Marty Erickson

The severity of the attention economy

Revisado: 04-05-25

Great read and well read by the author. I don’t love his ideas for regulatory alternatives at the end, I recognize the deep need for something to intervene, but I love that Chris is pointing out and pointing to the problems of the attention economy in stark relief. It also has many brief primers on economics, capitalism, Marxism, etc. so I believe this is a fantastic book and a must read for High School or college/university students.

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The most important history scholarship on patriarchy

Revisado: 03-15-25

Wish I would’ve read it when it was brand new when I was 18. I’ve been involved in feminist and social justice informed psychotherapy for close to 30 years but I had missed ever reading this though I saw it fairly often referenced. I’m male cisgender heterosexual. I did not have a full grasp historically of the creation of patriarchy and this filled in many blank spots and misunderstandings I had and I realized the incredibly vast position of patriarchy throughout most of the world’s history. Seems absolutely fundamental reading in the entire canon of: Feminism, Women’s Studies/Gender Studies, History, Cultural Studies. This seems foundational to almost everything in terms of history, culture, politics, economics, sociology, family science. I would go as far to say that this should be required reading in any academic general education for any discipline and therefore required reading in college general education for all students.

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Great explicating the problem with research. Note the reviews!

Revisado: 02-01-25

I read this after I read bell hooks The will to change: Men masculinity and love. Prescient how hooks 20-year-old book now has a lot of research backing most but not all of her claims. I think I’ve been changed intellectually and ethically with the problem that O Boys and men is explicating defining and giving research to. I was not fully understanding what is going on boys and men’s mainstream hegemonic culture. I’m a white cisgender heterosexual man 56 PhD licensed marriage therapist and my work has been characterized by feminist, social justice informed theory intervention and praxis. This book dramatically highlights the problem with a lot of research to back it up. It’s begging for research policy critical awareness, cultural awareness to figure out how to address it all effectively. The book is fairly feminist informed, but could be much more so in my opinion. It’s my sense that feminist masculinity as defined by books and other similar approaches to masculinity from a strong justice perspective is the only hope for theory policy praxis and action.
Make sure you read the core critiques of this book from other readers here and on Goodreads.

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Likely the most important feminist book I’ve ever read

Revisado: 01-04-25

I’ve read bell hooks for years primarily articles and lectures, and quotes of hers in various academic publications. And I had read a couple books of hers many years ago. I’m 56, PhD in Couple of Family Therapy, been working as a therapist for 26 years, I’m cis het male. I do feminist, social justice informed work. So I had heard many good things about The Will to Change, and finally read it. So glad I did! I honestly believe this book sets the activism standard for feminist masculinity: details possibilities hope and call for the way forward. Others have developed on these ideas, but sadly there’s still not nearly the culture wide movement toward development of most healthy masculinity.

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The incisive heart wrenching despair of the American experience

Revisado: 12-14-24

Seems to be very important reading for me 50 something white, het, cis, male, who works as a therapist and supervisor seeking to promote social justice informed therapy. Glad for this audible copy. Deeply grateful for Gaude’s brief analysis at the end in 2021 following the end of the first Trump presidency. Horrifying to read it Nov/Dec 2024 shortly before Trump’s second term.

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Beautiful musings on Love

Revisado: 11-30-24

I really like hooks definitions and explanations of love, and I loved her explanatory stories of love. I wanted to read this classic especially just after the to me very tragic re-election of Donald Trump. bell hooks words on love could potentially heal our nation. My hope will be her words will help heal me in my own personal intimate life, relationships, and communities.

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Therapist starting my own therapy and wanted to read

Revisado: 09-14-24

I’m a PhD Licensed Marriage and Family therapist. I’ve been a therapist since 1998. I had heard a lot of good things about this book, and starting my own therapy (some more in-depth long-term therapy plan than what I’ve done in the past with courses of therapy), thought I’d read this book. Really glad that I did! Funny, heartwarming, sad, wrecked me in places, insightful, well written, well performed. Very entertaining, made a big impact on me. Broke me open to some degree to some of the core themes I am focusing on in therapy. The way Lori describes being a therapist and being in therapy is unparalleled in media I think. I’ve never seen psychotherapy accurately or well displayed in any movie film TV.

