Join host Valerie Alston in this episode of 'Car Ride Conversations' as she reunites with her dad and former coach for an in-depth discussion on the parent-coach dynamic. Learn about the psychology behind sideline behavior, what separates champion teams, and the mindset shifts that took them from local league to national champions. Valerie and her dad share personal stories from their travel softball journey, valuable leadership lessons, and key insights on building trust, effort, and resilience in young athletes. Perfect for parent-coaches, the episode is packed with practical advice to help strengthen relationships and foster lifelong skills in young athletes. Tune in for actionable prompts designed to spark meaningful conversations during your next car ride. If you enjoy this episode, please leave a review and share it with others who might benefit!

00:00 Introduction: The Parent-Coach Dynamic

01:23 The Psychology of Sideline Behavior

02:17 Building a Winning Team Culture

03:12 Handling Pressure and Maintaining Composure

05:47 Inclusive Coaching and Player Development

10:17 Conversation Prompts for Parents and Kids

13:33 Closing Thoughts and Call to Action

Discussion questions:

1. What do you think matters more to a coach—effort or performance? Why? Follow-up: Have you ever had a game where you gave full effort but still made mistakes? How did it feel?
2. How should a team handle pressure when a game gets tight? Follow-up: What helps you stay calm and focused in big moments? What makes it harder?
3. Why is it important for every athlete to know their role on a team—even if they’re not always playing? Follow-up: What’s one way a coach or teammate could help someone feel more included even when they’re not on the field?
4. How should parents or coaches talk to kids about playing time or position changes?Follow-up: How would you want that feedback to be delivered to you?

Thanks for joining me on Confident, Calm, and Clutch Car Ride Conversations! If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe to the podcast so you never miss a moment. Share it with other parents or coaches who could use a little extra inspiration on the go.

For exclusive tips, tools, and updates join my newsletter at www.confidentcalmclutch.com/newsletter

For more specific tips on building mental toughness, buy my book Confident, Calm and Clutch: How to build confidence and mental toughness for young athletes using sports psychology

Parents join my Facebook group to Help Your Athlete Gain Mental Toughness for Parents

Have an idea for a topic? Submit your idea here.

Questions? Comments? Ideas? Email me: valerie.alston@valstoncoaching.com

Follow Me on:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/valstoncoaching

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/valstoncoaching

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@valstoncoaching9666

In this episode, host Valerie Alston is joined by recruiting expert and former college coach Quincy Lewis-Buggs. They delve into the often overlooked, emotionally charged parent-player dynamic in the college recruiting process. Quincy shares invaluable tips for parents on how to balance being supportive without overwhelming their young athletes. Learn the importance of proactive planning, family meetings, and third-party evaluations. Discover key strategies to ensure that both parents and athletes are on the same page, and gain insights on handling differing expectations and goals. This episode is packed with practical advice to help your athlete feel empowered and supported throughout their college recruiting journey. Whether you're already in the midst of the process or preparing for the future, this episode is a must-listen for every parent and athlete. Don't miss out on essential conversation prompts designed to spark meaningful dialogue and build stronger relationships.

Discussion questions:

1. “If you could design your ideal college experience, what would it look like — both on and off the field?”
2. “Do you feel like we’re on the same page when it comes to your recruiting goals? What do you think we agree on — and what might be different?”
3. “What part of the recruiting process feels exciting to you? What part feels stressful?”
4. “How can I support you better through this process without taking over too much?”

Find the Future First, Softball Second Podcast here: https://www.diamonddynamics.org/podcast.html

Thanks for joining me on Confident, Calm, and Clutch Car Ride Conversations! If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe to the podcast so you never miss a moment. Share it with other parents or coaches who could use a little extra inspiration on the go.

For exclusive tips, tools, and updates join my newsletter at www.confidentcalmclutch.com/newsletter

For more specific tips on building mental toughness, buy my book Confident, Calm and Clutch: How to build confidence and mental toughness for young athletes using sports psychology

Parents join my Facebook group to Help Your Athlete Gain Mental Toughness for Parents

Have an idea for a topic? Submit your idea here.

Questions? Comments? Ideas? Email me: valerie.alston@valstoncoaching.com

Follow Me on:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/valstoncoaching

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/valstoncoaching

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@valstoncoaching9666

In this episode of Confident Calm Clutch Car Ride Conversations, host Valerie Alston chats with recruiting expert and former college coach Quincy Lewis-Buggs about the college recruiting process. They cover key topics including when to start the recruiting process, the importance of letting athletes lead their journey, avoiding burnout, and understanding coachability. They also discuss how to practice the process, the importance of receiving feedback, and making informed decisions about college plans. Perfect for sports parents and young athletes looking to navigate the recruiting landscape effectively and confidently.

