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 When you’re the one who always has it handled, the reward is often…more responsibility. In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton unpack the concept of weaponized competence (Amazon Affiliate)—how being highly capable as a first responder (and at home) can quietly lead to burnout, resentment, and imbalance in your relationships. 🔎 Episode Overview: It starts out as pride—you’re the reliable one. The problem-solver. The one who just gets it done. But over time, that competence gets used against you, especially when no one else is expected to step up. This episode explores how being too good at everything—on the job and in your personal life—can result in emotional overload, frustration, and the feeling that you’re carrying everyone else’s weight without recognition. 🚨 5 Signs You’re Dealing with Weaponized Competence 1. You’re the Default Go-To for Everything Example: At work, you get asked to handle reports, run point on incidents, or train the new guy—every time. Impact: You become the fallback plan, which leads to exhaustion and lack of boundaries. 2. Others Stop Offering to Help Example: Your spouse or coworkers assume you’ll just “take care of it” because you always do. Impact: It reinforces the cycle and trains others not to step up. 3. You’re Expected to Be Emotionally Steady—Even When You’re Not Example: People come to you in crisis, but don’t ask how you’re doing. Impact: Creates emotional isolation and makes it harder to be vulnerable. 4. Delegating Feels Risky Example: You don’t ask for help because others don’t do it “right,” or it’s more work to explain it. Impact: Reinforces perfectionism and stops you from building real teamwork. 5. Resentment Creeps In—Silently Example: You begin to feel bitter about doing everything, but struggle to express it without sounding ungrateful. Impact: Internal resentment builds and eventually leads to burnout or blowups. 🛠️ How to Break the Cycle and Reclaim Balance 1. Acknowledge the Pattern Without Shame Recognizing that you’ve trained others to expect this from you isn’t a weakness—it’s awareness. It’s the first step to change. 2. Practice Saying “Not This Time” You don’t have to go from yes to no overnight. Start with “I can’t take that on right now” and let others rise to the occasion. 3. Reassign Responsibility at Home Create small systems that allow others (including your kids) to own tasks. Shared calendars, chore charts, or prep days can ease the burden. 4. Be Honest About Your Capacity Tell your coworkers, admin, or spouse how much you’re juggling. You might be surprised how willing people are to step in—once you step back. 5. Celebrate Imperfection Letting go of the “I do it best” mindset creates room for others to learn, fail, and grow. That’s leadership. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters In a world that praises being the dependable one, it’s easy to let your own needs fall to the bottom of the list. But competence shouldn’t come at the cost of your peace, your health, or your relationships. 🎙️ Listen now to learn how to keep being excellent—without being exploited. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX – Buy One, Get One Free 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families 🎥 Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → Click here (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: ashliewalton555@gmail.com 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: facebook.com/police.fire.lawenforcement
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