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Long-winded but an Important Read for Bad Eaters

Revisado: 12-07-23

This author is a bad eater. She taught her kids to be bad eaters. Then, they moved to France and they were all very reluctantly forced into becoming better eaters. Then, she wrote this story, which could have been half as long and equally informative. All she would have had to do is cut out all of the content about how much interesting food disgusts her.

As an American who grew up with low income parents who exposed me to all kinds of foods, gave me few choices until I was in my preteens, and required that I have good table manners, I'm annoyed that the author characterizes her and her children's bad eating habits as particularly North American. Strikes me as just being spoiled, misinformed, and closed-minded.

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Excellent and quick listen

Revisado: 11-17-23

This book is phenomenal and the reading is well done. I listened at 1.20x speed and that was a good pace. The points are made clearly and concisely and the ideas presented all make a lot of good sense.

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I'm glad this book was short

Revisado: 11-03-23

This book was the right length for what it is. Any longer and I would have stopped before the end, but it is nicely concise considering the vast content it covers.

In its favor, accompanied with the knowledge I've gained from reading a dozen other modern parenting books, it makes a good case for the idea that there are many ways to parent, many different skills you may want to prioritize as a parent, and many opportunities to change what you're teaching. Or, as "Mother Brain" says, there are many biological redundancies for children to get what they need. This messaging does provide an important opposing view to the parenting books of the early 2000s that seem prescriptive and judgy.

Also to its credit, this book is an interesting anthropological look at parenting on a global scale. It encourages a neutral and nonjudgmental look at many methods of parenting, emphasizing the values children are taught in the society they live in.

The entire book gives examples about how parenting tactics in particular societies result in specific character traits in kids in those societies and how those tactics and traits get carried on from generation to generation. These authors would have done better to leave it at that rather than to draw their own conclusions about what that means.

In the end, the authors somehow conclude that we don't know if parenting really matters. Their conclusions come across much the same way as older generations saying "we didn't worry about lead paint and we're fine" and "we have asbestos in our house and it's never been a problem."

Also to its detriment, they make several broad sweeping and unsubstantiated claims about the field of psychology.

In summary, this is definitely not a book I would recommend. It could just as easily be used to justify really careless or even detrimental parenting as it could be to help an intense parent just relax a little.

If you want a better book to encourage less intense or less fearful parenting, try "Good Inside." This book also mentions "Bringing Up Bebe" by Pamela Druckerman which is a decent read as well.

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I'm Not Finished But Everyone Should Read This

Revisado: 09-13-23

This book is informative, well researched, and extremely important. Whether you are a parent, plan to be a parent, or never plan to parent anyone, read this book.

The reading performance, however, is terrible. She sounds like a bored robot. Read this book, but don't listen to it.

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A Good Addition to a Parenting Book Collection

Revisado: 09-03-23

If you're reading multiple parenting books, this should be on your list. If you want one parenting book to be your primary guide to parenting, this isn't it.

There are so many excellent ideas presented and they are presented well. There's also some questionable advice, such as bedtime monsters and passive aggressive question asking. Throughout the book, I found myself really appreciating the narrators humility, open-mindedness, and eagerness to learn, but I struggled with her interpretations and adaptations of certain parenting techniques she observed. I found myself often thinking that the context of her observations is more important than she believes.

There's so much of this book that will inform my parenting, but I think it's a better one-of-many type of book, not a resource that stands on its own. Highly recommend adding this to your collection of parenting books.

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Intro to Parenting Book

Revisado: 08-23-22

If you're only going to read one parenting book, this is a good one, but if you've read many, this isn't worth your time. The key points are sound and they are important things to know about kids and communication, but they aren't the novel or revolutionary ideas the authors report them to be.

The ideas are laid out in a concise and clear list that prioritizes fundamentals. The fact that it is made into an acrostic feels a bit goofy to me, but if it helps people remember, I can get behind it. The simple, list-based approach to some really key ideas is the stand out strength of this book, making it a good quick guide or primer, though it lacks the substance of many other parenting books.

The examples presented are often a bit cringe-worthy and sometimes unconsciously demonstrate the wrong way to implement the ideas. The reframing section is especially over the top.

Overall, the writing has an air of importance that induced a bit of eye rolling in my household.The authors seem quite starry eyed about "discovering" things in Denmark eventhough American educators and child psychologists have been saying these things for several decades. Once you get past the grandiose tone, this is a good quick read for a focused list of essential positive parenting habits.

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Required Reading for Future Parents

Revisado: 08-02-22

The author gives too much weight to the upper middle class, urban examples of parents in her life, creating exaggerated examples of French and American parenting perspectives.

However, the exaggeration of these viewpoints enhances their juxtaposition. It felt like there was a vast middle ground where my husband and I can find our own philosophy. Listening to this together, we found a handful of concrete techniques that we will use and several great prompts for discussion.

While Druckerman makes good efforts to be fair in her assessments, it's clear by the end of the book that she truly admires the French way and has lost impartiality. Nevertheless, she takes an effective approach, if not a journalistic one.

Personal anecdotes dominate most of 2-3 of the 13 chapters, leaving 10-11 chapters with clear points. I think my ideal would be less narrative and memoir than this. Bebe Day by Day does this, but doesn't stand alone.

Overall, this is a great resource for anyone discussing parenting, especially if you're early in the discussion of philosophy and technique.

The voices and accents were effective at keeping engagement but a bit cringe worthy.

The take that women should just accept that they'll have more of the workload of parenting shocked and offended my husband. We agreed to disregard that entirely.

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Great Book Read Robotically

Revisado: 04-15-19

Pro: The writing and the meaning! The message of this book is so important, and it's well conveyed in the writing. Clearly a very good book, well worth the read. References other materials that are worth checking out, as well.
Con: The delivery. The narration is so robotic. I stopped and started through 5 chapters, but just couldn't finish the audiobook. It sounds like Siri reading an instruction manual.

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