00:00 Introduction to College Recruiting

01:18 Meet Quincy Lewis-Buggs: Recruiting Expert

01:40 Key Considerations for Starting the Recruiting Process

02:37 Letting Athletes Lead the Process

03:23 The Role of Parents in the Recruiting Journey

04:39 Practicing the Process: Early Steps for Young Athletes

05:40 Understanding Different College Levels and Experiences

09:41 Taking Feedback and Showing Coachability

12:10 Evaluating Advice and Building a Support System

16:49 Final Thoughts and Words of Wisdom

18:43 Discussion Questions and Wrap-Up

Find the Future First, Softball Second Podcast here: https://www.diamonddynamics.org/podcast.html

Discussion questions:

• “Do you really want to play in college — or does it feel like someone else wants it more than you do?” -Opens up honest dialogue about motivation and ownership of the journey.
• “If a college coach gave you feedback today — would you be able to take it and grow, or would it shut you down?”- Helps athletes evaluate their coachability and mindset around constructive criticism.
• “Who’s in your support system vs. your inner circle when it comes to making big decisions?” - Encourages thoughtful separation of emotional support from expert guidance.
• “What does your ideal college experience look like — not just softball, but your life outside the game?” - Shifts focus from just chasing a label (D1, D2, etc.) to defining personal success.

Thanks for joining me on Confident, Calm, and Clutch Car Ride Conversations! If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe to the podcast so you never miss a moment. Share it with other parents or coaches who could use a little extra inspiration on the go.

For exclusive tips, tools, and updates join my newsletter at www.confidentcalmclutch.com/newsletter

For more specific tips on building mental toughness, buy my book Confident, Calm and Clutch: How to build confidence and mental toughness for young athletes using sports psychology

Parents join my Facebook group to Help Your Athlete Gain Mental Toughness for Parents

Have an idea for a topic? Submit your idea here.

Questions? Comments? Ideas? Email me: valerie.alston@valstoncoaching.com

Follow Me on:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/valstoncoaching

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/valstoncoaching

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@valstoncoaching9666

In this episode of Car Ride Conversations, host Valerie Alston is joined by Quincy Lewis-Buggs from Diamond Dynamics to discuss what it truly takes to play college softball. They break down common misconceptions families have about college recruiting, the importance of versatility, and the realities of playing at the collegiate level. Quincy offers invaluable advice on building independence and preparing for the increased competition and responsibilities of college life. This episode is a must-listen for aspiring athletes and their parents who are navigating the college recruiting process. Listen in for practical tips and meaningful dialogue designed to foster resilience and confidence both on and off the field.

00:00 Introduction: The Realities of College Softball

01:16 Meet Quincy Lewis-Buggs: Softball Powerhouse

02:00 The Harsh Realities of College Athletics

04:34 Versatility: The Key to Success

12:24 The Importance of Independence and Life Skills

17:41 Discussion Questions for Athletes and Parents

19:47 Conclusion and Next Steps

Find the Future First, Softball Second Podcast here: https://www.diamonddynamics.org/podcast.html

Discussion questions:

• "If you got to college tomorrow, what part of being a student-athlete do you think would be hardest for you — and why?"
• "How would you feel if you didn’t start right away in college — what would you do about it?"
• "What are 2 or 3 other positions you think you could learn to play well — and how could you start practicing that now?"
• "What’s one ‘adulting’ skill you could start taking responsibility for this season to be more ready for college?"

Thanks for joining me on Confident, Calm, and Clutch Car Ride Conversations! If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe to the podcast so you never miss a moment. Share it with other parents or coaches who could use a little extra inspiration on the go.

For exclusive tips, tools, and updates join my newsletter at www.confidentcalmclutch.com/newsletter

For more specific tips on building mental toughness, buy my book Confident, Calm and Clutch: How to build confidence and mental toughness for young athletes using sports psychology

Parents join my Facebook group to Help Your Athlete Gain Mental Toughness for Parents

Have an idea for a topic? Submit your idea here.

Questions? Comments? Ideas? Email me: valerie.alston@valstoncoaching.com

Follow Me on:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/valstoncoaching

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/valstoncoaching

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@valstoncoaching9666

In this episode of Car Ride Conversations, host Valerie Alston offers listeners an exclusive sneak peek into her new children's book, 'One Pitch At A Time'. The story revolves around young Valerie Stark as she navigates challenges of identity and injury, while discovering her love for fast-pitch softball. This preview highlights Valerie's encounters with a new sport, showcasing themes of resilience and friendship. Available for free on Kindle from May 15th to 19th, 2025, fans are encouraged to download, enjoy, and leave an honest review. The episode also includes a discussion section to spark meaningful conversations about courage, confidence, and the decision-making journey of young athletes.

