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This episode is a rerun of humorous suggestions of how to deal with family during the holidays. It gives a number of tongue-in -cheek and whipped-cream-in-mouth ways to deal with a dysfunctional family at the holidays... or really, anytime.

Sometimes a little humor and perspective around the holidays is called for. I know it was for me.

Have a beautiful holiday season.
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Script:

Hi this is Jill Badonsky and this is a special episode of a Muse’s daydream.. reality version because it’s the holidays and holidays can be tough if you choose to spend it with a dysfunctional family. So this is; Dysfunctional Family Survival Guide for the Holidays

If you regress as soon as a family member gives you a funny look, if you’ve ever been known to throw mashed potatoes across the table when a food fight wasn’t on the agenda. If you think every year THIS will finally be the one where you will be the change you want to be but instead you turn into the gravy you want to see on the turkey

Here are a few creative survival tips gathered from extensive studies from the Muse is In laboratories where empirical results were extracted from millions of subjects all over the world.. I it made up.. I forget which.

1. Pretend like you are spending the holiday with the family of a friend of yours instead of your own family . It can entertaining, provide distance and perhaps even seem entertaining. Or along the same lines, make believe you are observing the sequel to August: Osage County. Remember the one where Julia Roberts repeatedly tosses the f-bomb at the pitiful mother, Meryl Streep. Just compare your family to that and if it’s worse, never mind.
You could try wearing a disguise, you know one of those glasses with the big noses – but you must do it with a straight face.

2. Whenever a family member pushes one of, you know, those BUTTONS, saying THAT THING or behaving THAT WAY THAT MAKES YOU CRAZY and making you FORGET EVERY GAIN YOU'VE PAID FOR IN YEARS AND YEARS and YEARS of THERAPY, have an automatic response ready. Suggestions:

A. Say to yourself, "Well, bless their heart!" (Southern accents are particularly helpful here.).

B. Think to yourself, "My bodyguard will be here in a minute." Imagine handing your feelings over to your bodyguard and payIng no mind to the offending party - cuz things are taken care of.

C. If you can't avoid incoming verbal torment, just brush it off your body as if it were cat hair, cookie crumbs, or gnats. (Use a lint roller for special effect and even wave it while the offending party is talking as if catching the debri before it lands on your mild demeanor).

D. While they pushing all your sensitive buttons , stare just above their eyes in the middle of their forehead with a blank expression on your face. Stay in that position no less than 15 minutes after they've finished.

E. When they are speaking, DUCK down as if allowing their ver

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Hi...

I'm back with the podcast to be a catalyst for creative escape and inspiration. If you're still listening, I'm grateful. I'm not a consistent person except in the department of creativity. RIght now, we need it more than ever. May this poem and the accompanying music and effects lend some calm and motivation to do your own art and writing.

It's a great time to be trained as a creativity coach not only to take your own creativity deeper, but to be a lighthouse for others searching for that shore.
`Jill Badonsky

Narration

I held blue captive yesterday in a large plastic tub from Target.
The sky went white, the ocean orange, the blue jay red.
I took blue out and wrapped it around me to feel how blue could feel.
I felt the history of the sky.
I knew its gravity, its view, its preoccupations, its ubiquity.
I knew its limitlessness. Its grasp of orbit.

I tasted blue, it tasted grape.
It smelled of delphinium and pie and the sea.
I spun it in the air, blue turned to cadmium, azure, denim, satin, velvet.
It turned green in the sun's yellow and midnight as the moon turned its back.

Then I set blue free.
It seeped out of the tub, out my door and in grand ceremony, at once filled bird and sky and ocean and …

songs about loves lost.

And then I wrote this:

Sometimes I feel like I’m held captive -

Then I remember if I want I can seep of out my tub, out the door and in grand ceremony, fill the sky, like blue. A lot like poetry and prose and art, music and dance and then maybe have some pie. And so can you. Ruthlessly dedicate yourself to your passion.

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The Muse's Daydream is back. I've been spending time working on a card of decks... no wait, a deck of cards. I explain about them, read two of them, and invite you to buy a deck in case you want creativity to be easier for you. Also a Zoom workshop is included as part of the purchase.

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