I do think it’s very important for readers to understand that Lori does existential, Irving Yalom based, seemingly classical psychodynamic more depth based approach to therapy. And it sounds like primarily with privileged people.
Most all psychotherapy happening in the United States back then pre-pandemic, and today is not that. It’s simple cognitive behavioral, sometimes relational, skills based, getting through the current crisis to be able to survive, insurance based, putting out fires based, short term therapy where often the client can’t fully afford it and will likely drop out before completing, maybe 6-12 sessions total. The vast majority of people in the United States will never have the privilege of doing the kind of in-depth therapy Lori did with Wendell, and does with her patients. Nor do the vast majority of people want or expect that kind of therapy I’m sad to say. I love doing more the in-depth work like exemplified in this book and that is the work I’m doing in my therapy. I wish people had the time, resources, privilege, freedom, and clarity to see the need for and to do this deeper work.

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A unique and very helpful approach for couples/relationships.

Revisado: 08-17-24

I’m a PhD, LMFT. This is an excellent approach for couples therapy, and I’m also impressed that couples could get some very initial framing and help from reading this book together, as long as they are both very open to it, and very willing to try out, experiment with, and implement the ideas as outlined in the book. And I would guess most, perhaps the vast majority, of couples will need a therapist to help them through this process. Over the past 10 years, IFS has become one of the most popular leading approaches to individual as well as relationship, couple, family therapy work in the United States. It’s been amazing to see how popular this has become. I’ve known of the ideas for 30 years, and I think the cultural conditions of our nation and the state of relationships, couples and families is incredibly ripe for this kind of intervention.
To me, IFS is bridging, the very best of: Jungian, cognitive, narrative, systemic and relational theory. I love that IFS has social justice underpinning to it and the sociocultural explanations of couple relationships early in the book are superb. I would like to see IFS more deeply integrative of affective/emotional and somatic work.

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So far unburdening and life changing

Revisado: 07-20-24

I love encouraging, uplifting, ennobling, enlightening, inspiring ideas Such have been a big part of my whole life journey and purpose. Only some of those ideas end up having a transformative changing effect on me, my actions, especially how I think and feel about myself, and how I relate to others. So far, though still fresh, The IFS work in No Bad Parts is bringing forward a mighty impact on how I think and feel about myself, my life, my relationships, and my deep journey for wholeheartedness, compassion, understanding, love, belonging, and deep connection with the people in my life.
I have a Masters and a PhD in Couple and Family Therapy. I’ve known of Schwartz’s work since 1995. It always seemed kind of odd, esoteric, and seemed fairly rarely utilized for decades by most therapists. I definitely see how over the past 10 to 15 years IFS has become one of the most popular And most sought out modalities for therapists to be trained in and for people to be seeking in their individual couple or family therapy work. I supervise and train, new therapists, and most of them are enthralled with IFS. So I feel like quite a late entrant to the IFS world even though I’ve known about it for a long time.
Other theories that have most moved and encouraged me and led to life changing growth for me are Narrative Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy along with meditative traditions and personal practice, and Differentiation of Self ideas from Bowen, Schnarch and Finlayson-Fife, along with an undergirding of broad social justice informed therapy ideas and practices I’ve been engaged in and seeking to incorporate for decades. I was very pleasantly surprised and encouraged to see the strong social justice informed aspects of IFS, which I knew nothing of until reading No Bad Parts. I am also into broad faith crisis, faith transition and expansion, faith journey ideas from Richard Rohr, Brian McLaren, hero’s journey, liberation theologies, womanist theologies, and similar. All of these ideas are highly Resonant for me. IFS might now take some center stage in that resonance.

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Re-enchanting of my potential and my view of each human’s potential.

Revisado: 06-29-24

Critically important info for anyone contemplating: what is my potential? Historically and culturally necessary training and info for teachers coaches team leaders therapists counselors parents of all kinds. I’m a PhD Psychotherapist.

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