00:00 Welcome to Car Ride Conversations

00:09 Introducing 'One Pitch At A Time'

02:02 Exclusive Sneak Peek: The Soccer Game

02:52 Valerie's Softball Discovery

05:18 Meeting Coach Ray and the Team

08:25 Valerie's Decision and Family Support

11:35 Doctor's Visit and New Beginnings

14:20 Final Thoughts and Call to Action

Discussion questions:

1: “What helped Valerie be brave enough to throw that ball and join the practice, even though she didn’t know anyone and had her eye patch on?”

Why it matters:

This question invites kids to analyze courage in action — not the absence of fear, but the choice to act despite it. It helps them see that confidence isn’t something you wait for — it’s something you build through action. Parents can also share times they felt nervous but took a step forward anyway, creating a moment of mutual vulnerability.

2: “Have you ever worried people might make fun of you like Valerie did? What helped you feel better — or what do you think would help next time?”

Why it matters:

This opens up space for conversations about self-image, peer pressure, and emotional resilience. Kids often carry fears silently, and hearing a parent affirm that it's okay to feel that way — and that those feelings can be managed — builds trust and inner strength. It also offers parents a glimpse into their child’s social world.

3: “Why do you think Valerie decided to switch from baseball to softball — and what can we learn from her decision?”

Why it matters:

This frames change as a form of growth, not failure. Mental toughness often means adjusting to new paths instead of rigidly sticking to one plan. Valerie’s choice shows adaptability, a key psychological skill. Parents and kids can reflect on moments where being open to change led to a better outcome.

For a FREE pdf copy of One Pitch At A Time plus the bonuses mentioned in the episode got to: https://www.confidentcalmclutch.com/one-pitch-at-a-time-prelaunch

You can also go straight to Amazon by following this link: https://amzn.to/3BhKqeA

Thanks for joining me on Confident, Calm, and Clutch Car Ride Conversations! If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe to the podcast so you never miss a moment. Share it with other parents or coaches who could use a little extra inspiration on the go.

For exclusive tips, tools, and updates join my newsletter at www.confidentcalmclutch.com/newsletter

For more specific tips on building mental toughness, buy my book Confident, Calm and Clutch: How to build confidence and...

In this episode of 'Confident Calm Clutch Car Ride Conversations,' host Valerie Alston delves into Shedeur Sanders' surprising slide to the fifth round of the 2025 NFL draft, offering lessons for young athletes and their parents. Despite being a once-projected top 10 pick, Sanders was selected by the Cleveland Browns in the fifth round, sparking discussions on humility, resilience, and character. The episode highlights the importance of preparation, managing public perception, maintaining composure, and having a robust support system. Alston provides actionable insights and conversation prompts aimed at improving mental toughness, confidence, and personal growth for aspiring athletes.

00:00 Introduction to Shedeur Sanders' NFL Draft Journey

01:30 Lessons in Humility and Preparation

05:15 The Importance of Resilience

06:40 Character and Teamwork Beyond Performance

08:04 Managing Public Perception

09:47 The Value of Support Systems

13:00 Conversation Prompts and Closing Remarks

Discussion questions:

1. Shedeur Sanders was projected as a top pick but fell to the fifth round. How do you think he felt during that experience, and how might you handle unexpected setbacks in your own life?

2. How can you differentiate between being confident and being humble, and why is that distinction important?

3. After being drafted, Sanders expressed gratitude and a desire to prove himself. How can adopting a mindset of gratitude and determination help you grow, even when things don't go as planned?

4. What steps can you take to ensure you're not only skilled but also prepared and respectful in your endeavors?"

Thanks for joining me on Confident, Calm, and Clutch Car Ride Conversations! If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe to the podcast so you never miss a moment. Share it with other parents or coaches who could use a little extra inspiration on the go.

For exclusive tips, tools, and updates join my newsletter at www.confidentcalmclutch.com/newsletter

For more specific tips on building mental toughness, buy my book Confident, Calm and Clutch: How to build confidence and mental toughness for young athletes using sports psychology

Parents join my Facebook group to Help Your Athlete Gain Mental Toughness for Parents

Have an idea for a topic? Submit your idea here.

