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Our unwanted behaviors don’t come from nowhere. In this episode, Sean and Dayne unpack how childhood wounds, emotional neglect, abuse, and unmet needs lay the groundwork for compulsive sexual behavior and addiction. We explore how triggers are often echoes of unhealed pain—and why healing doesn’t mean living in the past, but learning not to be controlled by it. This is a raw and honest look at the stories that shaped us—and how grace, truth, and brotherhood can help us rewrite them.

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In this episode, Sean and Dayne go deeper into a hard but necessary truth: there’s no such thing as “safe” porn—because porn isn’t just videos or websites. For those in recovery, porn includes anything that fuels sexual fantasy, lust, or escapism. Whether it's a “quick scroll,” a steamy scene, or a moment of mental indulgence, it all weakens the integrity we're fighting to rebuild. We speak directly to those who already know porn is not okay but keep relapsing by holding onto loopholes and blurred lines. If you’ve ever justified “just this once” or “it’s not really porn,” this conversation is for you. No shame—just honesty, clarity, and a path forward.

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In this raw and honest episode, Sean is joined by guest co-host John to dive deep into the war raging inside the addicted brain — a war fueled by hijacked dopamine pathways. Drawing from Dopamine Nation and their own brutal recovery journeys, they expose how the endless chase for easy pleasure leaves men empty, numb, and enslaved.

This is a wake-up call for anyone stuck in the cycle: your brain isn't broken — it's been hijacked. It's time to fight for something real again.

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In this raw and emotionally charged episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, Sean and Dayne dive deep into the dark spiral of the novelty effect of porn—how the pursuit of something “new” quickly becomes a trap. With brutal honesty, Sean shares how his addiction pushed him further into genres he never imagined, chasing a dopamine high that was never enough. What started as “curiosity” became compulsion, even distorting his sense of sexual identity and desire. Together, Sean and Dayne confront how this craving for novelty chipped away at their integrity, identity, and relationships. Sean powerfully declares that porn doesn’t deserve to be called “novel” at all—it’s deceptive, corrosive, and enslaving. This episode is a gut-check for anyone wondering where the road of unchecked consumption can really lead.

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In this episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, Sean and Dayne dive deep into a tough but crucial question: Does an addict have integrity? Joined by their accountability brother Gaines, they wrestle with the true meaning of integrity—how it shaped their lives, how addiction distorted it, and the painful reality of recognizing where they fell short.

They explore the emotional weight of not living up to their own expectations, the strain on their relationships, and the disconnect between their actions and their values—especially as husbands, fathers, and men of faith. But beyond the pain, they also discuss the hope of rebuilding integrity in recovery, striving to become the men they were meant to be.

Raw, real, and unfiltered—this is a conversation every addict in recovery needs to hear. Tune in now.

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In this thought-provoking episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, co-hosts Sean and Dayne, along with their accountability brother John, dive deep into the raw and complex narrative of Beautiful Boy — the gripping story of addiction and family struggle captured in the acclaimed book and film.

Together, they explore the parallels between Nick’s journey and their own experiences with addiction recovery, asking challenging questions about family dynamics, personal responsibility, and the often-overlooked impact of addiction on loved ones. How do past experiences of parents, like Nick’s father experimenting with drugs, influence the course of addiction for future generations? Does a lack of stability in the home play a deeper role than we often consider? And do we show more grace toward those struggling with chemical dependencies than those facing sexual addiction?

By examining key characters and pivotal moments, Sean, Dayne, and John consider how their own growth in recovery would shape their perception of Beautiful Boy today. They reflect on the themes of connection, the desire to belong, and the pain of feeling “homeless” — a cycle familiar to those trapped in addiction.

Tune in for an honest and vulnerable conversation that goes beyond the surface, offering insights not only for those in recovery but also for the families and friends who walk alongside them.

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In this thought-provoking episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, cohosts Dayne and Sean dive into the complex question: Is addiction a simple choice? The two engage in a heartfelt debate, unpacking how this question has shaped their own recovery journeys.

Dayne wrestles with the tension between not wanting to victimize his struggles while also acknowledging how powerless he has felt at times. He shares how this year marks the first in 30 years that addiction hasn't owned him — raising the question: was there a choice involved in breaking free, or was something deeper at play?

Sean opens up about the painful paradox of recovery — how greater clarity brings greater pain, and how that pain forces him to confront the nature of his own choices. Together, they reflect on the early moments of their addiction — was watching porn or masturbating for the first time truly a choice? And if it was, does that even matter now?

Through raw vulnerability and honest disagreement, Dayne and Sean explore the relationship between choice, accountability, and the disease model of addiction. Whether you're in recovery yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode invites you to wrestle with the nuanced reality of addiction — where willpower, pain, and grace all collide.

Listen in as they ask the hard questions without easy answers — because sometimes the most healing conversations are the ones we can't tie up in a neat bow.

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In this thought-provoking episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, Sean and Dayne go head-to-head in a deep and honest debate: Should sobriety define who you are? Or is it just a part of your journey—not your identity?

Some say sobriety is the foundation of healing, the proof of real change. Others argue that making it your identity can be a dangerous trap—what happens when you relapse? Does that mean you've lost yourself? If you’re not "sober enough," does that mean you’re not recovering?

Sean and Dayne take different stances, pushing each other—and you—to critically examine your relationship with sobriety. They reflect on how their perspectives have shifted after a year of committed recovery. Sean shares why he fought against letting relapse define him, while Dayne questions whether avoiding that definition makes it harder to stay accountable.

• Can sobriety be a core part of who you are without it becoming a burden?
• If we don’t let sobriety define us, are we leaving the door open to return to old patterns?
• Is sobriety the key to reclaiming our true selves, rather than something that restricts us?
• How do we hold onto the passion for recovery when setbacks happen?
• Are you more than your sobriety, or is that a risky mindset?

Join the debate and reflect on what sobriety means for you. Does it define you? Should it?

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