look like — not just softball, but your life outside the game?” - Shifts focus from just chasing a label (D1, D2, etc.) to defining personal success.

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