Hi there! How was your week?

Welcome back to our podcast! Today, we’re continuing our series on the classic book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey.

Let’s jump into

7.Think Win-Win.

Everyone Can Be a Winner

This habit is all about relationships and working with others. The main idea is simple: in the long run, the healthiest and most effective relationships are those where both sides benefit.

Win-Win thinking means: “I win, and you win too.”It’s not “I win, you lose,” or “I lose so you can win.” Instead, we work together to find a solution that both of us feel good about.

So how can we actually practice Win-Win thinking?

When you’re in a disagreement, try asking: “Is there a solution we can both live with?”

Instead of fighting or giving in, take time to listen deeply and understand the other person’s needs. That’s the only way to come up with a true Win-Win outcome.

Win-Win isn’t just a negotiation trick—it’s a whole way of relating to people based on integrity, respect, and mutual benefit. It builds relationships that last.

Now, let’s move on to

8.Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood.

This is one of my favorite habits—it’s all about communication.

Covey points out that most people don’t really listen—they just wait for their turn to talk. We often jump in with advice, judgment, or our own stories before the other person even finishes. True listening isn’t just about ears—it’s about your heart.

Empathic listening is powerful. Instead of giving answers right away, you ask questions, rephrase what you heard, and check in on their emotions. You let them know: “I hear you. I really get where you’re coming from.”

Why is this so important? Because feeling truly understood is one of our deepest emotional needs. Once someone feels heard, they let their guard down. They trust you more. And they become more open to your thoughts and ideas.

Covey says effective communication is a two-step process: First, understand the other person—their feelings, their needs, their story. Then, express yourself clearly and calmly. Because now, there’s trust.

Here’s a great example Covey gives: Imagine you go to the eye doctor, and before you can even explain your problem, they just hand you their glasses and say, “Here, try these. They worked for me!” Sounds ridiculous, right?

That’s what we do when we jump in with advice before understanding the real issue. It’s like giving the wrong medicine—it can do more harm than good.

Avoid saying things like, “I know exactly what you mean—you should just…” Instead, say something like, “It sounds like you feel stuck, because you don’t feel supported. Is that how it feels to you?”

Also, create a safe space—don’t judge or correct. Just listen. Once they feel understood, then it’s your turn to speak—with kindness and clarity, not blame.

When you do this with your family, you’ll understand your spouse or child’s real emotions. At work, you’ll understand what your team actually needs—so you can lead better.

Listening is a superpower. It builds trust. It helps you understand people better. It helps you solve problems more wisely—and sparks creativity by letting new ideas flow from different perspectives.

So remember: “Seek first to understand, then to be understood.”It’s not just a technique—it’s a way of showing love, wisdom, and emotional intelligence.

And that brings us to the end of today’s episode. What did you take away from today’s message? I hope you’ll take some time to practice Win-Win thinking and empathic listening this week!

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Wishing you a joyful and meaningful week ahead—stay safe and take care.

See you next time!