Helen Blicharz

It seems that Alex is always considering how Tineka feels and not vice verse.

Revisado: 02-01-24

I’m an a African American woman and my husband is European we have three children, two white and one biracial. I really enjoyed the book. I must say that it felt like Alex was always careful what he said in living on pins and needles not to offend his wife. I have been to a lot of countries with my husband throughout the years with our travels, and I think the way that Tineka was looking at these things were more pessimistic. The reason I say that is because like Poland for instance, they really have never seen many African-Americans except on TV so when traveling, I was asked to take many pictures, and I totally understood it as it was something new to the people actually, I embraced it, and I loved it so much, what I am saying and the reason I’m leaving this review is because I believe that both people in the relationship need to be open minded not just one. I don’t like to play the victim as an African-American woman and I do not teach my children to do that. I believe in the incident with the 70-year-old British lady on the train. It could have totally been avoided by simply not saying anything saying something to her did nothing, it did not make you feel better or anything, so sometimes silence is golden, I remember once in a movie theater with my husband I went to the restroom and an African-American guy said to me you couldn’t find any black men date and my response was priceless and I am still grateful for it today. I said nothing, I never acknowledged what he said, and that was so powerful so I say that because sometimes silence is as is powerful as a response. I do not want to be critical at all, but I must be honest cause I am an advert reader, and this is a subject that is very personal for me. I just know that we cannot continue to play the victim as you stated in your book, there is racism within our race, I know a lot of Black people that are totally racist and I do my best not to associate myself with people that are that way. I believe and I’m not sure, but if you were married to a black man, you probably wouldn’t have went to all of those places around the world, because maybe it might’ve not been an interest to do that not because you couldn’t on a financial level and if you thought that that’s my point exactly. My husband is European and he has no desire to go to Hungary but I think you get my point. I didn’t like that Alex is always trying to find a way to defend you or make you feel better, he has no control over his privilege just like you have no control over your Dis privilege. Note I will say that I am a very spiritual person and that has a lot to do with my point of view because I believe in a higher power it helps me to combat any issues that I may face even racial. However life is too short for me to concentrate so much on that one component and maybe just maybe when you all have children, you will see things different. Life is just not about one person in the marriage and how they feel and making them feel comfortable it is a union. With that being said, overall, I did really enjoy the book. It is a conversation that I have shared with many people and it is a good topic I thank you both for taking the time to give us your opinion and your insight on this topic, and I wish you the best in your relationship, and with all of your future endeavors. May God bless you with a lot more chapters to write of your story😍

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Good family love story

Revisado: 06-25-22

Great story and great ending. I went through it quickly and easy listening. Love the readers great expression

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