Patrick Dippel

Good and brave book

Revisado: 07-21-24

After over a half a decade of my own personal recovery journey from pornography addiction and adolescent/childhood abandonment, I have listened through this book no less than five times in the last year and a half. for context I have spent well over $20,000 in professional counseling therapy and retreats.

this book is very good at calling out the blatantly cruel ways that men insecurely and infantily deal with their own trauma and pain, by projecting it onto their wives or women in their lives.

I do believe that some of the realities and ways that Andrew calls out The church are 100% true and honest, and there are churches like this that are very misogynistic, there are also very healthy masculine churches as well that do not condone the mistreatment of their wives, yet lovingly encourage the women to speak up and be involved while also addressing men's mental health issues, in a proper and submissive way to God's word.

I'm sure that his experiences are very real and true, and should not be discounted, and I believe that healthy churches and healthy masculinity are what we need today in today's society, We don't need cowardly men, we already have enough of them.

I believe we have trended towards overtly feminist leaning, and bordering on complete societal disruption in an unhealthy way. I believe this is led to almost a complete flip in gender roles, and some of the things that Andrew was talking about here with men not being able to see or take accountability for their damaging actions, we now see women doing and acting the same exact way, with an inability to take accountability for their destructive actions based on facts of historical repression. two wrongs do not make a right.

And I believe that it is this entitlement for women to, from what I see, "act like men" and still have the societal benefits of softness towards women with lack of accountability. now we have all these complaints of women not being able to find good strong and providing men, because all of the men have been feminized...

Not to hyperfocus on this, but I believe it needs to be addressed. Men have really been crapped on for the last decade or more. Yes, we have hurt women and done them wrong in the past, we must be vulnerable, stand courageously, and sincerely attempt to heal and make amends with those we have wronged.

And we do not need to continually be brow beaten over the head and shamed, and as courageous and wise men, set boundaries with women and other men. no excuses need to be made for men who were just trying to survive, and with a lack of self-awareness develop destructive addictions. But I don't see any sympathy for them either. this is why men kill themselves, they get no sympathy when they are hurting. this is why it's hard for them to understand and know self-love in a healthy way, because it is never demonstrated to them.

in any case, this is a great book and worthy as a very strong checkup to anyone battling pornography addiction, narcissism, or lack of self-love.

Thank you Andrew for writing this.

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Life Changing

Revisado: 06-03-21

Craig's content is changing my life. This book will be on replay for 6months to sqeeze all the wisdom out.

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