
The Chemistry Between Us
Love, Sex, and the Science of Attraction
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How much control do we have over love? Much less than we like to think. All that mystery, all that poetry, all those complex behaviors surrounding human bonding leading to the most life-changing decisions we’ll ever make, are unconsciously driven by a few molecules in our brains.
How does love begin? How can two strangers come to the conclusion that it would not only be pleasant to share their lives, but that they must share them? How can a man say he loves his wife, yet still cheat on her? Why do others stay in relationships even after the romance fades? How is it possible to fall in love with the “wrong” person? How do people come to have a “type”?
Physical attraction, jealousy, infidelity, mother-infant bonding - all the behaviors that so often leave us befuddled - are now being teased out of the fog of mystery thanks to today’s social neuroscience. Larry Young, one of the world’s leading experts in the field, and journalist Brian Alexander explain how those findings apply to you.
Drawing on real human stories and research from labs around the world, The Chemistry Between Us is a bold attempt to create a “grand unified theory” of love. Some of the mind-blowing insights include:
- Love can get such a grip on us because it is, literally, an addiction.
- To a woman falling in love, a man is like her baby.
- Why it’s false to say society makes gender, and how it’s possible to have the body of one gender and the brain of another.
- Why some people are more likely to cheat than others.
- Why we sometimes truly can’t resist temptation.
Young and Alexander place their revelations into historical, political, and social contexts. In the process, they touch on everything from gay marriage to why single-mother households might not be good for society. The Chemistry Between Us offers powerful insights into love, sex, gender, sexual orientation, and family life that will prove to be enlightening, controversial, and thought provoking.
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- Leslie
- 05-24-23
Excellent
Exactly what I wanted to know! This book is very informative and also entertaining... great overall
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- Beth Brand
- 06-02-15
Super Interesting
A little more technical than I thought it would be and sometimes repetitive, but overall I loved it. Gave me so much to think about as far as love, sex, and the fluidity of sexuality.
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- Bradley
- 11-10-20
Packed with information backed by solid research.
I loved it cover to cover. Very compelling and super informative. The narration is great.
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- D. Frrazier
- 07-02-15
Interesting info, but too much science at times.
Very interesting book about how our chemistry and biology help us to form bonds with others. Lots of comparisons of human behaviors to the behaviors of other animals. The book is best when it is telling stories about real people. But sometimes the book gets a bit bogged down by the details of the science. Maybe some scientist or science students will have an easier time understanding all this science, but to me the discussion often seemed like so much alphabet soup between the acronyms for various neurotransmitters and the acronyms for various parts of the brain. I almost gave up on this book a few times because of all the science, but I'm glad I stuck with it until the end.
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- Douglas
- 10-11-15
Feminists And Marxists BEWARE!!!
Another neuroscience book showing that there IS a human nature, and that it is borne of our brains and their neurotransmitters, that there ARE, in fact, traits of femininity and masculinity, and that they are borne of hormones and chemicals. This will not rest easy with the current politico-social doctrines unencumbered with cares about science or reality, but for those who wish to actually learn something about human nature and gender and how people interact with each other and why--give it a read.
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- Kelly
- 12-14-22
Riveting and Responsible, Fun!
What could otherwise be dry data is presented by the author in fun, reasoned, and responsible ways — where appropriate, reminding listeners of hypotheses and opinion. Talented, the narrator does full service to the compelling data+opinion by using intelligent inflection and speakers’ tone to make it all easy-to-listen to. And, the presentation feels charismatic, approachable, and even a bit personal. In story and narration there is respect for the listener’s intelligence and curiosity.
Highly recommend for any ‘student’ of behavior, and anyone who’s ever wondered ‘what’s the deal with my love choices?’
I’ll be listening to this again because it was that informative. Many a party has been enlivened by my ‘takeaways’ of this book’s contents!
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- Carlos M.
- 11-27-15
Astonishing
Refreshing and captivating narration,
ideas around social practices and cognitive science revealing.
Stories and examples delightful.
Truly great foundation to understand love, relationships and society.
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- Adrienne
- 07-21-18
Involved but light
This book was full of great studies and explanations. It had examples and really opened my eyes to the aspects of attraction that pull us one way or another. It was honest and unbiased.
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- Catherine
- 05-25-16
Not the best
Very reductionalist and has many themes of paternalism. Many studies cited were influenced by these factors
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