You’ve probably heard things like “never go to bed angry” or “fighting is bad” and assumed they were gold-standard advice for a healthy relationship. But here’s the truth—some of the most popular relationship tips are actually doing more harm than good.

In this episode of Build to Love, I’m unpacking four of the most common myths that keep couples stuck, confused, and questioning their connection. These outdated beliefs can create unrealistic expectations and make you feel like you’re doing something wrong—when in reality, you’re just navigating what it really means to grow in partnership.

I’m sharing what’s actually true about conflict, communication, support, and long-term love—and giving you the tools to create a relationship that’s more grounded, connected, and resilient.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why going to bed angry might be the healthier choice
• How fighting (when done well) is a sign of a strong relationship
• Why waiting for a crisis to seek support can slow your growth
• The real reason relationships aren’t supposed to feel “easy” all the time
• How to shift your mindset to build love that truly lasts

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Keep having the same fight on repeat? You’re not alone—and you’re not stuck. In this episode, I’m walking you through the 3 pillars of my Built to Last method to help you stop the cycle of conflict, communicate more clearly, and feel deeply connected again. These are the exact tools that changed my own relationship and now help my clients create love that actually lasts.

What you’ll walk away with:

• Why small fights can feel so big

• How to stop arguments before they spiral

• How to reconnect emotionally and physically

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Arguments are a part of every relationship—but they don’t have to pull you apart. In this episode, I’ll talk about why conflict is normal, how to handle it better, and how to use it to grow closer with your partner. I’ll share simple ways to shift how you respond during fights, improve your communication, and turn arguments into moments for growth.

What you’ll walk away with:

• How to stop fights from spiraling and stay connected
• Why arguments can actually help you grow together
• Easy steps to improve understanding and communication during tough talks

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I’d love to hear from you—let me know what resonated, what surprised you, or any topics you'd love me to cover in future episodes. Reach out to me on Instagram@alexagelles!