Questions? Comments? Ideas? Email me: valerie.alston@valstoncoaching.com

Follow Me on:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/valstoncoaching

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/valstoncoaching

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@valstoncoaching9666

Building Strong Relationships with 'Would You Rather?' Conversations

In this episode of 'Confident Calm and Clutch Car Ride Conversations,' host Valerie Alston introduces a fun and engaging way for parents and young athletes to build stronger relationships through conversation. The episode features a game of 'Would You Rather?' with a mix of silly, sport-related, and meaningful questions designed to spark laughter, curiosity, and connection. Valerie shares personal anecdotes and advice on the importance of spending time together and having open communication. Tune in for a delightful car ride conversation that fosters mental toughness, resilience, and confidence.

00:00 Introduction to Building Relationships Through Conversation

00:50 Inspiration Behind the Episode

02:04 Setting the Stage for 'Would You Rather?'

02:39 Diving into 'Would You Rather?' Questions

08:03 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

08:20 Closing Remarks and Call to Action

Discussion questions:

• Would you rather always play in slow motion or always play with cartoon sound effects in the background?
• Would you rather have your parent cheer loudly at every game or silently support you from the back row?
• Would you rather get honest feedback that helps you grow or endless praise that feels good in the moment?
• Would you rather have to sing everything you say for a whole day or dance everywhere you go?
• Would you rather be able to teleport anywhere or be able to talk to animals?
• Would you rather win the championship but play your worst game, or lose in the first round but play your absolute best?
• Would you rather relive your best sports moment or go back and redo your toughest one with what you know now?
• Would you rather have a pet dragon or a pet unicorn?

Thanks for joining me on Confident, Calm, and Clutch Car Ride Conversations! If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe to the podcast so you never miss a moment. Share it with other parents or coaches who could use a little extra inspiration on the go.

For exclusive tips, tools, and updates join my newsletter at www.confidentcalmclutch.com/newsletter

For more specific tips on building mental toughness, buy my book Confident, Calm and Clutch: How to build confidence and mental toughness for young athletes using sports psychology

Parents join my Facebook group to Help Your Athlete Gain Mental Toughness for Parents

Have an idea for a topic? Submit your idea here.

Questions? Comments? Ideas? Email me: valerie.alston@valstoncoaching.com

Follow Me on:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/valstoncoaching

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/valstoncoaching

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@valstoncoaching9666

In this episode of 'Confident Calm Clutch Car Ride Conversations,' host Valerie Alston delves into Rory McIlroy's triumphant win at the 2025 Masters, which completed his career Grand Slam. The discussion highlights McIlroy's mental resilience and the five key strategies he used to overcome adversity: embracing the worst-case scenario, staying present, using positive self-talk and support, maintaining focus through a game plan, and keeping perspective. Alston encourages parents and young athletes to adopt these strategies to build mental toughness, resilience, and confidence both in sports and everyday life. The episode also includes discussion questions to spark meaningful dialogue during car rides.

00:00 Rory McIlroy's Historic Masters Victory

00:34 Introduction to Mental Strategies

02:59 Embracing the Worst Case Scenario

06:05 Staying Present and Focused

07:30 Positive Self-Talk and Support

08:40 Following a Game Plan

10:22 Maintaining Perspective

12:11 Discussion Questions and Wrap-Up

Discussion questions:

1. "How do you remind yourself that sports are just one part of your life, not the whole picture?"

2. "Can you think of a time when focusing too much on winning took away from the fun of the game?"

3. "What do you enjoy most about playing your sport, regardless of the outcome?"

Golf Channel Interview with Rory: https://youtu.be/nJnewVf8AK8?si=jHd0pOx-af5X7qk_

His post Game press conference is gold!! Watch here: https://youtu.be/hx-0OtBswEQ?si=p_1KGqJiO2zYgf0o

Pay particular attention to:

• 10:10- 11:38 - Nerves are normal, stay present
• 17:13 - 18:00 Regrouping and Reframing
• 24:14 - 25:06 Perspective

Thanks for joining me on Confident, Calm, and Clutch Car Ride Conversations! If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe to the podcast so you never miss a moment. Share it with other parents or coaches who could use a little extra inspiration on the go.

For exclusive tips, tools, and updates join my newsletter at www.confidentcalmclutch.com/newsletter

For more specific tips on building mental toughness, buy my book Confident, Calm and Clutch: How to build confidence and mental toughness for young athletes using sports psychology

Parents join my facebook group: here

Have an idea for a topic? Submit your idea here.

Questions? Comments? Ideas? Message me: valerie.alston@valstoncoaching.com

Follow Me on Facebook / Instagram @valstoncoaching

Watch episodes and other content on Youtube @valstoncoaching9666